Why do you think women are usually the ones initiating and filing for divorce?

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Lookingforthetruth · Accepted Answer

A lot of women before marriage often sleep around (aka have a hoe phase) which reduces their ability to pair bond with their male spouse. This is supported by research on female satisfaction in marriage, over a 10 year period, based on the number of sexual partners a woman has.

Why do you think women are usually the ones initiating and filing for divorce?

Another reason women may file for divorce is due to the husband not fulfilling the ideal male quality that women think they deserve. A lot of girls get entangled with high, value men who will DM girls on social media, fly them out, give them expensive gifts etc, In order to sleep with them. When these women have to settle for their male equivalent in the dating game, who can't provide all of this then women often will feel frustrated, scornful, disappointed and depressed. Even if this didn't happen for some girls, a lot of women miss the variety in male attention they got from multiple male suitors and go bored of their husband who likely has been whipped and no longer deemed a challenge.

Other reasons for the divorce is because 1. A lot of women don't marry for love/lust. A lot of time the marriage is done because said male provides good financial/emotional support for her and her future kids and has a lower chance of leaving her for another woman. Sometimes the woman is urged to divorce due to gains she can gather from said divorce in the form of spousal support, child support and splitting of assets in her favor.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because most women are selfish and only really think of themselves, they constantly compare their lives to others and think grass is greener on the other side. Most women don’t know what it means to remove selfishness in a relationship, And most women can’t be content , she usually has toxic friends that are divorced that are man haters that try to feed her brain that she deserves a better man and that she can do better , Toxic Girl’s get off on drama and sabotaging other friends relationships and marriages , , in a marriage you should never prioritize your friends over your partner , and most people don’t grasp that concept especially girls , I am not saying guys don’t do this shit as well but this is something girls do more than guys do , A girl will set boundaries with her man and tel him she doesn’t want him doing certain things , when he stops doing those things for her because he loves and cares for her she will eventually do those things to him , making her a hypocrite , I have witnessed and experienced this shit so many times that you can’t prove me wrong

Dinklex3 · Accepted Answer

Probably decided they're tired of being treated like shit and won't tolerate it anymore 🙃

Friend's mom finally got divorced after years of her husband beating her and my friend.

A close friend finally got divorced with her husband after getting sick of his shit (cheated once, didn't work, didn't watch their daughter<she paid for daycare and he stayed up all night playing videogames>, and didn't even help with cleaning the house or moving while she was pregnant a 2nd time)

I was so happy when she finally went forward with the divorce.

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

Because they're under the impression that their husbands take them for granted as their personal servant. The only relationship issues men tend to have is related to sex. Other than that, they love the woman they married initially, as they are not as picky as women are. Therefore, if sex is their only relationship issue, they have little reason to divorce (although you can bet that at the very least they are going to strip clubs and getting lap dances)

AviatorTom · Answer

Guys are problem solvers, women are problem avoiders. When a marriage starts to fall apart, most husbands try to find out why and fix things, while the wife will just think about ending it.

Guy13 · Answer

They have lost an emotional connection with spouse and established it with another person.

D-Pad_Chad · Answer

It's a business model. Government policies incentivies women to not only divorce, but baby trap men for child support. The latter I didn't really believe myself until recently.
Go to 3:30 in this video (it's a clip compilation video)

https://youtu. be/An7NbFnBd-c

this woman talks about how she's profiting off of getting knocked up and hitting up the men for a check. Even if they don't pay thr government, i. e. tax payers will foot the bill!

Same scenario for divorce. It's why men, myself included, won't marry.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Because they are given a financial incentive to do so. Take that away and they almost never do so. People have ups and downs in any relationship and when one experiences a low and they are presented with an exit that involves them getting a house (they didn't pay for) a car (they didn't pay for) and a monthly stipend (they don't have to pay for), well that actually seems like a pretty sweet deal, who wouldn't at least consider that? Now in other countries and time periods, when divorce meant a woman would have to move out of the man's house, leave all the man's property behind and go work for her own wages with no assistance... well women hardly ever initiate divorce. Duh?

Apple1996 · Answer

Because marriage basically only benefits men. Most women aren't getting anything good out of a marriage so they'd rather be single. I've talked to many single moms that were previously married. They all say their lives got easier cuz they aren't taking care of a man child anymore.

SphynxUK · Answer

Good god, some of the stupid replies here…!
In my case, my husband left. I wanted to file, but he wouldn’t agree. It took 3 years, and he then filed. 7, yes, 7 years later the assets have finally been split so I know where I am, and can sell up and downsize.
I would divorce anyone who cheated or was violent. But considering I wouldn’t marry someone like that, it would never happen. The only other reason is because I don’t love them anymore, or them me.

Anonymous · Answer

Because despite everyone pointing out that the guy that she is dating is complete degenerate and that she dumps him. She ignores everyone and then marries him, and people start pretending he's a good guy to be polite.

Once she's no longer getting attention and sympathy, she gets bored and divorces him, so she can tell everyone how bad he is, and her attention and sympathy start again.

After that, she needs another fix and posts pictures of her new boyfriend, who lives in section 8 housing, smokes pot, and plays ps5 all day. Now she's getting high off that attention and sympathy because of her abusive pothead boyfriends.

As you read through her social media post and it looks like the end is near; she posts a picture of her engagement ring.

Adaeva · Answer

They file for divorce because believe the romance stops or they believe they have better options and because they know they get the children, the house, and much of the money. 75 or more years ago, women would tolerate their husband's behavior and didn't file for divorce because, if they did, there would be little or no money to support them and the children. They may have been unhappy in their marriage, but money trumps their unhappiness.

HighValue · Answer

Because women often benefit financially from divorce. They have incentives to get divorced. That is why any man that gets married without a prenuptial agreement is a fool, especially now that information/statistics on potential consequences of divorce are publicly available.

msc545 · Answer

First of all because of hypergamy. When a woman finds a man she considers to be better she often has an affair with him but often leaves her husband and just goes off to be with him thinking her life will somehow get better. For many women a better man is a man who is taller a man who's richer or more than anything else a man who has more money. This ties into the second reason that women initiate divorce more often than men do and that is because in a divorce a woman typically makes money and in his divorce a man typically loses money. Also, in most divorces, women gain autonomy over children and Men simply gain a child support bill. The Advent of no fault divorce has really essentially killed marriage in this country.

lightbulb27 · Answer

The relationship isn't meeting her needs for emotional security and fulfillment and she can't take it anymore. Women have a "clock" to boot. That could be because they are emotionally a mess, because of the incompatability between them, because he has maturity issues, neither hasn't changed enough, or combination of all.

Quite a few men I know have stuck it out... stayed married... with difficult women. Some women have done the same with men.

inhua · Answer

feminism poisoning their minds with the idea that "their husband isn't good enough" or "there's a better man out there for you" or "you've missed out on your party years" or "take his money and drag him through divorce to stick up to the patriarchy" etc.

Snedger____ · Answer

Because these women empowerment and feminism thing is growing where they fight for equal rights or even more rights and freedom. This creates an ugly ego in women where they tend to become independent and insensitive. Which inturn reduces the capability to accept differences in their partner in a relationship or married life.

fembotnpc777 · Answer

Lonely men are likely to marry those types of slutty single moms that have the child support hustle going. It's kind of like how old people get scammed by Nigerian Princes/Princesses. Sure, you could blame it on the system, but how are you going to mandate people doing dumb things? Make it illegal for them to do dumb things? It's sad, but you kind of have to just sit back and watch them ruin their lives.

Noahzaid · Answer

Because women ask men to commit then after a while these same women decide to leave. men never change so women always know what they we’re getting into. but on the other hand, women change all the time.

TroyDT2 · Answer

Not sure, but in general women maintain their support circle and men do not, so for a lot of men ending it means really being alone. Also, men tend to be more aloof and unaware when the wife is unhappy enough to end it. I have often seen guys shell-shocked when the wife files, being completely unaware that there was that big of a problem.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Most women these days don't like accountability and tend to make things worse with their avoidance to sorting out problems, refusal to listen and understand their husbands, and lack of accountability.

Plus, you have men who are just terrible husbands overall. Who are just are bad as the women who are problematic.

People know who they are gonna marry. They don't understand who's worthy of being a wife or husband

Anonymous · Answer

It's because they need to go 'find themselves" and tell every woman that marriage with men is bad and tell younger women how awful young men who had nothing to do with their failed marriage are and that all they only care about is sex.

ZenJen444 · Answer

Because men want their cake and eat it too. Majority of the time women divorce due to cheating husband. The husband wants to cheat and stay secured in a marriage. And they know the woman gets half of what they own they don't want to lose that

melanieeeB · Answer

In my personal opinion, they have finally realized their worth and leave and/or they realized they married to soon, just for the sake of being married and well realize that it was a mistake

Anonymous · Answer

Because guys are much more patient. Guys learn very early on that ALL women have a bit of crazy in them. It's a package deal! So men just accept it. Women on the other hand never accept anything about a guy. They just learn to look at the good over the bad. And if ever she feels the bad outweighs the good she throws in the towel.

sassy_receptor · Answer

because most men aren’t good partners. there’s no reason to stay with someone who acts like a child and who treats you more like a roommate than a wife they love and want to show appreciation to.

sage2021 · Answer

Because he cheated on his wife and she no longer trust's him. Once the trust is broken you can never get it back like it was. So, file for divorce and go on with your new life.

Kreneman · Answer

Most of the time, women usually initiate divorce because of a Physical abuse as well as verbal abuse, scared/fear by controlling as well threat, cheating, and not showing affection.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Are they? Is that based off of statistics or just a statement you made up based off of opinion?

User3191989 · Answer

Because there was no prenup signed Men, ALWAYS get a prenup. It's just a good idea, ladies, if you are offended that he thinks it may fail, then you are probably with the wrong guy, anyway

Smoothing · Answer

Because they no longer have to worry about the consequences of divorce.  And also we are a generation who have the wrong idea about marriage.

fonduegirl · Answer

Because of feminism, we have now womanly rights and liberty. If a relationship is no longer satisfying — we abort mission.

DiegoO · Answer

Because they are usually the ones that benefit more from a divorce—but they are also the ones that receives more positive feedback, to breakup, from family and friends.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

Because men don't want to part with half their money :)

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Cuz they a lit of times picks guy they feel will change to be what they want ina loving relationship an be the mr right guy

TheFlak38 · Answer

because it serves their interests. And they can simply monkey-branch from one man to the next.

Rangers · Answer

Cause women are the ones who benefit from divorce, not men

Friendlybro79 · Answer

What's the percentages at out of curiosity? Women to men filing for divorce?

Heolurt · Answer

Because it's an easy money making scheme females get to have if they divorce they guy, also females are always trying to trade up.

Alex8736 · Answer

suspicions regarding husband's off pattern behavior. (suddenly working late). getting calls) text's in the middle of the night etc

Anonymous · Answer

Women are better at moving on, while guys prefer to drag a bad situation out for even longer.

Philyouup · Answer

I’d say it pretty much even. people today don’t work hard enough to make things work.

Crankor · Answer

For some it's because they are in love with someone else

selenecestmoi · Answer

Unhappy husbands are content to cheat but unhappy wives want a new husband

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Because they know $$$$$ + the car+ the house is waiting for them.

YHL6965 · Answer

Because it benefits them the most and would rather give up than trying to fix what's wrong.

Paul09 · Answer

The real question is, why do people still get married?

krin_m · Answer

I don't know TBH. In my case, we filed it jointly.

Anonymous · Answer

y'all love Marriage and alimoney. Can't get divorced if you don't marry you know.

Anonymous · Answer

Because the men are so unhappy because the women stopped having sex with them 10 year ago.

grega239 · Answer

They got bored

18Uma21 · Answer

Women have tendency to say yes to wrong men

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because #deeshoesaintloyal.

LivingExample · Answer

Women think they do Not need men!

Guardian45 · Answer

They are the most unhappy, I guess.

EaterPeter · Answer

They can't take it any more 😉

Anonymous · Answer

Because men are just so horrible and bad

Anonymous · Answer

Bcoz women are stupid.

Debbie14217 · Answer

50/50 i think

Luckycharms12 · Answer

80% are women

amrutha_prekshan · Answer

Kkkk

Illustrator01 · Answer

50 percent

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