What did your ex teach you?

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libsaretards · Accepted Answer

My first ex taught me that I can be whatever I want to be, no matter how disadvantaged I started in life. Before I met her, I could not stay out of trouble for nothing and thought I had to be what my mother wanted me to be. She taught me that it is ok to have a mind of my own. She taught me that I can be more than just a violent individual and that I can use my instinct to protect the weak for good if I learned self-control. She taught me that there is a difference between being a warrior vs. being someone who is violent for the hell of it. She taught me what it is like to feel love for someone outside my immediate circle of family and friend. She taught me how to calm down and take a smart approach to dealing with people who anger me. She taught me that I am more than a failure. Without dating her, I would never have the courage to stand up for my own beliefs and certainly would've never joined the military.

My second ex was a completely manipulative, gas-lighting, cheating and lying piece of shit who taught me what I DO NOT want to be to someone I love. She taught me that abuse does not have to be physical. That's it. I learned nothing else of value from this Cankerous, Ugly-souled, Non-available, Toxic waste of human flesh.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

She taught me that no matter how much you believe in your self and in your ability to manage stress, and over come adversity that you need to avoid highly insecure people no matter the cost. She taught me that even though you may not be over your head, there comes a point that you're in deep even if you're not being pulled under doesn't mean you're moving forward.

She taught me to never stay with a women for the benefit of the kids. So get out when and how you can as soon as you can because your just treading water and the currents can change at any given time or any given reason without predictability.

She taught the reason why divorce costs so much is because its worth it!

Tinana · Accepted Answer

To not go back to any ex that the reasons for break up is anything other than long distance. People don’t change so don’t waste your time trying. Also to be straightforward with what I want. I don’t want sex direct No, no pretending I’d like to experience it with someone I don’t want to for the purpose of making him happy. 😇 so now I’m state how I’m feeling and I’m not wasting your time guessing because. I know what I don’t like and I’ve moved on

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

That some people are not suited for each other. Personalities are not a one size fits all. You can't "fix" or "want" what's best for someone if THEY don't want it.

LISTEN to what people say about themselves. MOST people tell you the truth, as in, they WARN you about their flaws.

Pinay_ako · Answer

The last one taught me to love myself despite my flaws and embrace them

DeepRockGalactic · Answer

Cheaters will always cheat. Once they have justified their cheating they are very likely to do it again.

I would rather have an intimate and loving lifelong companionship over having sex with a million women.

I can have a transactional friendship with an ex. By this I mean exchanging information and helping each other based on expertise, not friends with benefits.

Sometimes women want to wait for some things so there is nothing wrong with accepting that and act like usual.

I think I'm husband material because all my exes want to get back with me after a couple of years. They are all rejected of course. :)

Anonymous · Answer

Men DON'T MEAN anything they say. Tasting different women is their life purpose. Men are cheating pigs who don't know what is unconditional love.

Only their dick, physical body and ego is real. Inside they're just a hollow empty vessel. Their heart is plastic and words are empty.

Orange85 · Answer

That I need to love myself. I can’t make an emotionally unavailable man love me right. Just like I couldn’t make my dad love me right. Making someone unavailable love me won’t change the fact that I didn’t get the love I needed growing up. I can give myself the love I need. So yes I’m glad I dated a complete selfish douche bag becuase now I can heal my “daddy issues” and not be “that needy girl” anymore

Secret6620 · Answer

That no one can be trusted 100% and that trust is a VERY fragile thing.

Doesn't matter if you're in love, married, etc. Once trust has been broken, it's nearly impossible to get it back.

Trust can be earned back of course, but it's just not the same.

BullShark · Answer

Just because someone's being nice to you, sometimes show they genuinely care for you, and give you every reason to think they love you back, they don't always love you. Also, never ever be foolish enough to fall for anyone. It's a recipe for disaster.

Regards.
~S.

Fa1con · Answer

Just because you love someone doesn't mean things will work out no matter what. A relationship thrives on strong and open communication and especially so in regard to wants and needs. You have to be patient and understanding with your partner but sometimes you have to give them a bit of a push. Sometimes you have to let each other go, too. Even if it hurts.

SolitarySolace · Answer

My ex? I’ll go with exes, plural. They taught me that all women cheat for sexual/emotional reasons. They taught me that all women have mental illnesses. They taught me that all women are selfish and only care about themselves. They taught me that women are master manipulators and know how to go a long time pretending to love a man just to destroy him and his view on their entire female gender.

kylee2437 · Answer

Do not have sex before having an acceptable bond with someone and most importantly look for someone that fits your standards vs trying to change them to fit your standards

kmg9150 · Answer

Dont ever fall for love... its s gimmick... the shit we see From hollywood and what women say they want, isn't that. Having the title "Mother" doesn't mean you actually give a fuck about their children.. woman are vengeful over trivial things...

Passing_by · Answer

To not be in a relationship just because you're single
Trust can't be a word of mouth
There are hidden feelings behind said words, sometimes even meaning opposite to what you say
There is absolutely no guarantee of staying in love with them forever
People can get manipulative even when they don't want to
Insecurity of your partner tires you out

petitedollbabee · Answer

That a relationship is nothing without trust. Once that trust is broken, it is near impossible to get back and that trying to get it back and save the relationship is a waste of effort and time that I could be spending on other things.

7barbieringz · Answer

That men aren't worth the hassle. Women can do everything we need for ourselves and there's no point in stressing yourself out with a man who's 99.999% going to cheat.

Men are becoming obsolete and they know it, and they're scared

maximumpower · Answer

A covert narcissist will go to great lengths to convince one of the depth of their feelings - until the day when they no longer wish to do so. Such people can turn it on and off like a switch.
Her father was like that, as was her grandmother.

AviatorTom · Answer

We were married for 20 years and I learned a lot from her. It would take a book to list them all. Main thing I learned from her... don't try to understand a woman, just accept her for who she is.

Guy13 · Answer

That it is quite difficult to live with a quite narcissists and if your political views are not exactly aligned eventually there will be issues 🤷🏻‍♂️

Agape93 · Answer

You'd be surprised how initially charming the heartless can be

AsaKyo · Answer

He taught me how to look for the signs of a piece of shit and to never get deeply invested in another person ever again

cth96190 · Answer

That the love of a woman is a lie and that a woman will fuck a man over the instant that it suits her to do so.
Never allow a woman to manoeuvre herself into a position from which she can do a man harm.
That was what I learned.

sonic_fever · Answer

A lot about myself. She was the one that got away and made me actually do some self reflecting. Because of her I am now improving as a man and as a person

Anonymous · Answer

My most recent ex taught me that for my relationships I need a man who has opinions and cooking skills. I have no clue how to cook "I don't care" or plan the day for "whatever / anything" and so, I got a great cook with plans.

sage2021 · Answer

Just because a guy is book smart, he can drive you crazy because he doesn't have street smarts or common sense.

2Wheels · Answer

That dating men in their 50's they've already done everything and are at the "I don't give a 💩 anymore" point in life.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

When finding same type... TO NOT MAKE SAME MISTAKE (twice).

DoctorSex · Answer

Mmmm never underestimate any woman.  Kind regards, DoctorSex

Sorrento-Sun · Answer

To let go when you still love someone, no matter how painful it is.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Old girlfriends taught me that it’s impossible to change anyone’s sexual orientation. If my old girlfriends can’t convince me to turn gay, it can’t be done!

melanieeeB · Answer

My current ex, teached me how a healthy relationship should look like 🙏🏼

AllGoodNamesRGone · Answer

I wanna thank all my ex-gf for teaching me what is absolutely unacceptable in a partner!! Signed... the boy you made wiser!

Zolly99999 · Answer

How to spot when you girlfriend is cheating on you.

Tina19 · Answer

You can't control if your partner want to cheat on you because they will if they want to

andreasderjuengere · Answer

The last one was teaching me that you can't make a bad person a good one.

Shyy333 · Answer

Don't trust the person who made the same mistake twice. Also even though someone is clearly in the wrong they will always defend themselves and NEVER own up to it.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I learned that I absolutely should not tolerate failures to communicate.

clampfan101 · Answer

Many wonderful things I’m sure, but also that nothing is guaranteed. May she rest happy in Heaven… 😢

Googlemyahoo · Answer

When your gut tells you something shifty is going on and to bail listen to it.

Mart10 · Answer

Don't waste your time if they don't appreciate your efforts.  And you?

moonpie89 · Answer

Don't ever take intimate photos if you want them to stay private

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Avoid easily angry women. They are not relationship types.

isoterminal2060 · Answer

To be perfectly honest, Absolutely nothing her mentality was childish Lol

loveslongnails · Answer

That I didn't love anyone enough to move where she wanted to live!

Anonymous · Answer

All men are prone to cheating, so you might as well stick to open relationships.

Twalli · Answer

That being with an actual person as opposed to an imaginary person is better

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Guys with castration/Penectomy fetishes aren’t as rare as I thought

Harbringer26 · Answer

I think we taught us both to be more emotionally mature.

bubblegunnn · Answer

To throw a trash into a garbage properly 🤗

EaterPeter · Answer

Some women are only good for dating and sex not for marrying. They are huge liabilities.

Anonymous · Answer

To never Trust anybody whether its a Dude or a chick there all the same.

Sour-rose · Answer

It wasn't true love in the first place.

exitseven · Answer

Nothing much really.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

For the most part, women can't be trusted.

Andres77 · Answer

Saying "I love you" isn't enough.

blondfrog · Answer

Where are you from? I like the dress.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Nothing she wasn't educated 😝

Anonymous · Answer

he's a good example of guys i should avoid

RealDaveThomas · Answer

I've never had a boyfriend

ElementoP · Answer

9th grade algebra

KrakenAttackin · Answer

That women are incredibly dangerous.

grega239 · Answer

"i love you" means nothing.

Con29 · Answer

Never to cheat on someone

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