Have you ever broke up with someone but lied on the reason why?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

So I tried to tell him the truth but every time I made the attempt he would invalidate that my feelings were true. I said I didn’t think we were compatible and he would always have a rebuttal. He thought we were even though we didn’t like any of the same stuff or want to do the same things. I wanted to go out, he wanted to stay inside, Our sex drives were different, and I told him that in all fairness to him he deserved a different kind of woman. I’m a good person but that doesn’t mean I’m going to change myself to fit into his life even though he is a good person too. But he wanted to change himself to fit into mine. He was always trying to fix the problems rather than accepting them as incompatibility. He was in denial. So by the time I told him I just told him half truths about me and my mental health but I avoided talking about what he have done differently because I just didn’t see it as compatible. Actually I looked up a few articles on Google to determine if you and your partner were incompatible and we checked almost every single thing on he list. Our tastes are completely different and I just didn’t feel he was willing to accept it. I don't know why

Piper_Jackson · Accepted Answer

Absolutely, the mother of the boy I broke up with was over the moon about me. Unfortunately I wasn’t over the moon about her son. He was a huge mama’s boy and liked to be taken care of on a daily and I wasn’t about to be the girlfriend version of his mom. So I broke up with him and told him it was because I was way to busy and didn’t have time to be able to make as much time for him anymore. So it wouldn’t be fair to keep the relationship going. I went over to return his stuff expecting he would come to the door and get it but his mom opened the door and invited me inside which I tried to politely decline but she insisted. She kept talking about her son and how great he was and how he can cook and clean and do laundry, it almost like she was selling a product she was very pushy. And I made it clear that we are no longer together. And she kept insisting that way stay friends because we don’t know what the future holds. But that wasn’t the reason I broke up with him. I completely lied because no mother wants to hear the bad parts about their baby boy. And I certainly wasn’t going to burst her bubble. So I flat out lied and booked it outta there.

Cnlngler · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I lied to my ex girlfriend and told her to get out of my house because we needed time apart due to the fact that she was crazy, and that she told me that if we broke up she was gonna hurt herself.
I told her I was gonna get therapy on my own but I really just wanted her out of my house.
A few months later when she expected to return I just told her to gather her stuff and leave.
I do sometimes regret not giving it another go but I have seen her on Facebook and she still hasn't gotten her shit together years after we broke up.. I've been married for 8 years now and she still lives with her mom.

Jlegacy · Accepted Answer

I haven't lied outrightly but I hate discussing why I broke up with girls. All my ten relationships, I did the breaking up and most times the reason, although genuine, might sound wicked or harsh to the girl who is asking. So most times I downplayed it a bit.

lilyanony1 · Answer

I was hanging on to a guy I never should have dated to begin with. I was brought up one way. Then I made friends with some girls within my racial background. They helped me to be more like my people. That's how I was able to date him.
He liked me, and at first he appreciated what made me different. But when my differences influenced him and made him feel distant from his friends and family. He shut me out.
He wanted to date me but he started to get really controlling and oppressive.
He was trying to change me to be exactly as he deemed acceptable.

It was crushing me and preventing me from being who I truly am.

I told him the bulk of the truth, but I told him one thing I knew would cause him to stay away forever. I am ashamed for doing this but I needed to ensure we would never reconnect again. We'd been on again and off again for far too long.

Ruining each others lives.

I'm not proud of myself but he was delaying us because he knew deep down I wasn't the one. And I was hanging on simply because well noone else wants me.

JuicySolids · Answer

Of course. Who hasn't? No one wants to hurt someone's feelings if they don't have to. Its happened to me too.

Nomina · Answer

I have. I honestly couldn't tell him that I was bored with him. It really wasn't him. I was insanely immature then and he actually turned out to be a "one that got away" type.

NawfZumbi · Answer

I told a girl I had 3 days left to live in middle school. She was telling everyone around school we were getting married after our first date. I felt bad but at that age (13) I felt a lot of pressure and anxiety behind people coming up and congratulating or teasing me on the marriage. We never talked about that at all. She jumped the gun big time off of a movie and one kiss

ShadezMcgee · Answer

No, never. When I was broken up with in the past I was fortunate to hear the "it's not you, it's me," dong and pony bullshit lie. The women that did that were at least kind enough to be upfront.

WowwGirl · Answer

"it's me not you" never I'm dying or anything. Because men crying or whining makes me uncomfortable.

electromagnetic · Answer

Never had a reason to lie. They probably needed to know why I was dumping them in the first place.

19magic · Answer

Normmally I just make myself out to be a really shit person and he breaks up with me, done deal and no harsh feelings.

Anonymous · Answer

I tried that with a girl karate class excuse I gave her was worse than the actual reason chased me into the boys locker room they had to push her out 30 years later she still mad at me do not piss off a Puerto Rican man just don't do it. I'm glad I did not give her one of those.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Who didn't i lie to during breakup? I try not to hurt feelings so i try to come up with a bs reason to end it. They catch on and then we go at it like wild cats and i tell the hoe like it is. Then we block eachother and move on :)

mihikasingh122 · Answer

Yes I did. I tried getting back to my ex, after I lost my father, but after meeting him one time, told him that something's off and broke up on phone telling him he doesn't really care about me and doesn't give me time!
But the actual reason was it was a mistake and I really wanna focus on my career!
But also, this guy was double dating and made his relation public with another girl after 10 days so I knew it wasn't real!

JenniferStar · Answer

Not as of yet. The guys I broke up with so far made me so mad at the time, I was screaming the reason at them. They would running to get away before I hit them with something near by.

ChiPaPa · Answer

No. But I never had a relationship. I never lied to a friend about why I ended the friendship, so that's the closest thing to it

Nightless · Answer

I have broken up with someone, but never lied about the reason why. I'm too direct and blunt for that kinda thing lol. Plus that just creates so much unneeded drama. No reason for it.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yes, I was trying to be polite, and really didn't think that telling her why would make things better. People really don't like hearing bad news about them selves, so I would always try to be tactful.

Citizenkirk · Answer

No, if it's too personal too talk about, I don't talk about it. It's not necessary for me to lie about personal issues when telling them to mind their own f****** business is so much simpler.

15_Debo · Answer

Yeah every intelligent girl does that to spare the guy's feelings! I also did duh nothing special with it...

NathanDavis · Answer

never had a reason to do so, besides that... in my case it was always mutual and we talked about it thoroughly... so there was no room for lies anyway

DarkCarousel · Answer

No. But I’ve lied about the reason I didn’t want to go out with them to begin with.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I told my first ex that I felt I was getting in the way of his ambitions when in reality he was in the way of mine.

Slim57 · Answer

Broken up no but I rejected a girl because I wasn't attracted to her by telling her i wasn't into smoking which she also did, which I dont mind as much but I was just extremely unnatrracted to this girl lol

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, if you lie then people will get the wrong idea about you, and finding a match will be harder.

Anonymous · Answer

I dated a girl in 2016 and I rejected her because I wasn't attracted to her but I said that we were going to different schools so it would be difficult to make it work.

Anonymous · Answer

I lied and said I needed me time blah blah. When in reality I kept going back to an ex. Regardless, they knew I was lying and years later I received my karma for playing with her. Serves me right.

Anonymous · Answer

No. But I have an ex where I'm still analyzing and reflecting on everything that happened.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Nope can't say that I have.

t-8900 · Answer

no i was honest the first day and honest the last.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Yes.

jimmy2 · Answer

Yes lies a deal breaker. But wow love that girl in pic

Anonymous · Answer

I am yet to get a relationship. You're asking about breakiy up!

Diodoro · Answer

No. I have a spine

suisuiola · Answer

Yeah. For sure 🥲

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

No -----

Massageman · Answer

No I haven't.

Iron_Man · Answer

No I haven’t

Guardian45 · Answer

No.!

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