Is cheating unforgivable?

[SouthernFried89]

Ladies, if your man cheated on you would you be able to forgive him depending on the circumstances or is there no coming back from that?

[Anonymous]

If he told you right away because he felt bad and it was only once/ didn't go far I would forgive him.

My ex got REALLY drunk because it was bro's night and his friends girlfriend was home and pissed about bro's night being at their house, so she invited her friends over too for girls night. Now her and her friends thought it would be fun to get drunk too and go crash the boys party downstairs, and her one friend jumped on my boyfriend at the time and started making out with him. Right after it happened he called me Crying his eyes out saying sorry and asked if I would pick him up and take him back to my house so he could spend time with me and I did just that, I forgave him, went to get him, punched the bitch in the face, and took him back to my place...

But if I would have found out from someone else or he did it more than once, or had sex with her, It would have been over... but after that we had no problems until he joined the army and it got too hard for us.

[Elyzian]

Personally I dread this soooo much. It is actually my biggest fear, not because I don't trust my boyfriend, because I do, I love & trust him with my life, hell I'm even trusting him enough to allow his ex girlfriend (who me & him are both friends with since we all went to high school together) stay over his house and sleep in his bed this Saturday night (he lives with his parents in a caravan outside), I probably trust them cos both of them had asked me prior if I would be ok with it.. I fear it because I dont see myself as good enough for anyone. I honestly dont know how I would react, I dont think I could forgive, it would be forever in my mind and would tear me apart... I just dont know. I've only slept with 1 guy and he is my only boyfriend/love so I dont really have a variety of experience.

[greeneyes14]

Why are you letting him sleep in the same bed as his ex?

[Elyzian]

She lives in the next town over from my bf and wants to go to his towns annual show which is Sunday. He drives through her town nearly every Saturday on the way to the larger town that has EB Games and all the better shops so he offered to give her a lift. She has nowhere else in town to stay except for his place and there is no room inside the house for her to sleep so it has to be his bed.

She wouldn't dare to try anything cos she doesn't want to lose me as a friend and she knows I could kill her and make it look like suicide, accident or even natural causes (I'm studying Nursing).

And he wouldn't dare do anything cos he wouldn't risk losing the rarest girl ever, there isn't any other girl I know who would let her guy bring another girl home on the condition that he shares her with me.

Tho his ex has changed her mind now agreeing its weird if she stayed

[Elyzian]

Update: well I can now answer this question better. He did cheat on me.. not with his ex but with a female friend of his. He did it twice, once a few weeks ago and once on Saturday when I was getting ready to get on the bus to go and stay with him for 2 weeks. He told me last night. He was visibly quite upset, and he had also been crying over the phone to me for 3 days before that, said he would never do it again. I was surprisingly calm, didn't cry or feel anything until a few hours later when it hit me and I cried. I'm still with him, I've given him this last chance. If he does it again I won't be able to get past it again. Granted I did cry again later in the night while he was sleeping. But I guess I'm crazy, and I love him a lot. doesn't make it hurt any less, but he at least was honest and told me about it, which is more than I can say for a lot of guys.

[WhaChaChaKing]

If he was just my bf and he told me straight up that he cheated and he felt horrible then I would forgive him. But there is no chance in hell I'd stay with him, I just wouldn't feel any ill will towards him and just remain friends if he wants to. Now if we were married I would never forgive him and leave his ass.

And women cheat a lot as well. Just saying.

[ChentleyAkkers]

Cheating is unforgivable to me. I was cheated on in a serious relationship. It fucked me up. Sent me into a depression. increased my anxiety tenfold. Even now, in a relationship with someone I entirely trust, I have a lot of issues I am working through. I can never forgive someone who put me through that much pain.

[Eaglesoars]

if you do it consistently then yes its unforgivable, but if you legitimately feel terrible about doing it In my opinion they should accept your apology but it really depends on the circumstances of how it happened

[ButterflyXkisses]

Honestly, the way I was raised was a big HELL YES. But I was never that way, the guy I was with and married and loved beyond belief cheated a few times and I forgave him for all of them and I think back at how I always told myself I couldn't forgive, but these days it's so much easier because my lack of forgiveness the first time, but SAYING I forgave him, is what caused us to separate. So I've grown to realize that mistakes are just that and nobody deserves to have them held against them for the rest of their lives.

[Dcosse]

Depends a lot on the circumstances. A one night stand, he was drunk, etc, I could forgive, I'd actually prefer him to just not tell me. Like if it was a one time thing, he feels terrible, and knows it'll never happen again, I'd rather just not know. But if he's been having an affair, like on multiple occasions, that's unforgivable. That would mean he cares about this other woman enought to lie to me several times about where he is, who he's with, etc. That's just so disrespectful for me because I'm here thinking everything is great, while he's going off to be with another woman.

[greeneyes14]

I could forgive if no one else knew but that would still take a long time and I wouldn't really respect him as much as before. Even if one other person knew like a friend of his I would dump him straight away no matter if I still loved him because it's embarrassing to be cheated on and people don't tell you.

[letsgetlost]

No coming back. That being said, I have gone back several times (the younger me anyway). But truly nothing will be the same because that trust can no longer be there. I think that if you did cheat on someone, then there's a chance that you shouldn't be with them, because no matter the circumstances, ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, if you respected them and loved them and only had eyes for them, it would not have happened. Honesty is the best policy though, so tell her and see how it goes.

[xzinax2]

unforgivable. it's a clear sign of disrespect and that he doesn't care enough about you to keep it in his pants. if you can't be monogamous, be honest about it, don't fool someone into being with you when you can't live up to what they want from you.

[soccerchick4eva]

hmm well itll take a lot of time to trust him all over again! itll be one hard thing to get over , its happened to me before and i haven't been back in a relationship with that guy since that happened. still friends with him tho :)

[AlexisFaye]

I think it pertains to circumstances entirely. If we had been fighting, if he thought I was cheating, if he was drunk and his friends were pressuring him, etc.

[letsgetlost]

Wait.. so if you got into a fight with your boyfriend, and then he went and cheated on you out of anger... you would be cool with that?

[findingdreamland]

There is no returning back. Once you cheat, you cheat. You don't care about me and our relationship, why should I care about you.

[Creole_Flavor]

Forgive yes, forget impossible. I can forgive a guy for cheating for my sake but not to take him back or stay

[crazyincalifornia]

Tough one. I have a squeeze but no commitment.
We both date but I don't have much sex with the other guys. Sometimes!

[Unkowngirl]

No, I don't think I could. Once you cheat you're basically throwing away everything you had.
Also when you say 'special conditions' what do you mean.

[zombiebabe]

yes it is unforgivable... what's the point of forgiving a cheater? there are great chances he'll keep on cheating

[Anonymous]

I believe that forgiveness is earned, and not given. Depending on if a person can earn forgiveness it can be possible. The trust however will never be the same again.

[Anonymous]

Yes! Cheating is unforgivable because by doing that you are basically saying that you don't think that we are special, and that you can get the same from any other girl. That does not make it okay. Some girls cheat, and I'm not one of those girls.

[Miap277]

If the circumstances were like life and death, or if they were piss drunk, and made a huge mistake, and they grovel for a long ass time. But otherwise getting with someone who cheats is a big no no

[kangy]

No ever return route
Dead end

[moviedude714]

i wouldn't tolerate it at all

[Iron_Man]

Yes it is unforgivable