What could Be the Reason behind an EX not Suggesting a Phone Call to Talk to You again?

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My EX and I are Chit Chatting on Google Chat only now. He has NOT suggested Calling Me. We have Not Called/Videoed (We Were LDR) in Nearly Two Months since the Break-up got really Unpleasant. Any Ideas are Welcome. xx

Maybe_1day · Accepted Answer

I'm in a similar situation apart few differences.
I have been in a LDR for the last 3 years and we love each other a lot. Have seen each other couple times and have made plans for future etc (This part is for those who claim LDR won't work, it does as long as both are willing to make it work).
Now back to your situation, just like every relationships, LDR has it's phase of arguments and fights etc too. And we haven't been speaking for a while because she wanted some space. Not just because of our own issues, her country is in a mess right now and she has many on her plate.
But I did and have reached out several times (5 days after etc).
She seemed OK to chat, but wasn't picking my calls. When I asked why? She said she isn't good to speak right now so messages is sufficient. At first regardless I was so anxious because she is ok texting but not speaking, I've backed off and really said I'll give her the space she wants. Then I started reflecting to the situation from outside the box. I came to a conclusion That if someone isn't ready to speak, then they surey aren't. No point forcing it. If overall you had a great relationship and memories, surely things will come out naturally. Not by asking if u can call or not even trying to call. People have emotional breakdowns. Some people get up quick whilst many take thir time. You just have to understand their language of communication as well as their emotional expression. I'll be here and when ever she feels ready, she knows how and where to contact me. You let go and don't baffle your mind with "Why is he only texting". It takes time and time is best healer.

Likes2drive · Accepted Answer

I guess it’s more personal when you’re actually talking on the phone

Guy13 · Answer

Because Voice personalizes and brings closeness. The SM might be good for Networking but is for 💩 as related to making friends or relationship. Long distant girlfriend is to be kept at a distance. Phone calls and voice connect. He needs a Time filler and not a boy or girlfriend. Phone calls might cost him some cash too…

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why are you "talking" at all, Paris. You have tried it wth him and it didn't work. The reason it didn't work is not some insignificant or transitory thing that can be changed so that everything will now be groovy. You two are not a good match

If you keep trying it, you will keep re-discovering that you are not a good match. You need to put this behind you and stop staring at your rear-view mirror.

Summeroflove · Answer

Maybe because he doesn’t want to. He’s your ex after all…. It’s good to be on good terms. But. Leave it be

Smoothing · Answer

He is not in an emotional state to talk to you over the phone.

Here is the thing that women don't realise. For such a long time, women have been sold the narrative that men are nit emotional.

News flash men are as emotional as women and we feel things. Just like it is not a good idea to force a woman to do something when she is nit emotionally ready, it is absolutely not a good idea to force a man to do something when he is not ready.

The fact that he is communicating with you on Google is a good sign. Be thankful. He will speak to you over the phone when he is ready.

There is no hidden reason besides that.

lightbulb27 · Answer

because it goes bad, same old stuff and as yet, noone wants to change... so what's the point of suffering. people don't like to suffer.

SnowedIn · Answer

Not enough time yet. Not enough compatibility to want an actual phone call. Doesn't like phone calls in general. Overly cautious since, as you say, the break up got really unpleasant. Has time to Google chat but not for an actual call.

menina · Answer

He doesn't want to feel close to you and perhaps he doesn't want to remember the time when you two were together. He wants to treat you like a friend.

Revvl · Answer

If he's chatting with you, he wants you back. But brace yourself for the fact that he might just want you in his bed.

fembotnpc777 · Answer

It's clear that he doesn't want your number in his phone.

CubaPirate · Answer

Please just put it all behind you and try and move onwards and forwards. Unfortunately all your ex trauma is becoming a bit tedious for me and I'm sure other gagers too. No offence meant but start taking our advice or stop askin for it

Sixgunsound · Answer

If the situation got so bad that you are now exes they don't want a relationship anymore.

RealMarek · Answer

Here is an idea: Cut contact with him. It will be easier to move on.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Cuz they feel it's a look at another mistake they should have seen ahead of time an dont want to feel the pain of this over an over

dudeinohio · Answer

He only wants to be at arms length. Still... I would block him. He's an EX and it's best to. leave him in the past. Move on.

Andres77 · Answer

Didn’t you shut him down a couple months ago?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Why do you women always wait for the man to make a suggestion? If you want something, ask for it!

ZenJen444 · Answer

Because he has someone else. I'd honestly move on from this

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Wait I'm lost did you and your boyfriend break up or are you still with him and this is your ex

Greekgoddess69 · Answer

It sounds like they want to be on good terms but are trying to move on with their life.

13below · Answer

Can't see you or look at you did he break up with you or do something wrong

Sevenpointfive · Answer

you honestly sound just as crazy as he. maybe there's something to that and you need to decide why he is an ex and still here making you feel this way

melanieeeB · Answer

Moving on, like you should too honestly

humanearth · Answer

Sounds like he is moving on

Titanic1912 · Answer

Why did you use a picture of Taylor Swift?

exitseven · Answer

You really need to move on from this. Paris.

Jennz6 · Answer

Paris move on so that you don’t get hurt

clampfan101 · Answer

That’s what exes tend to do. Break up.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Why do you still have regular contact with an ex?

msc545 · Answer

The ex doesn't want to talk to you again

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well because Paris is on the other line!

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