My recent ex says she doesn’t deserve me. what can that possibly mean since she admits that she doesn’t want to feel sad for leaving me?

[fibs4kt]

she broke up with me on Monday after claiming she was losing feelings because i was overthinking about our future and reminiscing over the past, so my energy was different than when we first started dating. we first started dating and it was all amazing, but she got her phone taken away and we couldn’t talk and i worried about losing her, but she was able to use her ipad to message me 8 hours later. that made me worry about our future, as we’re long distance because i moved states temporarily. then, she lost her ipad because she got caught using it and wasn’t supposed to use it. so after going 27 hours without talking to her, she message me on her computer that the school gave her and we’ve been talking on discord ever since. we’ve had calls and had movie nights, good and bad moments, all normal relationship stuff. but she noticed, and told me, that i was acting different ever since she lost her phone. i didn’t think much of it back then. but ever since she broke up with me, i’ve been realizing that she was right and i wish i knew it back then so i could just live in the moment and not give her the weird energy that made her lose feelings. she claims she wants to be single and all of that, but also told me last night that she was sorry for acting like a b-word and how she acts like she doesn’t wanna see what i vent to her about how i feel. she says that she does it because she doesn’t want to cry and remember how good of a guy i was and she doesn’t wanna feel bad for leaving me. she said that last night, but just an hour ago she said she doesn’t care anymore and wanted to unfriend me but she won’t. am i wrong for thinking she’s confused? maybe she’s just confused and stuff, because ik her and ik she has low self-esteem. she doesn’t ever talk good about herself and she’s very sensitive and emotional. maybe she’s just in the middle of an emotional roller coaster and maybe she’ll think about things later? we only ended because i was overthinking

[Pegases]

When a woman tells you you're too good for her, it's because she already feels bad about not being the kind of woman that she believes you deserve. It never feels like it the first time you hear it, but she is doing you a favor by walking away, because she's trying to protect you from her. You've simply gotta take it for what it is, and walk away too. It's worth mentioning that most women in that situation, especially today, would string you along because you feed her ego. So this is your blessing in disguise.. There are plenty more women out there man. You'll do just fine without this one.

[Guy13]

Women make no sense. Grieve, let go, and try again.

[fibs4kt]

they don’t make sense, i agree. but this girl is different, there aren’t enough characters that would allow me to speak about how amazing she is. i want to grieve, but i’m someone who can’t help but fight for what i want, and i can’t let go sadly. i pray every night and i have a lot of faith that she’ll come to her senses. she has mood swings and stuff, so ik later today if she does message me (she said to not message her unless she does) then she’ll be more sensitive like last night. it’s hard to deal with someone like this, but i love her and i’m willing to. do you have think she’ll come to her senses? nothing bad happened between us, it’s just i didn’t talk to her the way i used to and it led to making her think i didn’t like her, she had even asked me if i still wanted her once and i wish i knew back then that maybe it was my replies

[Nikki1989]

When men say that to me, I say, you know what, you are right.

And then I dump them.

[fibs4kt]

so are you saying i should just let her go?

it’s hard to because we had so many amazing moments despite the obstacles we’ve been facing over the past month. i hate giving up when my heart tells me to continue, especially if nothing bad really broke us up except for something i can work on and not do again

I don't know, maybe i’m stubborn and it’s probably that honestly. but i just have so much faith, not just in this situation but in life. i stay prayed up at night and i remain faithful of everything. and i never stop fighting for what i want and who i want, because i don’t go choosing anyone to be with. i chose her for certain reasons and i still don’t regret choosing her

we just have a crazy story that may seem normal to some, but in the inside, to us, it’s crazy. from going a day without talking because she couldn’t literally reach out to me after i left her state, to her losing another device (lost her phone and ipad in 2 weeks) and having to talk to me on her computer, and now she’s moving cities and schools and it put more stress and sadness on me so it made me overthink and just change how i talked to her. i went from being good to being sad and getting emotional cause i worried about us

maybe none of this makes sense honestly, but I don't know what to do. i can’t lose faith so easily, but i’m going to listen to her and let her come to me because she said she tried to act “rude” with me (not rude, but distant) because she doesn’t want to cry over my heartfelt msgs and remember how good of a guy i was, which is why i feel like she said she doesn’t deserve me. but she does, she’s an amazing person and she doesn’t realize it at all. she sells herself short. she has self-respect, but she doesn’t see how valuable she is. i just want to show her every day how much she means to me without having to feel like it’s wrong

[Avicenna]

I wouldn't waste time and brainpower trying to parse what she says

[fibs4kt]

you might be right. i’m just really into her and care about her. what we experienced together brought us closer but i pushed her away with how i handled the stress and worrying of not being able to be with her due to the obstacles in life we’ve been facing

[Iron_Man]

Sounds like a head case and insecure person

[fibs4kt]

it does sound like both a head case and an insecure person, but her good qualities overweigh her bad qualities. she’s independent, she’s caring, and many other things. it’s just hard to let go of someone who matches me in so many ways

[Iron_Man]

If , somebody really truly cared for you why would they throw in the towel with a lame excuse saying that you’re too good for me why not better herself to make it a level playing field instead of just throwing in the towel that fast
With an excuse like that

[fibs4kt]

you got me there. you’re absolutely right about that. i’ll try to get over her. but am i wrong for having some faith she’ll come back?

nothing bad happened between us, it’s just that i’ve had issues with overthinking and i was working on it in the past but stopped, and now i’m currently working on it and don’t want to stop

nothing bad happened between us, she didn’t do anything wrong, other than maybe give up. now i’m confused on if i should have faith or let it go, because i sense she hasn’t let go 100%. and i obviously haven’t let go 100% either

[Iron_Man]

You can try, but what’s next for her to complain about

[fibs4kt]

i have no idea. i want to try and hope i get an opportunity cause we have so much potential. but she says she’s never given second chances. i just hope she changes heart and gives me a second chance. i didn’t do anything wrong, i just made a human mistake and my emotions messed me up

[Iron_Man]

She’s a head case problem. I also didn’t realize how young you guys were. She’s probably very wishy-washy.

[fibs4kt]

what’s “wishy-washy” mean?

but yeah, she was a head case problem at times. but it’s something i dealt with and it wasn’t difficult because i understand her. she has mood swings, she’s bipolar too, and she’s just sensitive. it’s one of many reasons i fell for her; she always kept it real with me from start to end

[Iron_Man]

That explains it. Wishy-washy means Always changing your mind about something you want to do something than you don’t want to do it.

[fibs4kt]

oh, then she’s definitely not that. she doesn’t like being influenced to do things and she doesn’t take advice. she does what she wants to do because she’s independent. she’s just like me, i should take advise and not be stubborn but sadly it’s easier for me to be stubborn lol

but no, she’s not wishy-washy. sometimes she can be but aren’t we all? she’s decisive when it comes to important things. she’s a great person, aside from her flaws. we all have flaws so i don’t pin hers against her. i learned to accept her for who she is and understand her. i’m at fault here because she loved me deeply, even when i became annoying at times like the idiot that i am lol. but through all of it, she didn’t leave me

i guess i just didn’t show the same energy she showed me and for weeks, i pushed her away slowly. that’s why i want to win her back, even though she’s fighting it. ik she cares and remembers, she admitted to her remembering how good what we had was. i just have to remain faithful and just work on my issues while i wait patiently and remain by her side. because she’ll need me and i’ll be there for her

[disturbed_]

When a girl says that she doesn’t deserve a man it means she doesn’t have the balls (literally) to say the truth and tell him that he’s a fool.

From my experience.