Why do people keep in communication with exes, seek friendship with them or want to establish communication?

[dudeinohio]

An ex is past history. You cannot heal or expect to move on if you are communicating with an ex.

Also, if you get into a new relationship, your new partner won't like the fact you talk to or hang out with a person you used to have sex with.

It's best to cut this person off completely. Heal and move on.

But why don't people realize this?

[NathanDavis]

you should realize that you got a couple of things wrong...

not all exes ended up in such bad terms... so there is nothing to "heal from" if they concluded things in mutual agreement and also in good terms

many exes were already friends, before they were a couple... so the friendship was first and then remained as that...

also... not all new partners are as insecure as you paint them, in many couples... both partners are still able to be friends with their exes and none of them get insecure about it because they all know better and have had it better

now, if you personally cannot be friends with an exes because you ended so badly with them... then yeah, it is best that you stay away from them, but do let others have a better experience if they managed to get better experiences in life

[dudeinohio]

I've broken up on good terms plenty of times, yet all communication ends forever.

I got nothing wrong; but I will concede, like any absolute statement, exceptions can happen.

[NathanDavis]

moving on completely in good terms, is also an option and a valid one... sure

not everyone is interested on friends or communication with an ex... and that's fine for those who do not want it

[dudeinohio]

Very true.

[Emelina]

Everyone has a different way if how to end the relationships. I prefer to not be friends or communicate with the exs, even if we broke up in good terms. Living in a small town, exs are usually end up in good terms as we might see them here and there and it wouldn't be so awkward. I have to be in contact with my ex husband as we have 2 kids together, and we ended up in not good terms we hate each other. I have 4 more years then I will not be in contact with him at all, as the kids will be 18 years old and they are responsible for themselves and I don't need to report anything to him anymore.
But in general I personality don't keep in contact with my exs... and I wouldn't be ok with a guy I am dating to be in contact with his ex either, its not right in my books. That's just me though, I am an old school girl. Sorry for a long story here. Cheers

[dudeinohio]

I have kids with my ex wife, so. we remain in contact for kid purposes. All my other exes, I have no. clue what they are up to, nor do. i. care

Thanks for your comment😊

[Emelina]

Not a problem. 🙂

[dudeinohio]

😊👍

[Anonymous]

Because some remain friends. It is not complicated.

[dudeinohio]

Sure it is complicated. Once a new person comes into the mix, they won't like you being friends with the ex.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are always exceptions to the rule, but I think that what @dudeinohio said is usually correct.

[humanearth]

I was forced to because of kids

[dudeinohio]

That's the one legit reason to stay in contact. The only one.

[Anonymous]

They have high hopes of getting back together?

[dudeinohio]

Which is why that is a red flag if they get into a new relationship. But I always say... its over. Move on.

[OlderAndWiser]

ONE of them has a hope to reconcile.