Why would a girl who broke up with you routinely check in on you?

[Anonymous]

So we live together cause we have 3 months on our lease left but she still checks on me like today she asked how I was doing and how I felt towards her. To which I responded hopeless because I go to sleep and have dreams and everything is normal between us we go on trips then I wake up and constantly get reminded that none of it is real anymore and this is the new reality. I told her that that I don’t do anymore I sleep most of the day I might get out of bed to take the dog out but then I return right back.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Let me ask you this- why you are still talking to a girl that broke up with you? Shouldn't you be ignoring her so you can move on with your life?

To answer your question, one of two reasons: she either misses you and might be regretting breaking up with you and realizes, "Oh, maybe I made a mistake; I miss him..."

Or she's just being nice and trying to remain friends post-breakup. I know from my previous relationships, the guys wanted to stay friends (and no, not just for sex, I mean actual friendships). She might be checking on you to see how you are.

Which brings me back to my first point: WHY are you talking to her? You're not going to move on if you're still in touch with her. Politely ask her to stop contacting you, at least for a while, to allow you to get over her properly.

[kylee2437]

Most likely feels guilty about her decision but has a seer reason on why she chose to break up.

[kylee2437]

Set reason*

[Asker]

Why keep checking in though to watch misery or watch my mental health deteriorate

[kylee2437]

Maybe she has a different perspective than that.

[DextroShade]

Sounds like she is just tormenting you. You should man up and tell her that unless with you she isn't getting any of your time, attention, or resources. You should move out sooner if possible.

[In_Trance]

Maybe she doesn't know how to break up