Is it guilty or cheat?

[Anonymous]

I was talking to 2 people at the same time ( only chatting or over phone) bcz I thought about my boyfriend that he used to talk with someone else bcz I found his ex’s number and some other number that are not usual and same time he was not talking to me normal and ignoring me again n again.. so how it happeneds.. but after a few months he found out.. after that I don’t know what to do I started telling lie again n again but to save our relationship and he confronted me and I accepted all my mistakes but he is taking my lies wrong and now he is thinking I was always a liar with him.. so it hurts me.. I was always loyal for him in past years but he is not understanding me.. and now I am suffering from depression and not able to do anything even if for my career n for my health.. I tell him that it will never happened again but he is not believing on me.. and hurting me a lot..

[Anonymous]

Well you broke his trust by talking to other guys so it makes sense for him to see you as being untrustworthy. I think you just need to be honest about it, if not then he’ll away see you as someone who is dishonest.

[Asker]

So what should I do now..

[Opinion Owner]

Give him some time to process everything, give him extra reassurance, since you’re the one that’s currently in the wrong you need to be patient with him. I know you probably feel sad that he’s still not believing in you but you also have to understand that he felt betrayed and it’s gonna take time to fix everything (if it can still be fixed).

Maybe you can also ask him what he wants from you to help him process everything and tell him that you’re willing to do anything (within reason) to fix this bc you want to mend the relationship.

[Guy13]

This above my pay grade. Have you thought about mental health counselor?

[Asker]

Not yet

[GreatnessBack]

Lady, you got problems.
Seek professional help.

[boggboss]

So u lied and now he dont trust u

[Asker]

Yes.. bt this is for the 1st time

[boggboss]

Everyone is differnt in how they trust and forgive

[Anonymous]

Guilty of lying?

[Asker]

That I should not talk to anyone even if my boyfriend not talking to me.. and my lies were only to save my relationship

[Opinion Owner]

Well, I guess its ok as long as they are white lies.

[Asker]

Is it cheat?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope.

[Asker]

Now what to do?

[Opinion Owner]

Talk to him.