Men after divorce?

[Redkitty_21]

Men after divorce can like someone but not want anything which is completely understandable but I would like to understand more on this.

What can make them make this decision?
What can make them hesitate?
How would you know if someone that is recently divorced has taken an interest in you in secret?
Has or do you think their perception or perspective on relationships completely change?
What is a good way to make or help a divorce man feel safe and not rushed or pushed when liking them?

[BadApple69]

I have been divorced so I am talking from experience. Let’s keep this simple. Be his friend, be there for him. If and when he is interested in having a relationship he’ll let you know. Don’t push. It’s my believe that you show interest and he will come around pretty quickly. Good luck!

[Redkitty_21]

This is great. I do like him, I know he’s not interested but either way he needs time to heal and adjust and he deserves that. I have always wondered what men go through because they never really get to express that, I imagine it’s not easy to let go of something you have had and routined for so long and I wonder how he feels, and I wonder if he feels lonely and sad.

[BadApple69]

Every divorce is different. If the couple hates each other then the divorce is freedom. In some cases the man is in love and is blind sided by the divorce (men can be clueless sometimes). This type of divorce for the man is devastating. Do you know anything about his relationship before the divorce?

[Redkitty_21]

I honestly don’t know anything about his divorce. One time we were having a conversation where he was telling me that he has problems with his back and then he rather come to work and not stay home because he doesn’t know how to cook so basically he’ll starve to death ( his own words) and I asked “you’re completely alone?” And he said yes he said he was almost almost single. And during Christmas (he has a son but he lives somewhere else) I asked him how his holiday was, and he said it was okay he went to bed early, so I asked him “you didn’t spend the holidays alone did you?” I have this thing with holidays where I feel really really sad when a person is completely alone on the holidays. And his answer was well my son yesterday was with his mother and Christmas day he spent it with me but he looked kind of sad. And there was this one occasion where he had this necklace that was made by his sons friend and it had a smiley face on it so I complemented on his necklace and he started telling what it meant Because it had objects that he likes and one of them was a smiley face and he told me this way because I like being happy. He zoned out a lot but then again so do I. I don’t know maybe I’m seeing from a perspective not so realistic or maybe he does feel sad. Because he would flirt with everyone and he was nice to everyone he used to touch my hands a lot. I don’t know I may be reading into it.

[BadApple69]

Adding a child to the divorce changes the dynamics completely. I said this in another post just this morning. Having a child is when you discover what true love is. Someone takes that child, that’s a loss you’ll never recover from. Sadness becomes a part of your life. I feel bad for this guy… I know how he is suffering.

[Redkitty_21]

His son is an adult but I bet he misses him.

[Vikkrram]

It would be really better ma'am if you would just explain your situation. Every one is different so as their situation.

[Redkitty_21]

I don’t have a situation, I like someone who is divorced but I don’t want to date him or anything. I have always been curious of what men go through after a divorce and how they work through it. I don’t mean to sound weird or cold.