He is 24 and I am 33. I know he loved me but he lacked experience to manage important things in life which was bothering me. Things like:
- He doesn't know how to cook (peel potato, prepare salad, etc.). not even how to boil rice
- He doesn't know how to iron clothes or clean
- He doesn't do house chores
- He doesn't know how to manage finances, how to deal with documents, legal stuff, etc.
- He has a very low paying job and would spend money on partying and going out (no ambition, no saving for future, etc.)
- He lives in a crappy flat with 4 other flatmates
- He was drinking every day
- He was drinking and driving and had an accident (this was glass full for me)
- He was eating junk food, playing video games, no hobbies or fitness
- General immature thinking about life, rebellious, bad boy type
I stayed as long as I did in that relationship in hope he grows up. I "nagged" him a lot about his life-style, I tried in nicest possible way to talk to him about these things, and every time he would say "yes you are right, I'm sorry, I'll behave better" but he doesn't. He doesn't care living in a mess, for him life is just about having fun and being happy. He grew up in a rich family, his mom was 17 when she had him, and she spoiled him. Even she told me he is a difficult person.
It was hard for me to let him go because I saw potential and believed this would change in time, that I just need to be patient. But it didn't work I reached my limit. I did not enjoy being a sugar mama. We broke up once very early on in relationship because of the same reasons, but then I wanted him back because I felt guilty like I haven't tried everything. Now I'm not going back, but I wonder if now he will realize that I'm really gone and he really needs to grow up? He was very attached to me.
I am responsible, clean, cook, do chores, manage finances, work full time big salary, career path, have my own flat living alone, etc..
