Is it possible to get back with someone after almost 3 months of being broken up?

[Anonymous]

[Guy13]

What is your impetus for getting back together? I’ve got to be honest as I had no clue but you got me interested. So, I did some professional social sciences quantifiable Data reviews.

Here’s what I found in Academia research: 37% SO living together and 23% married broke-up and got back together. Within married group at 23% around 40% reconciled and are currently happy. AND, divorced married who reunited a whopping 72% are together still.
It seems the S O group were harder to follow-up with which suggests not as successful as the Married group 🤷🏻‍♂️

I could not find any conclusions on the boy/girl dating process 3 months-6 months splits and longevity or success rate... whatever Success may be at that Stage of reflationary development.

Hope this is helpful in some way…

[all_hayl]

“Possible” is it a big word. You shared almost nothing about the situation so we have essentially no way of knowing how likely it is or whether it’s healthy or not.

My cousin and her husband once divorced for a couple of years. I don’t know the whole story but my understanding is that during the time of being divorced for a couple of years, he matured and realized that he had been in the wrong (no cheating was involved) and they sought reconciliation. They are now happily married.

[Rhizomorph]

It is possible but I don't know 3 months is a little too soon to feel like you wanna get back with someone (unless they’re the ones that left and realized they made a mistake by leaving then yeah it’s definitely possible of getting back together) but if you’re the one who got dumped and you ask them about getting back together after only 3 months then I can't guarantee it will work / them wanting to get back together.
Also you must consider if reconciling is even a good idea. If you’re not able to discuss what went wrong in the relationship that caused the breakup and if they don’t show any signs that they want to change or are even willing to resume a relationship then yeah just let em go and find a new person to be excited about.

[Asker]

I’m the one that left/ initiated the breakup

[StonerChick427]

Yes it is, as long as you guys worked through whatever it was that you split in the first place and make sure both of you let it go and moved on because if you try it again and you can’t stop thinking if it’s gunna happen again then there is no point in working it out, it will always be thrown back at you during an argument or make you feel guilty for how bad it hurt them, also not trust means no relationship just hurt and stressful. Just make sure your ready for whatever happens it may hurt you more or it may work out but you just got to be certain about it :) for your sake.
It really does hurt more if only one is completely passed and forgive what happened.

[OlderAndWiser]

Is it possible? Yes.

The better question is. . . why would you want to go back to a relationship that you know doesn't work? Isn't that a waste of time?

[OlderAndWiser]

I got back with someone after a break up of 23 years. This is the voice of experience talking!

[Summeroflove]

It’s definitely possible. But if you should depends on how you broke up as well as I’d the other person wants to.


If he moved on or says no. Leave him be

[ManOnFire]

It happens all the time, but not sure what the success rate is. I think maybe you should ask yourself: what caused us to break up? And do I even want to go back?

For me, with all my breakups I had a lot of heart ache in the beginning, but as time went on I found that I didn't really want to go back, and the time apart showed me that each of those women weren't really ones I would want to spend the rest of my life with anyway.

I truly do believe the saying: whatever is meant for you will be for you. If you're really in the right relationship there aren't going to be major splits, deep friction, or anything you need to guess or wonder about.

[Angelo75]

Well yeah sure... but depends on WHY you broke up, and if the REASON for breaking up has been solved.

If you just ignore the reason and try getting back together it will just come back haunting you.

Unless the two of you actively think of a way to either solve that reason or make it possible for both of you to "manage" around that reason.

Just a simple example:
Let's say you ended up in a big fight because he couldn't remember the day your pet died. You think it's not important enough for him, and he thinks you're overreacting. To make such a situation manageable would mean that he would actively put the date your pet died in his phone-calendar. But on your end you will talk to him also to explain WHY it is so important for you.

So both of you actively try to do something to avoid the situation of becoming a problem again in the future.

[petitedollbabee]

Depends on why you broke up in the first place. My first relationship ever lasted 1 month because I was too immature to value a relationship, then 2 years later I got back in touch with him and we ended up dating again and stayed together for 3 years.

[Edentina]

Terms and conditions will always apply, the basic one being why the relationship ended in the first place. If that can be worked on, and the break has given both time on their own to reevaluate what matters most, no harm in giving things another try.

[DubiousIntentions]

Sure, why not? Why do you not think it is possible? Maybe they just weren't ready at the time or there were a few blockades at the time that are now cleared up. There have been people who got divorced and then remarried. Anything is possible given the right circumstances.

[BigWhiteWolf87]

Why did you break up is a MAJOR factor. If

Cheating or suspected

Poor communication

Abusive or demeaning or similar behavior

You would be an idiot to get back together 3 months or 3 years later

[Fireguy17]

anything is possible.
You have to ask yourself why did we break up, and what has changed in the last 3 months to warrant getting back together?
Is 3 months long enough for the change that was made to stick, or will whomever revert back to their old behavior?

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Before we got married, my husband broke up several times (some break ups lasting over a year) and got back together.

[Biancam13]

Yes it's possible. It all depends on why it ended

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Anything is possible & if this guy can find the love of his life you have a chance as well.

[jshm2]

That's like shoving a shit back up your ass, after three months of letting it out.

Yeah some people do get back together. But if you're not communicating well over three months, then there is low chance.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I've seen it happen, but I've seen them break up soon after again and very often too.

[David_Kek]

Course it is. Often times it doesn't work out that way, yet sometimes if two people are right for each other, they have tendency of finding their way back to each other, even if they spend decades apart.

[DCowboy4747]

It would depend, some couples go together like chocolate and strawberries, and some go together like oil and vinegar. Some people just need a bit of time to themselves so a short break can be a good thing.

[Asker]

I never really told him why I just said “I’m done” and we haven’t spoke in 2 months almost 3.. but now he’s on a dating app

[DCowboy4747]

I was married to my high school crush for 20 years, we have been seperated for almost a year now. She is the one who left and honestly I don't think she will ever come back. For me it all comes down to why you are feeling the way you are, do you think you made a mistake in leaving him, or is it just a little jelousy because he is getting back out there. Just because he has joined a dating site doesn't mean he is over you, he may have joined to try to get over you. The fact that you never explained why you left probably left him hurt and confused, it di me when my wife walked out. Like you she never gave me a reason and even now I don't know why and trust me, it hurts.

[Screenwriter]

Why did you break up? If nothing has changed that lead to the breakup, why on earth do you want to return to the same old same old?

[20yearsolder]

Anything is possible, depends on who broke up with who, and wether they're willing to give it a shot again

[Pyrofox]

It completely depends on what was said and who's got the scars from what transpired to lead to the break up.

[Anonymous]

Yes. And much longer breaks. Provided you are both still alive and the desire is there, it's never over. Sometimes this is a bad idea and you are cursed to repeat your failures, sometimes good and you just needed a break to get it together.