Why won’t my adult son tell me about his breakup? He usually talks to me about these things?

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He dumped the girl he was dating over text and did not give her a reason/closure.

SwellStroke · Accepted Answer

Where he usually talks to you in regards to most things, there will be more that he will not want to talk about, and some that will take some time before he will want to. Most likely something happened to cause an action such as this to take place. As yes breaking up over a text or any other means that isn't face to face *unless it is a situation in which worse things would take place as a result of course* is not a way that preferably should be the route taken.

Though each of our roads are different, so depending on the event/s that resulted in this taken place. I would think that give him some time and he may open up, however if you are talking to his now Ex and being a part of the situation it will be most likely that you will never find out. Though I am not privy to the dynamic the two of you have, I am drawing from personal and friends experiences.

all_hayl · Accepted Answer

If you’ve had a strained relationship, he might not trust you. My mom and I aren’t close (I don’t trust her at all), so she’s the last person I’d be interested in talking to about anything like that. If y’all are close, then who knows. You’d have to ask him. We can’t read minds.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe because breaking up with someone via text is about the least honorable way to handle the situation, cowardice even, and he doesn't want his mother to know her son is without honor... And doesn't want his mother to know the reason, which could be equally as bad.

Or, maybe he's just really hurt by whatever led to the breakup, maybe she was cheating on him and he doesn't want to talk about it. Maybe she turned out to have something he didn't want, like an std or kids (which is kind of an std if you think about it) or a penis and he is sorting it all out... Maybe he thought he wanted those things (probably not the std) and decided he wasn't ready.

In his own time, if he wants to tell you, he will. And if you're relationship is with him like mine is with my parents, he will eventually.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Perhaps he is embarrassed about the reason. Maybe he was cheating on his girlfriend and then got consumed with guilt.

Moose304 · Answer

When I read the question "Why won’t my adult son tell me about his breakup? He usually talks to me about these things?" Then I read the question "He dumped the girl he was dating over text and did not give her a reason/closure." I see something ugly. How do you know he did not give her a reason? Have you been speaking to her? Did she come crying to you? I loved my mom and still cherish her memory. However, if she got involved in my life like this I would set her straight in a flash. If you are still close to this ex this might be why. Don't backstab your son. It's perfectly OK to be friends with the ex. Just don't meddle in his life.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Because he doesn't have to... That's the only reason I can think of based on not knowing you or his son. Why are you asking us? Ask him. That said, it's ok to just not ask him at all since he's an adult and can want privacy without having to explain to his mom.

Mangospacho · Answer

I’m assuming since you know he broke up with her over text that she is the one that told you about the break up, which makes it a conflict of interest on your part. If you find out the reason he broke up with her, you may not like it because he knows that you liked her too.

DoctorSex · Answer

Frankly it's very strange that you are so involved. It's not your place mum. Back off.  Kind regards, DoctorSex

aaron210419 · Answer

It's possible he feels like a failure because it didn't work out the way he wanted. Possibly there are details that he's afraid would make you change your opinion of his ex. Give him time, he'll come around eventually.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Not everything a man does is for his mother to know.

jshm2 · Answer

Because he is now an ADULT, and see's no point in involving another in his business.

Cedman · Answer

As a son moms are usually over the top. Things like this is how you get a 1 hour long lecture and meeting with 7 counselors or something. Telling moms about things like this result in more work than it's worth.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

You don't have to easily know why your son is obviously broken hearted he is obviously in a very bad time now.

Anonymous · Answer

She was probably cheating or he was having sexual problems with her ie can't get an erection or premature ejaculation

Googlemyahoo · Answer

My son tells me stuff but not his mom either 🤷‍♂️ Dunno why. She gets jealous about it.

Wise4myage · Answer

He's embarrassed or he doesn't feel the need to tell you what happened.

melanieeeB · Answer

He doesn't have to tell you anything... weird

andreasderjuengere · Answer

He's growing up, I guess.

Mafia24 · Answer

Leave him alone... It's his personal life

Why won’t my adult son tell me about his breakup? He usually talks to me about these things?

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