He was my first boyfriend and i loved him. But we broke up in a strange way till this day I’m still wondering what happened to us, we started this so good but then things started falling apart I don’t know why and we didn’t even broke up bluntly we just lost contact , and then he suddenly got engaged and removed me from everything. Then he broke up with his fiancée and made everything public. But we haven’t spoke since then. I really missed him and I don’t know what to do and i really wanted closure, everyone told me that what happened is already a closure but i can’t control my feelings. It’s been a year and he already dated twice or more and I can’t even think about anyone else except him. But there was a time that i wasn’t thinking about him at all i felt like i moved on and i felt so happy but then he pops into my head suddenly.
Note : I don’t stalk him or anything i swear because people always say to me that when you stop stalking him you will forget him, but i am not stalking him or anything else. He’s always on my mind first thing when i wake up,
And i knew about his engagement and everything else because we have a mutual friend.
I really don’t know what to do, i wish we would’ve a last conversation i want to ask him so many things :( but it’s been a year already.
Note : I don’t stalk him or anything i swear because people always say to me that when you stop stalking him you will forget him, but i am not stalking him or anything else. He’s always on my mind first thing when i wake up,
And i knew about his engagement and everything else because we have a mutual friend.
I really don’t know what to do, i wish we would’ve a last conversation i want to ask him so many things :( but it’s been a year already.
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get your closure and then move on. you're super young, it would bound to happen. i'm sorry you're feeling this way. but i really think you need that closure and then you need to move on to the next chapter in your life and find another guy who will treat you way better.
I didn't know we can't contact our ex after a year.
Not that we can’t but i feel shy and I’m afraid that he will ignore me
What does it mean if he ignores you?
Imagine asking about him and then he ignored me, it would make sad and i’ll regret it
why would it make you sad? Do you know why?
No I don’t
Well what we do know is you are in scarcity.
What do you mean?
It's not what you're focused on but how you're focused on it that is causing the scarcity. If you knew you two were gonna date again how would you feel?
English is not my first language and I really don’t understand what do you mean, but honestly i wish we could go back in time and be lovers again, or you know what maybe if we ended things clearly and on good terms i will be okay. But I can’t help but thinking about happened and what would happen if things were different
Also he had ex’s before me and they remained friends and i was okay with it, why did he only removed me from his social media and we didn’t even had a fight or something he just removed me without any reason
Things are gonna stay exactly the same if you don't contact him. Someone else is out there too. The same love you remember but with someone else.