Is the guy I'm seeing possibly bi polar?

[megzs16]

The current guy im seeing has a pattern of drastically changing his mind about me out of the blue and it's very confusing to me. One minute he will be all warm and friendly and will say things like "I see myself having kids with you" , "I told my friends you might be my wife" and then days later he will be super cold and distant out of nowhere and will say hurtful things like "I don't see you as my wife so we should just end this before I hurt you" . Then the next day he will say he just got scared and didn't mean what he said and he will be all lovey dovey again. Then again days later he will get all depressed and tell me he has doubts about us. I know he struggles with anxiety, depression, and mood swings... but do you guys possibly think he could be bi polar? I don't know what else to think because his behavior with me is never triggered by arguments, him seeing other girls etc. It just kind of happens on its own out of nowhere in this repetitive circle. I've never dated a guy like this and I'm very close to just cutting him off because it's a Rollercoaster.

[WonderBell99]

Okay, so what if he was indeed bipolar? Having a relationship with someone who has bipolar disorder is very hard. He needs a therapist to help navigate how to handle healthy relationships. We are not medical professionals and we cannot diagnose someone online, especially when we have absolutely zero experience in the medical field.

We have two possibilities here:

1. His depression and anxiety may be the cause of his erratic behavior. Personally, I feel like he should focus on himself. This rollercoaster kind of rush may feel good now, but this is a precursor for a toxic relationship you do NOT want.

2. You mention that he is seeing other girls. Are you guys in an open relationship or did you catch him talking to them behind your back? If it is the latter, he was cheating on you and you should break up with him immediately. You should never tolerate cheaters and liars. This cycle will go on and on until it mentally exhausts you.

My take on this? I only see a plethora of red flags in this question. This does not seem like a healthy relationship and I do not think this could last unless and until he is willing to go to a therapist. I would suggest you break up with him now, direct him to a therapist as he needs to focus on himself and getting his act together. There are plenty of other fishes in the sea. This guy is just not it. Please break up with him and find someone else who respects you for who you are.

[wonderingstarxo]

Girl... this is not bipolar. This is borderline personality disorder. My ex was the same way. Hot and cold all the time. Lovebombing, hoovering, then discard.
Get out while you can. This man won't change. You can't fix him.

[Chill_Thoughts]

I feel like possibly he just told you those things to get in to your pants... He got you liking him without him actually being too serious. So if when he doesn't want anything from you he's cold, but when he wants company or sex he's intimate, then he likely is just using you :/

[Chill_Thoughts]

If he doesn't then he's just a mess mentally but I still think it's not him being bipolar, just the depression and anxiety you talked about

[melnc]

Giving that idiot so many excuses to stay with him can cost you a lot and waste your time. You don't have to live in hell for someone who doesn't consider your dignity necessary. Be brave and be fair to yourself... breakup