I wanna break up but can’t?

[Anonymous]

This may not make any sense. But I’m in a relationship I know I shouldn’t be in right now. Im really emotionally tied to this woman named Eve though I know we’re not the right match. I feel like breaking up with this woman is right thing to do. But I go crazy at the thought of Eve with another guy. Does this mean I’m crazy? I dunno how I’m going to handle this when the day comes. Eve is not 100% bad, and there’s lots of good things she does. But it’s a toxic relationship.

Here are the reasons can’t stay with her:

1.
I’m not 100% sure she’s faithful:

Eve has too many male friends. She’s thirsty for attention from other guys and pretends she’s not. Eve also has a history of sleeping around, having one night stands, and has been pregnant and aborted by 2 different men. Now she’s always fronting and barely wants sex with me.

2.
She’s very judgmental and ignorant:

She makes fun of people who are poor, living cheap looking apartment’s and houses. Even laughs at people who wear cheap clothes from Walmart. She always points out bad character traits I’m me and my family. But doesn’t like it when I do the same back to her.

3.
She likes giving attitude:

She always has issues with somebody. For example, she’s always yelling and cursing at people on the road when she drives. She used yell at me frequently until I started yelling back her. She still does it once in awhile, but not as often.

Giving all I said. I still can’t let her go and I don’t know why!

This is normal

I need help

[Anonymous]

Fear of losing, and the unknown, keep a lot of people in negative situations that they know need to be let go of. Here’s the bottom line: you cannot stop people from doing what they want to do. Whether you’re together or apart, if she wants to hook up with someone else, she’s either gonna have some respect and leave you first, or just selfishly cheat. But there’s not stopping it, if she wants it to happen. So that concern is essentially pointless and when you think about it, just an excuse to make you stay. You’ll find any excuse really when you don’t want to break up. No one can convince you to leave her, it has to be a personal choice without all the additional fluff you’re creating in your mind as a motive to make you stay. You know in general, it’s not good for you, but I guess drug addicts can say the same and that’s why they have a hard time quitting or staying clean. Anyway, this is just me stopping by to send you some encouragement and positive energy. I hope you do what’s best for you, fearlessly. I hope you have the strength to love yourself more than that situation and make a choice that without all the emotions involved, is best for you. Because 9/10 this isn’t your first rodeo when it comes to breakups, and you got through those. If you leave, you know you’ll get through this.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s the fear of her being with someone else but the fear of losing everything you have if she destructs your next relationship with someone else. Everything you wrote sounds like fear from her. People with these tendencies seem to blackmail others and manipulate them while they think they have them under control. A guy I knew dated a girl like this and he was recently found deceased. Leave women like this alone because when you see them for their true colors it’s time to walk away. I truly dislike abusive women

[Heartache0405]

That sounds like a personal problem.


You want to be happy? Break up. What's keeping you from breaking up? Loneliness? Sorry, but that's pathetic.


If you don't want to be happy than by all means stay in your current relationshit. The only one who can make changes in YOUR life is YOU. No one else is gonna do it for you. Good luck mate I hope you come to your senses and do what's best for you.

[Crankor]

Your afraid to because of the emotional investment you've put into it. If you know its bad then it's only going to get worse letting it go on. It's normal to still have feelings for a person after a breakup. Focusing on her and not yourself is going to keep a jamb in front of that door. Do what you gotta do and don't think so hard about whah happens next. You take it as is comes

[MysteriousDarkness]

If someone was to at the least try to stop you from seeing her you will try to see her if you are not fully ready mentally to move on. Sometimes when we're not ready emotionally we still have to pull the plug on the relationship and go separate ways especially if it is toxic.
From my experience and what I have noticed when a relationship, engagement, marriage, friendship, partnership etc enters the toxic stage it either gets worse or it ends. A lot of the time people stay when things get toxic is because they are afraid of change. I suggest you have a talk with her and go from there.

[Anonymous]

Well if you want to play it out childish instead of breaking up, Tell her that you lost your job and start crying in front of her. She'll vanish. Maybe she'll hop on some rich man's dick.

[Tanhoaon]

It seems like it works for that type of woman.