@emyywolf Damn girl, you look broken lol you're an open book right here. You can act as tough as you want, woman empowerement blablabla any normal guy can tell what you've been through :
You've been riding the cock carroussel for a long time, you have a nuts body count cause you enjoyed your youth as you're encouraged to do by capitalistic societies. Eventually, you met that one guy that you liked and the guy was grossed out by hearing about your previous experiences when you thought he would be thrilled. The guy told you he thought that was disgusting, that it was a dealbreaker for him, and eventually he splitted. Now, just like any girl who believed in feminism fairytales and got old, you're bitter. You're not bitter towards all the bs you got to trust, because it would require a reassessment of yourself and you don't own this quality. So you get bitter to the other part of the equation, aka males.
Now the thing is : Males didn't turn you into sluts. They are not responsible of your poor choices of life. As strong independant feminist women, you are responsible of your own actions. You're not babies, and you didn't got rape at age 6. You were a full grown woman who willingly decided to give away her ressources for free. You can cope as much as you want thinking "real men aren't grossed out by girls with """""experience""""", but that is still coping. It's actually quite the opposite in the real world : If a guy has value, therefore he has options. And if he has options, he gets to choose. And if he gets to choose between the slut and the virgin, the guy will always pick the virgin up to build a relationship. Only the guys who don't have value, so options, decide to pick up the leftovers. It's a choice by default, just like your "choice" to be bitter is a choice by default since you can't build up your virginity again.
You may think that I'm pissed about you because I'm telling you blunt facts but I don't. I pity you. You just hate men, and manhood. You won't be happy in life. You're 25, your best years are already behind you, and things won't get prettier with time. I seriously doubt you'll find a serious guy ever. You're doomed to only have hookups, you'll never build a family and you'll die alone on a hospital bed when you'll be old, getting your ass wiped by some random nurses instead of being surrounded by a loving family. It's super sad for you tbh :/
@topicowner If I were you I wouldn't freak out that much. You only had sex with one guy. For sure any guy would prefer a virgin. But 1 guy is not that much. I think you have plenty options remaining yet. People always tend to think by extremes. Yes, the perfect value woman would be virgin and be pretty submissive and sweet to men. Yes, the absolute no value woman would have ridden the cock carroussel for years and hate guys. But there is a world between those 2. Just because you had sex with one guy doesn't mean you directly fall down in the no value category. Stop thinking binary. Just like a guy isn't either Henry Cavil or worthless trash, you are not either a virgin or a worthless whore. Plenty guys can accept a woman with low bodycount. Some don't, but some do. The more you add negative traits to yourself, the more your pool shrinks. 1 bad trait doesn't ruins it all.
Nice, mate. Good for telling her the truth. That whore @emyywolf has been broken and shattered by the reality that she was lied to, believed those lies, thought the world would be cupcakes and rainbows forever and suddenly, it started to rain. It started to pour *heavy.* Many people, or at least one person or two told her to stop that [whore] shit but she didn't, so it servers 'er right.
Now, as for the virgin girl @topicowner, it's good that you understand you consequences have actions and if those actions are fucking around (literally), it will get you NOWHERE with men. But the guy above tells the truth when he says you won't be rejected on a large scale for not being a virgin. Most guys are okay with a girl who has slept with a number of men that can be counted on ONE hand, so don't worry too much. Just stay off the streets. If you ever end up in a situation again with a man who you're in a serious situation/relationship with-- BE HONEST WITH HIM. Don't lie and make sure he isn't around to take the piss, because if he is and you AREN'T happy with that-- you may end up here again, talking about how you've slept with more than you actually wanted to.
So, just make sure guys are serious when they're dealing with you to avoid further heartbreak. Make sure of that and they aren't manipulative or any of that. Okay?
@marish01 Alpha males who harvest harems do not make children with every girl in the harem. Usually you have the official one "the best one" who's the real wife and gets children, and you have all the others who are here just for easy sex and allowing him to have a different roster of pussy
@EmyyWolf Of course you've not. Come on we're all grownups here, stop thinking we're stupid. A woman who thinks that about men does never get proposed. Unless the guy has like 0 option, is short, fat, 50+ years old, stuttering etc etc. Stop making up stories to add depth to your argument please.
Usually, but the thought [and reality] of having multiple pussy and children from those pussies is lovely. I personally don't see one woman as the best. There's far too many fish in the sea for one to stick out more than the rest. That's my perspective. Now, logically speaking, there's sharks, clownfish, salmon, sardines and all that, but you get my point. I could never place one woman over another [that is, women who are of my standard]. I don't know why I'd limit myself to thinking one is better than the others.
Literally every narcissistic male in this comment section, looks ugly as shit!!
Every last one of them IS absolutely disgusting! No woman is turning to look at any of them!
Not a single one of them! Look at that berethor guy. He said he watched Child P*RN too. These aren’t just undesirables, but they’re predators / pedophiles. They’re the type that rape the children of single mothers. Be very careful who you listen to. They themselves want high bodycounts for themselves but the woman shouldn’t be allowed to have a high bodycount.
WHAT THEY ACTUALLY WANT IS TO SUBJUGATE SOMEBODY‼️‼️ THATS WHAT THEY WANT!! BE CAREFUL. ‼️
Your virginity or sex life is nobody’s business. It’s why it always tell these imbeciles that my body count is one, and I dress modestly. These fools literally can’t tell the difference! Literally they can’t at all. I’m still tight af. 😈
The vagina is an elastic muscle that can push and pull. Many penises aren’t gonna do anything to you, WHATSOEVER.
Having childbirth will cause damage.
If you ever want to settle with some fool. Dress modestly, behave modestly. Say bodycount is 1, and you’ll be fine. LMAOO 😈😈
@EmyyWolf Thanks. I'm not a pedophile, I never had sex with underage since I'm an adult. And I am not ugly. You don't see my face that's hidden by the way.
Of course you can always lie on your bodycount. But that's precisely why I'm saying you won't have a serious relationship. Because you have to lie to have one. It's easy to lie short term. But when it becomes serious, if the guy isl't retarded, he'll always notice your contradictions and know you lied. Do you think guys actually stay with liers? Spoiler alert, we don't
@EmyyWolf By the way, you started your first message on this topic saying that males who care about your bodycount are not real men. That they are worthless looser trash. But now you say you lie to them to date them. Why would you want to date loosers? I don't get it. Everything you say is a contradiction. I think you get mixed up in all your lies already :/
LMAOOO 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 @Reichmann75
You tiny dick losers are so fucking funny
@EmyyWolf Ok. I get that you want to troll and it's fine by me. But still you didn't respond. Why do you need to lie to date guys you despise? If guys who care about bodycount are loosers, then why do you need to lie to your dates? You want to date winners so they're not supposed to mind your bodycount in the first place right?
If he asks I’m gonna lie. I’m gonna lie because it’s none of their business. My count isn’t at the double digits because most guys aren’t hot.
A woman who screws 30 or more guys is insane. I agree on that part. The part that pisses me off is where you cowards , weak, no-testosterone cowards want a low body count or a virgin like if you’re entitled to that. 🤡
That’s the part that’s fucking insane 🤡
@EmyyWolf Ok. But you literally said in your first message that men who care are worthless trash. So I repeat my question : if the guy asks, why do you need to lie? It means the guy cares so he's a loser. Why do you want to lie to fit the criterias of a loser? I don't get it :)
@EmyyWolf Ok i don't debate this. Let's say you're right and those men are insecure small dicks predators, as you said above. WHY WOULD YOU FEEL THE NEED TO LIE TO THOSE MEN ABOUT YOUR BODYCOUNT TO DATE THEM?
Why would you even want to date an insecure small dick predator? It doesn't make any sense.
I don’t. I told the ASKER to do it. I have in the past. I’ve lied in the past and it worked 😈🖕.
So that’s why I’m advising the asker.
The asker is the one who cares about religious church-nuts, not me.
NOWADAYS; if a creep asks me this, I immediately cut him off. I don’t need another pervert knowing my history. Specially when I want someone who cares about me. Not some insecure creep who can’t compete.
@Reichmann75
And I wasn’t calling you the Pred. I was calling this guy.
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I’m sure you can find him here in this comment section somewhere
@EmyyWolf I don't have an instagram account. I think social medias are designed for women and guys who can make money on it. I'm neither of these so I don't need to have social medias.
@EmyyWolf And yes you were calling me a predator. You were responding to the other guy but you stated that every guys who care about virginity are predators. So by extent, you called me and most of the guys predator. It's all written above. What will it be next? You'll rewrite the story and pretend you didn't call me a small dick either? The message was a response to my post tho ;)
I said likely predators. I said “likely”
Because the only virgins are in HighSchool OR theyre undesirable women you don’t sexually desire anyway!!
It’s delusional. Unless you want to date a minor. Someone underage?
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If you do go for a minor. That makes you a predator.
Do you need to have a meeting with CHRIS HANSEN? The guy from CATCH A PREDATOR? 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️is that what needs to happen.
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@EmyyWolf but that isn't true. There are plenty girls who are still virgin above 18, even in the west. I'm not even talking about the girls from Asia or Middle East. I know some of them who even are like 25 and still virgins. The powerful man who has money, if he doesn't find a proper woman in the west can always goes full passport bro and get a woman from one of those places. Many men does nowadays. You're just coping reciting mantras to persuade yourself that they are the problem. But this is just how things are. Men care about women promiscuity. They don't like it. And they are not pedophiles either :)
If the only virgins are those in HighSchool, you’ ARE predators. If you like minors, you ARE PRDATORS. What other way you want me to spell it for you?
If you go overseas to find a virgin in a country that subjugates women. You’re required to be a virgin too. So either way you’re losing too, BRAD PITT.
Do you need me to explain a different way?
I was a virgin at age of 22. But only because I was obese and no man would look at me. You’re gonna have to date extremely obese or undesirable women if you want a lowbodycount lady or a virgin.
When I lost all the weight I finally started dating. Religion is a cult.
@Reichmann75 the who don't accept that the age of consent is 16 in many places.
@Reichmann75 I mean the ho, she is is really annoying feminist ho, who wants her?
@Reichmann75
If you want a super hot chick. EXPECT A HIGH BODYCOUNT. I don’t know what else to tell you
@EmyyWolf I am not religious. I know a lot of girls from "traditional values countries", they are still virgin at high ages, they are usually prettier and more feminine than most of the western girls, and they don't mind a guy with a high body count. Feminism doesn't exist in those societies. So all those reciprocities bullshit don't exist.
@EmyyWolf Well as I said above, I don't need to "expect a high body count". First of all "super hot chicks" are becoming a really rare ressource in western societies. We see more and more overweight girls everyday while men have never been as much jocks than now.
I don't know where you live but regarding the hours of posting I'd say America. I'm not from America but from Europe. I come from a feminist society but less feminist than America. So our girls are still sluts but waaaaaaaay less than American girls. Now when you compare all these girls with none feminist societies - it's day and night. You just can't compare them. Girls coming from none feminist societies are usually thin, feminine, they like to be pretty, and most of all THEY ARE NOT SLUTTY. I have money and I'm good looking. I don't need to "expect a high body count" because I'm not desperate. I don't follow girls (sluts) lead, they follow mine. If they don't, it's fine. I also need sex sometimes and I'm happy they are here to please me when I need to. But will I accept to actually date them the serious way? Hell no.
@Reichmann75 sluts only good for a one-night stand, and not for marriage.
@Reichmann75
Yeah that’s where you’re delusional. Any adult woman who can get aroused is not a virgin. YOU 🫵 don’t deserve a virgin. Because you’re not one. If anything you need to date your equal. Whatever your bodycount is, that’s what you need to date.
If you go to Israel 🇮🇱 or some nation that subjugates their women. You’re required to be a virgin and do your moral part too. Otherwise you’re considered just as trash as the women of your bodycount.
You’re NOT entitled to a virgin since you don’t fall in that category. Being a Chad or Hot does not give you that privilege.
If you meet a beluga whale 🐳 maybe she will be a virgin and give you her virginity.
But you as NONE VIRGIN , you don’t deserve it, and you’re not entitled to it.
It is what it is.
@Reichmann75
What do you mean by “ my best years”.. what’s that supposed to mean 😂😂😂😂
Send me a picture of you. And I’ll tell you about your best year. Anyway if your 30, your close to getting erectile dysfunction
. Good luck with that!!
I’m not sure how you’re gonna break any women’s hymen with erectile dysfunction 😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬
@Reichmann75
This picture right here for example.. looks like an undesirable male, of low testosterone, a high pitched feminine voice. That jawline looks like bad genetics. That hairline is receding. Another sign of low testosterone and bad genetics..
SO IM NOT SURE WHAT TYPE OF VIRGIN OR LOW BODY COUNT IS SUPPOSED TO BE LOOKING AT YOU.. CAUSE ME WITH A COUNT UNDER 7',,, I WOULD NEVER LOOK AT YOU.
THOSE BAD GENETICS, I WOULD NEVER RISK A PREGNANCY WITH A LOW TESTOSTERONE, UNHEALTHY MALE LIKE YOU. LET ALONE A WOMAN WHOS A VIRGIN.
GOOD LUCK WITH THAT.
AND GOOD LUCK WITH THAT ERECTILE DYSFUCTION THATLL SHOW UP REALLL SOON.
I honestly think you have no choice but to be with an obese woman or a woman of extremely high body count. You don't even look like BRAD PITT to acquire a virgin.
@marish01 true, young virgin girls are best, who want an old ho? men not stupid.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy#Research
She has some serious problems and is " no day at the beach " herself , I think she's been though some horrendous situation because she is certainly lost , however , I'm very concerned about opinion being stated as " fact " and some of the damage this may do to stupid young men who may follow her advice , if it were my website , I'd be extremely concerned on a number of fronts.
@molonski2 no one should follow the advice of feminist ho, virgin women are best.
@EmyyWolf The thing is : reality isn't what you picture in your mind. Foreign pretty girls from traditional countries don't care about a guy having a high body count. Reciprocity is something that is believed by feminists. And feminism doesn't exist in those societies. I talk to those women everyday so I know lol
You can put up my picture as long as you want (you're reported for that by the way) saying I got low testo or anything you want. You can say that the sky is red, that saussages grow up in the trees or whatever makes you feel good. It's fine. The facts are : I have no problem to have sex. Therefore I am attractive. You struggle to commit, therefore you aren't.
You can go in full circle over and over again. Thinking guys are pedos, low testo, whatever. The truth is a guy who doesn't struggle to have sex is attractive, that more than half the women the women on earth are virgin past 18 because west isn't the entire world, and that those girl don't care if a guy isn't a virgin lol
@Reichmann75
Whoever that virgin is. She’s gonna be absolutely miserable staring at that resending hairline. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@EmyyWolf As I said, anything that makes you feel good, you can believe it. It's the very definition of coping.
@Reichmann75 as the saying goes ""men are like keys and women are like locks."
@Berethor I'm always amazed how low value women tend to distort reality to feel better rather than reassess themselves like most guy would if something is a disaster.
@EmyyWolf Do you really think re uploading pictures people post themselves in here proves your point / make them ashamed or? If people were ashamed of their pics, they wouldn't post them here in the first place.
@Reichmann75 yea she live in a feminist dreamworld, high value men want a virgin.
@EmyyWolf Ok I think everything has been explained and you're tired now. You can go :p
I'm both surprised and disappointed by how most guys are responding to this. Please remember that, above all, you are a human being and your so called value is determined by how you live your life now and what you plan for the future, not how you've lived in the past. When you eventually find someone that you want to be romantically involved with your past has no relation to them (unless you have some sort of psycho ex that may try to harm them, never can be too careful after all) and you have no obligation to satisfy someone, pardon my words, with their heads so up their butts that they can't see you as a human being with dreams, aspirations and qualities, and instead boils your existence down to "virgin girl or the slut".
A person that likes/loves you does so not because of what you were in the past or what you did in the past, they'll do it because of what you are now, what they feel in your presence.
As time goes on you'll also realize that your value is yours, not placed onto you by others with their sometimes crazy standards, and when you do hopefully you'll be freed from such worries present in this question you asked.
@Malomy Everybody is judged by his past. Everybody. Whether you're applying for a job or going on court after a felony : you are judged by your past. You got fired from your 3 previous jobs? Good luck to find another one. It's your 3rd conviction for domestic violence? Good luck to convince the judge not to lock you up. Same applies for dating.
Mark my words, I don't think the topic owner is a slut because she had only 1 boyfriend, and the fact that she's already questionning her mistakes is honorable. But all what you're saying about "don't judge from the past, we are all human beings, what should matter is your dreams blablabla" is a fallacy. The facts are : guys don't like that their wife had sex with other dudes. It's not a quality, it's not sexy, and it doesn't add value to you. Most guys are flexible and don't think in terms of "either virgin or whore", but you can't tell bullshit like "I'm disappointed, they shouldn't care". They do and it's all that matters. Everytime you fuck someone that isn't the man of your life, you loose points to find him. That's all.
@Reichmann75 Precisely because of such opinions it is imperative to not care about how others will value you and instead become someone you're satisfied with, by virtue of numbers alone we as humans are unable to be physically alone in life unless you live in some very remote place. Once you're fine with yourself without the need for external input is when others that are compatible to like you will appear. it is also incredibly simplistic and selfish to define every single man in existence as "guys don't like that their wife had sex with other dudes" as if humanity in itself was some sort of hive mind, different people have different standards, just find someone that share yours and don't disturb the others unless your life is in danger because of them.
True, I want to marry a virgin, why would I want to marry a dirty girl? she not worthy.
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@Berethor "If Bob wants to get laid and has to choose between asking Alice, a beautiful woman with an active sex life, and Claire, a "plain" woman looking to keep her virtue for her wedding night, Bob will always choose Claire." I don't think that's true. I would choose Alice tbh. If I want to get laid, I don't care if the girl is a slut. I will protect myself and have fun. But when it comes to commitment, of course imma pick Claire.
@marish01 be careful what you say about others. Karmas a bitch and it might just come back to bite you on the ass :)
@Reichmann75 you is you, for me it's true, don't want slut even for one-night stand.
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@Berethor I think most men that doesn't have an obsession don't care to have sex with sluts. They've been having it since the dawn of time. Guys like you are a minority (otherwise almost no guy would fuck at all). You keep showing this random link like it's some sort of scientific source or whatever but it's just a random paragraph that some random dude wrote lol and I couldn't read it seriously after I read the first sentence which is bs lol
@Reichmann75
And you think a “ Claire” will look at you , you Goddam undesirable 🫵❓❓❓❓
Marriage is a social construct created by insecure, pathetic, weak males
Religion is a social construct created by insecure, pathetic weak, males.
Nobody has to be a virgin to find a good partner. An insecure male has to literally subjugate someone to feel better about himself.
Women don’t have to believe in a man sitting on a cloud so they can go to a fairytale land after death. Religion Is a cult!! It’s insanity!! If you want to believe in fairytales that’s your fault. But you can’t belittle others due to your insanity and mental illness. 🤡🤡🤡
Only religious CHURCH NUTS. Sinner Church nuts say this type of insane BULLSHIT. This woman is practically still a virgin for not having screwed bigger and better males. She’s fine.
No such thing as virginity. 🖕 So are you also gonna say that animals have a virginity and a lioness that has fucked before lost all her value?
Exactly! That’s fucking insane! That’s stupidity! That’s corruption!
Only UNDESIRABLE males says some bs like that 🫵. If some imbecile tries telling you that your value lies in your body count or how many dudes you kiss or date or screw? Run away from that type of guy. FAR FAR FAR AWAYYY! Don’t even look back. Move to different city or country and change your name. Those males are sociopathic and narcissistic. BE VERY CAREFUL ‼️ Those are predators, it’s why they want virgins and the only virgins are those in HighSchool! Keep far away from them!
If anything the more you masturbate or the more guys your screw. The better you become are having sex. And the tighter you become because the vagina is a muscle. And my muscle is strong as f-k from all the masturbating that I do.
DO NOT LISTEN TO THESE UNDESIRABLE MALES. SMALL D-K. NO TESTOSTERONE. NO MANHOOD, NO BRAVADO. PORN ADDICTED. EATROGEN INFUSED. BALD. UNDESIRABLE, WEAK, PATHETIC, NO FATHER, GROSTESQUE MEN. 🖕🖕🖕
@asker
Literally every narcissistic male in this comment section, looks ugly as shit!!
Every last one of them IS absolutely disgusting! 🤮 No woman is turning to look at any of them!
Not a single one of them! Look at that berethor guy. He said he watched Child P*RN too. These aren’t just undesirables, but they’re predators / pedophiles. They’re the type that rape the children of single mothers. Be very careful who you listen to. They themselves want high bodycounts for themselves but the woman shouldn’t be allowed to have a high bodycount.
WHAT THEY ACTUALLY WANT IS TO SUBJUGATE SOMEBODY ‼️ THATS WHAT THEY WANT!! ‼️ BE CAREFUL.
Your virginity or sex life is nobody’s business. It’s why it always tell these imbeciles that my body count is one, and I dress modestly. These fools literally can’t tell the difference! 😈 Literally they can’t at all. I’m still tight af.
The vagina is an elastic muscle that can push and pull. Many penises aren’t gonna do anything to you, WHATSOEVER.
Having childbirth will cause damage.
If you ever want to settle with some fool. Dress modestly, behave modestly. Say bodycount is 1, and you’ll be fine. LMAOO 😈😈
Don’t be so hard on yourself. I still found love even though I had sex with 3 guys before I met my fiancé. I felt like I lost mine out of desperation and loneliness at the time when I was single at the age of 22 but it was a conscious choice in the end and we used a condom at the time, I did wish at times I would’ve waited for it to be my fiancé instead of a random guy, but we all do stuff In life that isn’t perfect. We are human after all. If a guy really loves you that much your past won’t matter. How about them being virgins huh? Guys always get praised for how good they fucked a girl, high fives, talking about their bodies, joking etc but if a girl has had sex with at least 2-3 guys she’s automatically a “whore” fuck that message and their way of thinking. It’s double standard. Also any guy who acts like that is usually the toxic, jealous types so it’ll save you in the end if they reject you due to your virginity when they’ve screwed around themselves and have way too high of standards.
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Well the fact you feel bad shows you have moral values. Some people sleep around without any shame. Just pray to God. Repent. Pray for someone better because there’s better out there. Nobody is perfect. What’s different about you is your feel guilty and regret. Some people are wayyyy past that point
But will he still love me even though I'm not a virgin?
Asker. He’s human too. We all do things in our lives we regret. But the difference is we learn and grow from it. I’m sure God if you pray has someone for you who will love you.
I hope so. I believe in God but I feel terrible that I sinned. I went against his word and now I have to suffer the consequences :(
Then you need to pray. The fact that you feel bad says you’re still good
Do you think God will forgive me?
If you pray and repent yes. The fact that you feel bad shows you’re probably not too far gone. People have done a lot worse. Some
People don’t feel bad for anything anymore
I want to save myself for marriage from now on. Is that stupid?
Asker that’s not stupid at all. You’re a good person. Just keep praying
@Berethor men who have values and standards. Go away dude
You’re just some pervert on here I’m sure.
@Berethor I have taken the red pill. Dude. You’re a real idiot. I think feminists are IDIOTS. They are proud whores but also say… don’t objectify women.
Im a Christian. I think sleeping around is gross. You probably vote Democrat
@Berethor you are a perv. All you want to do on here is creep on women. If you were really red pilled. You wouldn’t sleep around with degenerate whores and would better your own life.
If you’re a man whore. No decent woman will want you dude. So stop taking your own frustrations out on all women lol.
I'm really sorry to hear about the tough time you had in your past relationship. It's totally understandable that you might be feeling guilty about how things turned out and about your choices. But I want you to know that your worth isn't determined by any single aspect of your life, including your past relationships.
You've been through a lot and you learned important things from that experience. Even though it was toxic, it helped you understand what you need and what's healthy in a relationship. That's valuable knowledge that you can carry forward.
Feeling like you won't be seen as a worthy partner because you didn't wait until marriage is a tough thought to deal with. But remember, real worth comes from who you are as a person and how you treat others. It's not tied to whether you waited or not. Everyone's journey is different, and a partner who truly cares about you will understand and accept your past.
When you're ready to move forward and potentially meet someone new, be open to communication. If the topic comes up, share your thoughts and feelings honestly. A person who's right for you will listen and appreciate your honesty.
And about waiting for marriage, that's a personal choice. There's no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships. What's most important is that you feel comfortable and true to yourself in whatever you decide.
Right now, focus on healing and taking care of yourself. Your well-being matters most, and when you're ready, you'll find someone who sees you for who you are and values the journey you've been on. If you find it hard to let go of these feelings, don't hesitate to reach out for support, like talking to a professional. You've got this, and you deserve happiness and love just like anyone else..
You are allowed a mistake or two - but not 38 or 91. Going forward, you need to focus less (not none, but less) on your FEELINGS of attraction and much more on your vetting process. Your feelings alone are NOT going to have your best interests in mind.
Focus on the man's morals, values, and life goals, and make sure those are compatible before you commit to him - and this means being thorough and taking some time. If possible, involve your father, older brother, or other experienced male relative in the vetting process. They will be able to see things that you won't. Take their advice seriously.
Did your ex fail you in initial attraction, or did he fail you in the areas of morals, values, or life goals? Clearly the latter. And that's because no matter how attractive a guy is initially, if he doesn't have the right morals, values, and life goals, a relationship cannot work long-term. Even if you really want it to and have super strong feelings in the beginning. Your feelings will betray you, so you cannot rely on them exclusively - even though most people think otherwise.
I went through a similar situation as you, but you're smarter than me because it wasn't until I slept with a second girl that I realized what a huge mistake I was making. I was also given terrible advice by cynical people who viewed sex with all the same passion as tying their own shoes that I just needed to have more casual sex to get past my feelings. I can tell you that's horrible advice.
I would say the most important thing you can do is ask God for forgiveness and forgive yourself. People make mistakes. What's important is that you realize you made a mistake, forgive yourself, learn from it, and move on.
In future relationships, be honest about losing your virginity and how you regretted it and now want to wait until marriage. I know speaking personally that I wouldn't look down on a person who had made a mistake like that and used it to mature and learn. It's the people who keep making the same mistakes and never learn who I want to avoid. Besides, it would be highly hypocritical of me to expect my future wife to have saved herself for me when I didn't do the same thing.
I'm sure there are plenty of great men out there who would have the same approach as I do.
“I was also given terrible advice by cynical people who viewed sex with all the same passion as tying their own shoes that I just needed to have more casual sex to get past my feelings.”
Lol, that’s my experience too
I can tell you that it's okay, but what you value and believe in is still up to you, and whether you consider virginity having certain symbolic meanings.
I thought I was going to save my first time for a guy that would be worth it, but I had my first sex when I was 2 months from turning 24 years old. He was my best friend and partner at that time.
However, he had commitment issue. I was with him for a bit over 3 years before I left. Did I later think that he was not worth it? I did, and I was hard on myself, but I learned to be okay with my past and learned from my mistakes.
I don't think a guy would think that you're not worth it because you're not a virgin. I feel that most guys probably wouldn't mind if a girl is virgin or not (but I'm not a guy, so correct me if I'm wrong).
I met a guy (34 y) who said he had done oral sex, but had not had penetrative sex, and he said his "virgin" status repelled most women he spoke to and they would just not text him anymore. From what I heard, I feel that some virgins might actually have more difficult time than virgins finding a long-term relationship partner.
Anyway, I think you're okay, so learn to make peace with yourself. I hope you'll feel better soon.
Well hello, I'm a guy and I'm correcting you cause you're wrong. Most guys do mind if a girl is virgin or not. We almost all prefer the girl to be virgin cause virgin is the best for a relationship. Period.
Most guys are flexible and don't think binary "this girl is either a virgin or a slut". Most guys can accept to have a serious involvment with a girl that isn't virgin. But do we mind? Yes we do. Would we prefer if she was a virgin? Yes we do.
Men and women aren't the same. A 30 years old + virgin guy will be seen as a redflag by most women because it means "the guy has not enough value to have sex, there must be something wrong with him". We men, don't think this way when it comes to women. Because unlike men who need to conquer women cause unlike you we're not flooded with opportunities, women don't have to make any effort to have sex. They just have to say and spread legs. So it's not a redflag for us if a girl is a late virgin. We're just thinking "wow, the girl can behave".
Edit : They just have to say yes and spread legs*
Most guys don't mind if a girl has slept with LIRALLY 1 or 2 men, but if they had the choice, if God came down and asked them: "Would you rather have a girl who slept with 1 or 2 men, or have a girl whose slept with NO men?", they'll say: "The latter, please."
It's good that you learned from your mistakes but I hope that hasn't led you to sexual liberty in terms of promiscuity because if it has, learning from your mistakes was useless.
I don't believe that guys would prefer a girl who's a virgin and has no experience in sex. I hear what you're saying here, but I don't believe that's how the reality is.
Plus there are guys that want to make advances even while dating women and not in relationships with the women yet.
I also haven't heard except one man who told me that he respected a woman with standards and boundaries, so while I hear what you say, I feel that a lot of you guys contradictive your own words with action.
I also have been told that women are "withholding" sex if they don't sleep with a guy by first or second date (before getting in a relationship) and apparently kissing seems like a must during dating and there seems no negotiation with that, otherwise women are strange or possibly & presumptively labeled as asexual.
@modeunae I also want to say that you don't even know me, so it was very rude to assume that just because I lost my virginity, it would "led to sexual liberty" and "promiscuity."
I have believed in less amount of sexual partners is better, that's why I don't sleep around and don't sleep with my dates, because I haven't been on many (around 6 in my life) but imagine if I had been dating 20+ guys which I know some women have done and didn't have my standards, that would've been terrible.
I am not contradictive, I turn-down a ho who was offering me easy sex, she dirty.
allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin
@Anonymous I mean you can believe anything you want but that's the problem with feminism. You were taught so much to believe that men and women are the exact same that you're ending up believing it. You are projecting yourself on guys and therefore you think that because you would prefer a guy who has experience in sex, guys would want the same from a girlfriend. It's simply not true.
We guys like to be the ones who fix and teach things. We like to be the leaders. We don't care if our girlfriend isn't a pornstar. We will gladly teach her to be WITH US. As much as we don't want an independant woman blablabla, we don't want a girl that had past relationships with a guy she already bonded with.
We are not contradictive. MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT. You view sex as an emotional connexion. We don't. We view sex as a fun thing to do, and we don't care if we like the girl or want to be with her. We can have sex with almost anyone and leave afterwards. Just because a man is cruising on you for sex and tells you things you want to hear doesn't mean he actually think that. The only men you can eventually trust are the ones who are actually not chasing your ass. Guys who actually pushes to fuck you, most of them are not really looking for a relationship with you. They just try to get cheap sex the easy way. That's why many good looking men with status are having matches with unatractive women on Tinder and so for example. We are down to fuck, but by no means we'd ever like to actually be in a relationship with that girl or make her the mother of our kids.
@Anonymous You are distorting reality for it to fit your background. I don't blame you for that, most women do this tbh. You don't sleep around, you "believe in less amount sexual partners is better" so your inner self knows that the less sexual experience the woman have, the better the man is viewing her. Yet you already had some, so you persuade yourself that "oh, but a bit of experience is a good thing" : No it isn't. Most guys won't mind cause they don't have the choice, they are not flooder with opportunities with women. But ANY guy will prefer the virgin over the none virgin.
A man value resides in his physique (tall, muscular, pretty), his finances, his social status and his charisma.
A woman value resides in her physique, her youth, and her sexual past.
We don't care if a woman is a successfull business woman. Women don't care if we're virgins. But we do care about your sexual past. If you are virgin, you are optimal on this point. If you had a few guys, you are not optimal on this point. If you had lots of guys, you are trash on this point. You can always compensate with other traits. But this one is just not optimal because : MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT.
The perfect couple would be the tall musclar pretty guy who's rich, successful and charming with the 18-20 years old virgin pretty girl.
The total looser couple would be the short, fat and defformed guy who's poor, living on welfares, with absolute 0 charisma, with the fat 30+ years old woman who had the cock carroussel for years.
There is nothing contradictive or harsh to understand about this.
@Reichmann75 I think you're very arrogant and prejudiced to assume that I want a guy who has had "experience" in sex. Even if you've met a lot of women who think that way, it doesn't mean that every woman thinks the same way. I hear you say men and women think differently, but guess what? No 2 women think the same way, so stop making prejudiced assumptions.
First of all, just because a guy is not a virgin does not mean that he would be good at pleasing women. Second of all, just because a guy is a virgin does not mean that he will be bad at sex.
Hence, I don't care if a guy is a virgin or not, but it's very unlikely to find a guy who is, that's why I prefer a guy with less sexual partners. That's my rationale, not how your arrogant assumptions make yourself believe my reasons to be.
I actually dated a guy who's a virgin (by his definition, never had penetrative sex). He said other women would stop texting him after finding out that he's a virgin. I did not mind and told him that didn't change my mind on dating him.
I don't think the gender "male" excuses guys from sleeping with a lot of females and shame females for not being virgins. Gender equality right?
Hold on hold on time out. Your vCard is not your self worth your self-worth is your heart your soul your mind your spirit how beautiful you are on the inside how confident how smart you are helping hands for others that's yourself worth that's who you truly are you're not your vagina you're not your
And when you gave your love to your ex that's exactly what it was so accept that you haven't done anything wrong and if a man wants you just because of your v card tell him to go take a flipping hike you don't want him anyway
Any man that measures you measures your worth by whether you're a virgin or not is not right in the head and you do not want to be with him anyway so
Advice love yourself accept yourself accept what you did with your ex because of your love that you have for him
Your Love changed it's okay it was meant to change so you find somebody that treats you and respects you the way you're supposed to be treated and respected so start your life right now be happy love yourself everything will work out
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It's essential to remember that your worth is not determined by your past or any decisions you've made. Here are some things to consider:
1. Your worth is not determined by your past: Your value as a person, and as a potential partner, is not determined by your past relationships or decisions. A loving and understanding partner will see you for who you are now and the journey you've been through, rather than judge you for past choices.
2. Communication: If you enter a new relationship and the topic of past relationships comes up, it's essential to communicate your feelings and experiences. A partner worth having will understand and support you.
3. Cultural and societal pressures: Sometimes, societal or cultural beliefs can influence our feelings of guilt or shame. Remember that these are constructs, and they change over time. What's most important is how you feel about yourself and your decisions, not what society dictates.
4. Future relationships: When you're ready to enter a new relationship, look for someone who respects and values you for who you are, not for your past. A person who judges you based on past relationships might not be the right fit for you.
5. Reframe your narrative: Instead of seeing your past relationship as a mistake, consider viewing it as a learning experience that has made you stronger and more aware of what you want and don't want in a relationship.
Remember, everyone has a past, and everyone makes decisions they might later question. What's most important is how you grow from these experiences and how you move forward. Your worth is intrinsic and is not determined by any past decisions or relationships.
I can top that. I lost my v card (cute. I used to use the same verbage for that kind of stuff too!). But anyway, I lost MINE to a one night stand!
Anyway, no I don't think your next relationship they will care so much. Virginity is in a sense, overrated anyway. My fiance doesn't care that I am not a virgin. You made your choices and well... and maybe also you were just very attracted to him and so you brushed off his "not so good" qualities. Don't worry. You cannot turn back the time. All you can do now is move forward and be thankful that you don't have BAGGAGE from him (at least in terms of a permanent physical one like a baby or an std/sti). You will fall in love again, especially if the next relationship is WAY better and more compatible with your last one. Good luck!
Compatible than your last one I mean. Not with. Anyway you get my point. Your next love will NOT care. He just wants so spend the present and future with you, if all goes well.
@Berethor
Marriage is a social construct created by males
Religion is a social construct created by males.
Nobody has to be a virgin to find a good partner.
You’re an insecure male if you have to literally subjugate someone to feel better about yourself.
Women don’t have to believe in a man sitting on a cloud so they can go to your fairytale land after death. Religion!! Is a cult. It’s insanity!!
If you want to believe in fairytales that’s your fault. But you can’t belittle others due to your insanity and mental illness. 🤡🤡🤡
Only religious CHURCH NUTS. Sinner Church nuts say this type of insane BULLSHIT.
This woman is practically still a virgin for not having screwed bigger and better males. She’s fine.
No such thing as virginity. 🖕 So are you also gonna say that animals have a virginity and a lioness that has fucked before lost all her value? 
You’re mentally challenged if to UNDESIRABLE says some bs like that 🫵
@EmyyWolf marriage is more useful to women, women get fucked and dumped.
en.wiktionary.org/.../why_buy_the_cow_when_you_can_get_the_milk_for_free
@Berethor
They only get fucked and dumped by bad males. Low quality males.
That’s exactly what you are.
Women are just as sexual as men are. We don’t have to stop sex or masturbation because you say so. Because your fairy tale book says so.
Who tf gave your that authority!
you're NOTHING!
you're NO ONE!
you're ANOTHER AN ANT 🐜.
YOU HAVE NO WORD, you're FORGETABLE!!
@EmyyWolf male lions deal with the paternity issue by killing the cubs when they take over a pride. When they do so it causes the lionesses to go into heat. Males naturally abhor cuckoldry because it is equivalent to extinction, it is a law of nature.
@DextroShade yea male lions are alpha males, and that's why they are not cucks.
@DextroShade
Yeah, doesn’t mean the female lioness loses value
Your finance doesn't care that you're not a virgin but that's probably because you haven't been on the cock carousel.
As for the other things you said, you're right. Besides the fact that her next relationship WILL be better. That is determined by how she'll manoeuvre with men, *this* time.
@EmyyWolf Hoe behaviour isn't always as bright as the Sun. You'll notice small ques, small things that the woman does or says that prove the worships cock, or just likes being a whore. Some women just love being naked with an amount of men they can't even remember. Some are just whores like that 🤷🏽♂️
And the fact that you know there's consequences to a whore acting like a whore says a lot about *you.* You must be trying so hard not to show men you belong to the streets, right? 😄 Doing your best to make sure they don't see you're public property because you realised if you do you're FUCKED, huh? 😄 Man... it must hurt being a hoe. Just keep quiet and go back to sucking dicks in sight, hoe.
@EmyyWolf You keep mentioning "fairytale book". You must hate the thought of God existing because He keeps people, especially women in check, huh? Life sucks when you're a whore. No future with a lovely husband and children, peace of mind and happiness in the heart knowing you saved yourself for you man, only hurt, shame and regret that keeps you awake at night knowing you're worthless to males.
"A whore is worth less than spit." - Sirach 26 🖕🏾
The thought that you think that you lost value makes me think that you’re closer to 18 than 24. There are some people who will wait for marriage but by your mid to late twenties most people lose their virginity. So long as you’re not going too wild only having one or two partners is not a major turnoff for most men. You can still find an amazing partner that will love you for the qualities that you possess. I think some people will judge you more harshly but it is easy to judge when things just work out the way you want them to which isn’t true for everyone. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad.
Doesn't really matter, how many partners you have had, 1 or 20, because you can lie when it comes to dating , no one will ever know your body count. Don't get me wrong, been honesty is a good and honourable trait to have, but most of the time, it doesn't server you in this world. As my mum said, no thanks for been a hero, and I have experienced her advice, and I found people in general didn't respect me anymore for been honest than if I lied.
Your past doesn't matter or body count, what matter is you as a person have changed going forward.
I would rather date a girl who has a body count of 10, who has great personality, than a virgin who is an utter bitch, body count shouldn't determine the overall aspect of someone's personality.
However Rei, I am not saying your comment is wrong, or bad. Overall I think your comment is good. I am just adding a different perceptive to the situation.
@Hulk_kitty I don’t think you’re wrong either and I think what you said was very well put. Both comments can be true. I think when it comes to dating you should go for someone whose values match yours but that doesn’t mean someone who has had multiple partners, for example, does not have value. Life happens to all of us and that is okay.
I agree with that Rei, well said.
@berethor get a life. Stop commenting on hymens it's bloody weird how obsessed you are with my post.
@Berethor
Hymen is NOT a reliable indicator of virginity
Hymen CAN tear without sex as well
And plus there are ways to have sex without tearing the hymen as well
You really need to study biology 🤦🏻♂️
@EmanTerces I don't believe you but I do believe in hymen, it serve as indicator
@Berethor Thanks for the advice, Berethor, but I am not really interested inspecting or navigating a womens vagina to see if she is a virgin or a slut, and I have no interest to become a pro in that area. Better things to do with my time, than worrying about how womens vagina should look, as long as its reasonably normal.
It's absolutely not true that you've lost your worth and a future romantic partner shouldn't view or judge you based on your past sexual or romantic experiences. Your first experience with a romantic partner doesn't define your worth or value as a person and doesn't affect your ability to find and build a loving and fulfilling relationship with someone. In addition, you had valid reasons for ending the relationship and recognizing that the relationship was hurting your mental health, which is extremely important. So you shouldn't feel any guilt or shame for your decision, it seems like you're doing what's best for you.
Worth?
Well there is "WORTH" as in being a human and your worth as a person and being alive. Everyone has value regardless of their sex life.
There is also a "WORTH" on the sexual market place. Are you a prime catch as a wife or someone a lot of men would pass on.
The more sex you have the chances of you being unhappy in a relationship go down and your chances of getting divorced go up. The more sex you have the more guys will not be interested for the "WIFE/MOM" category.
life happens. you didn't "lose your worth" because you loved someone and wanted to be close to them. the most you can do now is just move on and learn from the experience. but you cannot prevent yourself from making "mistakes", that's just not realistic. you could have been with him for 10 years and this could have happened. it doesn't make you worthless. also, this could have happened if you did get married and you waited for marriage to have sex. divorce happens. what then? you can't predict the future. just do what you think is right at the time. that's the most you can do.
don't let social media and weird men with fetishes tell you that non virgins don't make worthy wives. that is the most ridiculous thing i've heard. you're going to be okay!
If you wanted to wait until you were married, well, that time has passed and is no longer in play. So you are not a virgin. Do you think any guy you meet these days is a virgin? I don't understand the thought pattern of thinking a girl has to be a virgin, but a guy doesn't. Besides, seems people are proud of their body count anymore. I don't understand what there is to be proud of, but it is what it is. So don't sweat it. If some guy can't accept you without your virginity, that is their loss. You just be true to yourself.
We learn lessons too late. I had a virgin girlfriend who was 19. She told me that she was. After penetrating her vagina, I hit her hymen. If I had it to do over again, I would NOT have broken her hymen, but would have continued fucking without penetrating her that far, and she would have STILL technically been a virgin. Too late to go back.
That said, I don't think I would see anyone in a different light that had sex with multiple partners and I was in that position, many times. I would not agonize over it, Done is done. Fuck them if they don't like it.
My regret was the virgin that I broke her hymen ended up hating me for that reason, as be broke up soon after, and I think she felt that I robbed her.
@Bricealan she crazy feminist ho, don't care about what she say, she is trash.
Ohh , don't remotely worry about it , the Cherry had to be popped at some point , you were together 2 years , you are young..
In the Grand scheme of life , its no a big deal , we learn with experience.
Thank you :)
Than why haven't you waited till marriage, why did you gave him your everything, he's not even worth it!
Another guy wouldn't betray his love's trust, will continue the relationship and marry her!
These days if you're living in the west it's something normal, i think that the majority won't care, even worldwide in this generation, people aren't giving so much importance about it but personally i do care, i mean now you can sleep with anyone and say that they were toxic and in the end if you find the one, there will be a bunch of guys who used you and slept with you before him and it ain't comforting at all...
@Berethor true, cause if the majority weren't beta males than there would be no such thing as feminism, especially the feminism of this era, crazy barking h*es marching on the streets
Let me guess. You're from a religious family or from a traditional society. So am I. I don't intend to discourage you but most religious/traditional guys including myself do prefer virgin girls. But then again there could be those who accept you as well. Still the more partners you have the lesser your chances get. I don't mean any of this in a judgmental way but you got to understand that people have different values and perspectives. Wish you the best in finding someone who accepts your past. Just don't lie about it.
@Berethor
People make mistakes. It's not good to judge them. They should just take accountability.
@Berethor
That's your choice. I also want a virgin girl because I myself am also virgin and I want something special and exclusive. But there's a way to say things. You can't be outright disrespectful.
@Anonymous I can, I am all about brutal honesty, so I am saying things my way.
https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Brutal_Honesty
@Berethor
Brutal Honesty? Ok there’s brutal honesty.
You’re completely undesirable, you look like a porn-addict off the bat. No woman turns to look at you. You’re only mad others can get sex, while you obviously can’t. So you want to stop as many people as you can.
THATS BURTAL HONESTY 👍
@EmyyWolf
I just want to make it clear that although I am a guy who does hold traditional values I don't endorse the way @Berethor is talking here.. I have my views but I don't mean any disrespect to anyone
Okay just realized that @EmyyWolf is not worth defending either.. Just the opposite extreme end of the spectrum
@Asker
Ignore them both.. My opinion is based on both reality and empathy and I'm pretty sure we're from similar backgrounds so you could relate more.. You're either Muslim or maybe Hindu or maybe a really religious Christian.. Is that correct?
You are sort of in the widow category. A widow isn't going to be a virgin but it doesn't mean she wouldn't make a good wife.
If instead of being in a relationship for 2+ years, you had spent it having sex with as many guys as you could so as to be 'hot', then yes I would say you had destroyed your value.
But you haven't, so I don't believe you have
Actually. I dumped him thanks :)
@Berethor My point is that there is a difference between a girl who has run through as many guys as she could from when she was 12 and a girl who has had one sexual relationship for 2+.
I was using widow as an analogy of a woman who has prior sexual experience but within a relationship and retains market value. There is no info provided that indicates the Asker has pumped and dumped a lot.
It is up to us individually but I would accept a low mileage girl whilst I wouldn't accept a run through girl other than for running through.
@Berethor Granted if a girl had had 2 bfs and 101 one night stands plus a side job in a brothel you probably won't hear about the last two.
But even with a hymen it might be a reconstructed hymen. There is a specialist clinic near me for this.
If she saving her self for the wedding night that's great. But if she is 29 then maybe she isn't really interested in sex and she won't want to have sex much after you marry her.
I would tend to go by how many relationships she has been in and want a few test drives. Not that I intend to marry anyway so I don't need to be that concerned with this.
@Berethor Interesting chart. Men are more likely to consider a marriage happy by 15 points than women. That degrades to a 5 point gap after 2 partners except there is a significant divergence at 4 and 6-10 partners. Curious there are rises in female happiness at 3, 5 and 11++ partners. Was that discussed?
People are more likely to do what they have done before and I would put cheating in that category.
"virginity" until marriage, is only for kids. If you plan on having kids, you're supposed to wait until you're married, according to the bible. Hell, you could say you're still a virgin, if you don't want kids, just to say you're still a virgin.
So I can tell him I'm a virgin when I'm not?
You don't believe in god but say God bless hymen? Weird. You know. One day you'll get seriously hurt with your stupidity
www.plannedparenthood.org/.../virginity
Read something, educate yourselves, idiots
@Berethor It's a. org site, dummy. THATS A GOVERNMENTAL SITE
@Berethor Governoent is run, by a male, lol. Your own REPUBLICAN PRESIDENT is a male, our own democratic president, IS A MALE
GOVERNMENT*
GET THE FUCK OVER IT, THEYRE NOT FEMINISTIS
FEMINISTS*
LEARN FUCKING SOMETHING, YOU FUCKING RETARD
You were in a serious relationship. It is not like you had a one night stand. Do not beat yourself up and let yourself off the hook. I would not even think about this and I am sure the majority of guys feel the same way.
My case is the exact same of yours. But mine was even worse cuz I lost my virginity to him under two months (and I was just 16) even when I wanted to wait till marriage. It makes me sad that the next guy would never accept it so I should hide it. But you know what lying never helps so definitely not hide it cuz he's gonna find it some or the other day. And right now focus on yourself and try talking out things with some one you trust. If there's no one. Try talking out with some counselor or just make yourself busy and see your worth. That you gave soo much to the person who doesn't value you so how much more you can giveto that person who's gonna actually value the efforts you make. Best wishes gurl. May we all ladies find someone who really respects us and deserves us
A couple of opinions.
1) Saving your first experience to have with your husband can be really special. It can also be a disappointment if the first time is clumsy or quick or awkward. What really makes sex with your husband special is the emotion that drives the experience.
2) Any man who won’t marry you because you aren’t a virgin is a man you should immediately walk away from. His head is a mess, and you’re going to wind up miserable.
3) In the future, if you’re going to be intimate with another boyfriend just make sure you’re doing it because you want to do it. Don’t share your intimacy with someone just to keep them around. You are valuable, and if they can’t see this they aren’t worth your time and energy.
The sex you had with your boyfriend doesn’t make you less desirable or less special. Ultimately, it probably just taught you something about what you do and don’t want in future relationships.
To be honest yea, you should waited till marriage, virgin girls are wife material, it's a fact.
Please wake up and get back to 2023 not 1933.
Virgin women aren't wife material, what kind of dumb ish is that?
Virginity doesn't determine someone's heart and kindness and love.
Everyone is born a virgin and not all women who married as a virgin are good wives and mothers as some Hollywood BS show or movie presents.
You 35 and you think you gonna find a virgin? LMBO
The only virgin you gonna find is children or mentally retarded women.
And if dare to sexual touch a child sexually you should die a horrible death.
I am not Muhammad, not looking for a child, any female over 16 is not a child.
www.thereligionofpeace.com/.../WWMD.aspx
You actually think you gonna find a virgin woman especially a good looking one? 😂
I have a better chance making it to the NBA at my age.
If you were in your teens or early 20's I could say yes.
You 35 years old and woman in your age range aren't virgins unless they are mentally handicap or super ugly.
And if you do happen to meet a woman that is younger than you by 10 years it doesn't mean she's gonna want you anyways if she is a virgin.
Live in the real world and quit worshipping a woman's virginity.
Makes you look pathetic and silly at your age.
Good luck in your fantasy land in your head.
@Hispanic-Cool-Guy
Yeah I don't know where tf this UNDESIRABLE is gonna find that shit lol
Iran? Pakistan 🇵🇰? But they won’t even accept him there if he’s not a virgin himself 🖕
@EmyyWolf: The way he speaks, he's a virgin himself as it appears to me (which I don't have a problem with) so I understand why he wants a virgin woman as well but at his age he has to be realistic.
If he's hell bent on being with a virgin woman only then most likely he will never get a woman.
@Hispanic-Cool-Guy
He says he wants to rape a 17yo. And I say rape, because no 17yo is gonna look at him.
@berethor PERDATOR!
I hope the authorities find him soon 🖕
@EmyyWolf age of consent where I live is 16 so authorities gonna do nothing.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent
Oh yeah? I’m still sure no 16 or 17, or 18 or 19.. etc … IS GONNA LOOK AT YOU 😂😂
Sorry, truth is brutal right 😂😂
And if the authorities won’t do anything, after you groom someone? I hope the father does something to you. Because if I was the mother of my daughter. I’d f-king ☠️end you, no questions asked. 😂🖕 You would have to make your last wishes. 😂🖕
My advice is to accept that you've lost your virginity and try not to occupy your mind eith it, and focus on what you CAN bring to the table, not what you can't.
Something worth mentioning is that not all guys care for or even prioritize virginity. In fact, plenty don't. Personally, that's a quality I find quite compelling, it's fairly high on my preferences, but it's not a deal breaker.
Everyone makes mistakes (not to say that not waiting for marriage is inherently a mistake, it's subjective). Personally, I'm saving myself, but I did have a bit of a promiscuous phase regarding sharing nudes with people online. And in a way I regret it. I kind of wish that side of me could only have been seen and appreciated by one person.
But that's not something I can change, I can't go back in time and neither can you. So, learn from this, let it influence your actions going forward, but do not dwell on it. Like I said, focus on the things you can provide, not what you can't.
But no, you haven't lost your worth. What you can bring to the table is much, MUCH more than just virginity.
I don't view losing virginity prior to marriage as an immoral thing. And even if you claim otherwise, I'm quite certain you value and prioritize many things above virginity. It can matter a great deal to you, but it does not "matter most" to any reasonable person.
nobody is a virgin on their wedding day nowadays. its quite funny how you assume most people are virgins until after marriage. Very few people wait till marriage.
and just a word of advice: listening to the misogynists on here will ruin your mental health way more than your ex. get off this site if you want to be around good people.
Its going to vary depending on the person, but I'd personally only be with a virgin.
I'm still saving myself for the right woman.
I can't imagine having sex only to find out years later she doesn't actually love me.
You should know a person completely and know what you want before humping them.
It’s understandable being in a long term relationship where the guy just dropped you after two years. It’s not like it was a one night stand. You’re basically virginal with a body count of one compared to most people whose body counts are well into the triple digits.
There are plenty of men who won’t hold this against you and a small number who will. The latter are no longer compatible with you. The important thing to do is to learn all you can from this experience, study up on how to see warning signs of personality disorders, and be better able to avoid manipulative men in the future.
That's ridiculous!! There isn't a single girl I've ever fucked that was anywhere CLOSE to being a virgin! In fact, so far, I've NEVER fucked a single girl! All 3 were all married, at the time!! And two of them had already had kids!! and, after me, they all went off and found other guys to fuck!
I'm the same exact as you. So our value is less than a virgin for many men. But many religious men even are okay with marrying a woman as long as she has a low bodycount and have good qualities.
So you have great value if you choose to act on good qualities:)
I feel so alone in my silly actions so it's nice to know I'm not. I hope you are right. I just worry he will find out I am not a virgin and then no longer want me. It makes me wonder if I should keep it a secret :/
Its not that silly if you look in the world we live. Its bad we both made a misstake but many women have 10+ bodycounts with Onlyfans.
I think you should tell him the truth
What if he leaves me because I tell him
then at least you have done the right thing:)
@Asker
Don't lie to him. It will only make things worse if he finds out. Tell him the truth and accept whatever he decides. That's the most decent thing to do now.
@EmanTerces yes I agree 100%
@asker ignore everything @Brethor is saying. He is not normal traditional he is an extremist 35 year old virgin in Israel. Do NOT respond to him. You are not a whore and so am not I. God will always love you. You made a mistake so did I but the only thing we can do is learn from it be honest about it with our partners and pray to God for forgiveness. You can be forgiven, I have been confirmed for myself already but you have to be able to forgive yourself too. Wish you the best!:)
Do you feel less about yourself too though?
I used too. And I know my value is not the same at the marriage market but after praying for forgivness and being told I'm forgiven and God still loves me then no. Cause thats whats most important
Can I ask what religion you are?
Christian
@Asker
Dont feel less about yourself. You made a mistake but don't let the guilt consume you. Just take accountability and face whatever consequences your actions might bring. But I'm sure you will find someone who will accept you as well. Maybe look for guys who have made similar mistakes but have realized them and changed since then.
I feel so disgusted with myself. I should have known better. I have this guilt eating me out everyday. I almost want to kill myself. What if I'll never find my true love?
@EmanTerces she should look for an ugly guy, maybe he would take a non-virgin.
You are not disgusting listen to what @emanterces is saying. You made a mistake all you can do now is pray for forgiveness and be honest about it.
@Asker
Please calm down. It's alright. Ignore the toxic people who will shame you for your actions. You don't deserve that. If you are finding it hard to deal with it then I'd suggest praying or meditating because you seem to be a religious person. And it's normal for people to fear not finding their true love. You'll find the one. Trust me.
@EmanTerces :) yeah thank you too! It's rare on this site lol
@EmanTerces I'm Christian and am Northern European.
I am muslim and I live in 🇦🇺 Australia
Oh well.. I'm neither of those.. Hindu from India here.. But I realized that us religious/traditional people have similar values regardless of our beliefs 😂
Anyways that's not the point.
@Asker
Don't overthink and overstress yourself. It'll be alright. Besides you lost your virginity in a long-term relationship. It's not like it was a casual fling or one-night-stand. Just be more careful from now on.
@EmanTerces haha yeah true it is beautiful how we can relate to each other. I've noticed real traditional, religious people realize we can be forgiven. We aren't Incels lol but we learn from our misstakes. Can't really do more than that.😅
Can you piss off @berethor. You've said enough. Go away. @emanterces yeah I'm muslim but I'm a white Muslim (European decent) he was Muslim too but he really manipulated me and I thought he loved me but I realised the way he was treating me wasn't love. The trauma it has given me almost makes me want to stay single forever and have a child through sperm donor instead 😂
The funny this is @brethor is not even religious he hates on religions😭😂
So why does he want a virgin if he's not religious? Weird
@brethor are you a virgin?
@Asker because I don't want a dirty ho, if I am virgin or not is the discussion here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Im8vXA6PVGY
@asker you are not a whore you are a traditional women with one misstake. Just pray for forgiveness. God (or Allah as you say) is the most important right? His love is always first so just pray for forgiveness and be honest about it with your husband.
I dont know enough about islam on how to pray for forgivness or if it can be forgiven but I trust you know already:)
I believe God would have forgiven me already, however I still get caught up in the wants of the world and worry of what others will think
I understand well no ones opinion on this subject should matter other than God and your future husband
@Asker
It's possible to not be religious and still give importance to virginity.. The reason why I prefer virgin is less to do with religion and more to do with wanting to share something exclusive with my partner.. But of course that doesn't mean I agree with @Berethor in any possible way.. It's important to respect different people's views and perspectives
@Asker
Do whatever makes you feel better.. Praying for example will help.. Don't make the same mistake again.. If you've only had one partner and that too was a serious relationship then there will be many guys who accept you.. Of course not everyone will but that's just someone you have to accept.. But you don't deserve to be shamed or disrespected.. You are still worthy as a human being.. Don't let anyone make you believe otherwise
I just think I will stay single forever. I'm not ugly and ik that. But I don't feel I'll ever find the perfect guy. So why settle
perfect doesn't exist. You are not perfect either so we all settle
@Asker
It's your choice if you want to remain single. But if it's just because of the guilt then don't think like that. Nobody is perfect. But some day someone can definitely come real close. And I think that's worth believing.
I just think I will stay single forever. I'm not ugly and ik that. But I don't feel I'll ever find the perfect guy. So why settle? I'll just stay with me and my dog hehe
Oh I don't know why that posted twice sorry!
No I mean perfect for me. Someone who will love me for me and someone i will love for them
Yeah that's what I meant. You'll find someone like that. If you feel like you won't because you've had one failed relationship then let me tell you that I also had a breakup last year and I was just as hopeless after that. But life goes on.
Did you have sex before marriage? Did you feel any guilt or anything?
I got really close to doing it several times but I didn't actually ever did it. But it's got more to do with the right timing than my self-control. But now I'm glad I didn't do it because I didn't end up with this girl anyways. I'll now continue saving myself for the right person.
you're very lucky. I was pressured into my first time. I hope it turns out great for you..
Okay @Asker you didn't mention that you were pressured into it.. In that case it's even lesser your fault and even more the guy's fault.. You don't need to feel guilty for it
@EmanTerces @asker do NOT respond to @berethor its a waste of time. He is a hateful lonely man in Israel who shits on religion. Do not waste your energy. :)
@OpinionOwner
Haha well I realized that already. I'm only interested in providing genuine help here. I'm not going to go into the ideological arguments on either side. My religious and cultural values tell me to respect people, not demean them. In a world where extremists on both sides are shaping the narrative we need to raise our balanced voices as well.
@EmanTerces im glad to hear that😊 You set a good example on here!
I'm feeling that a lot of people here are not taking her religious/cultural context into account. They're giving advices without understanding how important these things can be for some people. I don't blame them but as someone who basically lives in a traditional society that is also Westernizing rapidly I can clearly see the contrast.
@EmanTerces yes but the problem is people who aren't religious usually think God doesn't forgive. Meaning if you make a misstake you are doomed but thats not the case
Yeah that is true. Many non-religious or secular individuals have a very distorted view on religion. In my opinion religion basically provides a set of moral guidelines. It's good to follow them but sometimes people do make mistakes. But they should be corrected and not shamed.
@EmanTerces yes I agree with that! It's sad but true
Don't even have a second thought. If you live in most countries in the world 95% of men won't be bothered by this at all. You are human, they understand that. Humans do things they later regret. Any man worthy of your love will understand that. There is more to purity than virginity. It is in the heart and soul.
@berethor
The heart and soul of a man who lacks empathy, compassion and forgiveness is corrupted.
@RingOfFire compassion is weakness, I prefer to judge women who acted dirty.
Feel free. That is your right. But its my right to believe that a lack of compassion is immoral.
so why didn't you wait till marriage as you said?
this will be a hard sell to your future husband that he has to wait while your ex didn't have to which will demonstrate who you truly love and prioritize
You said 'I always wanted to wait till marriage'. All you can do now is move forward and ensure you enforce your own boundaries in future. That is the reason why you feel fear, you allowed your own boundaries to be crossed without enforcing them. Thus ensuring you don't make that mistake again is the key to peace.
Virginity doesn't determine your worth nor the kind of heart you have.
Don't listen to the idiot incels on this site who worship virginity as if it's God.
Learn from your mistakes and don't go around having sex with men who aren't your husband next time.
@emyywolf: You cold af. You killing these dudes with your comments. 😂
Look... Im pretty traditional guy... Its ok to lose a vcard to someone you love/loved. Guys dont like women who have high bodycount aka they go out and look for onenight stands and miss all the chemistry and companionship, but you are not like that. So you will be fine.
hi, let me tell you something. Hear this out I once was 19 and said to myself damn I have never had a boyfriend nor lost my virginity. I’ll probably end up single for the rest of my life. Then, I met this guy …. Completely caught my attention. That doesn’t happen to me normally. Very alluring and I caught his interest too. Forward, we started talking , went out to eat. But , I was very naive.
@Berethor that’s a fucked up mentality you have
@Berethor and men are fake and evil it’s a fact
@736_switch_blade you hate all men, I hate only hos, you are extremist it seems.
Majority of men doesn't care for it in my country France, in yours I don't know but I'm pretty sure you could easily find quite a fews who wouldn't care. Usually so long as you have less than 3 body count you're ok.
You haven’t lost any worth and can still find love. I wasn’t a virgin when I got married.
It's definitely going to make it harder and limit the men you have access to, but there will still be decent men in the same boat as you who you can find love with.
Most men have made the same mistake as her at least once, and the ones that recognize the harm of continuing to be a whore will also already be waiting for marriage and only want a woman who is doing the same. If she continues to sleep around she will not have any access to decent men, since men who sleep around are never worth anything.
@LazerBean: This guy is obsessed with worshipping a woman's virginity.
He thinks virginity determines someone's whole being as being bad or good as a person.
@Hispanic-Cool-Guy yea it tells me if the woman is angel or devil, basically. :)
@Berethor: No it doesn't. You never left the basement or touched a woman sexually obviously.
Everyone is born a virgin and virginity doesn't inherently mean ish to a person's character as this world is filled with horrible people in both genders.
The thing is, I totally agree with him that virgins by choice are worth A LOT more. Which is why I think it's ludicrous for a non virgin man (lesser value, if not completely worthless) would think a virgin woman would choose them rather than the men who are way higher quality that they have access to because they chose to stay virgin.
@LazerBean: Complete bull. Yes, a woman being a virgin is nice but her heart is what matters most, not wheather if she had sex already.
If she's a virgin but a b*&%$ of a person then her virginity doesn't nothing.
@Hispanic-Cool-Guy a heard of a ho don't worth much, I want a pure good woman.
@Hispanic-Cool-Guy I mean heart of ho, why marry someone not pure, likely to cheat.
@Berethor: Whatever you say. You delusional. You the same dude that said in another post that if a woman use a sex toy while being a virgin isn't a virgin anymore. Smh.
You never been with a woman and most likely never will. You are extremely weird.
@Hispanic-Cool-Guy I said she not virgin physically and that she has lost her proof.
@Berethor: You don't know what a virginity means.
By your logic if a woman is giving oral sex and taking it in the rear but not in her vagina then she's still a virgin which is asinine.
You are trying to change the meaning of words like the woke ideology does.
Hymen intact doesn't mean a woman is a virgin.
For one a Hymen can break though her stretching, playing sports etc.
If a man or woman has never engaged in sexual activity with another person then they are a virgin point blank.
@Hispanic-Cool-Guy only oral is technical virgin, and virgin should use sidesaddle.
https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Technical_Virgin
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sidesaddle#History
@Berethor: No such thing as a technical virgin no more than some religious girls think they can become a born again virgins.
Once sexual activity has taken place with another person sexual innnonce and virginity is gone.
If your body count is only 1 then you are still in a much better position to find a man than most of your peers who are probably in the double digits. That you recognize that body count matters speaks to your character.
@EmyyWolf a whore's satisfaction is irrelevant. Have fun dying alone.
@DextroShade
There’s multiple big dick males. With actual testosterone. Deep Voice. Thick Eyebrows that have made me orgasm. 😂🖕.
Not sure why you say it’s irrelevant they all care.
If you have small tiny pinky d-k or you have acordeón 🪗 d-k. You’re probably the one who’s dying alone 😂😂
You are fine.. you will find your partner just don't keep sleeping with men.. make sure you really know the next guy and that he will treat you right..
I thought he would treat me right. He was so perfect in the beginning and after a year of waiting I thought we would get married so I let him. But then a year after that it turned sour. Would it be wrong of me to wait until I get married to do it again?
You can absolutely wait until marriage to do it again.. its your body and if you want to wait then wait to make sure the next guy is right for you.
I just feel like it's almost stupid to practise abstinence when I can't wait till marriage as a virgin anymore. People in my community and religion would shun me if they found out. But thank you for your advice, Anemone978 :)
@Berethor I know you are upset because girls don't want you especially virgins but no need to always attack them for having sex..
You have not lost anything. Your age says 18-24, it’s normal from my experience that a girl that age range isn’t a virgin. Being with 1 guy doesn’t make you a slut and anyone that says that has bigger problems.
What if a man won't marry me because I'm not a virgin?
Seems the problem is more with you then them. If your mind can't cope with you, then you're going to be a potential partners mental health project.
@Berethor being with one person doesn't make someone a hoe lmao
@Miltonkeyes being a hoe is a relative thing, she sure a used goods at this point.
@Berethor used goods? People aren't disposable materials mate
@Miltonkeyes she got used by her ex boyfriend, how is that not disposable?
If you think love is attached to virginity, then you have bigger problems. The vast majority of people that are in relationships aren't with the first and only person they've slept with.
You have no idea what you're talking about.
Of course not. You're still the same person, are you not? The only person that has a right to decide if you've lost your worth is yourself. However, I would recommend that you don't draw attention to the fact that you've lost your virginity. If it bothers you that much.
lmao. any person who "values" your worth as a human being on whether you've had a penis inside you, is not someone you want to consider in a relationship regardless.
your a worthy wife if you have a good heart and you can love your husband and your kids. if a man can't see that he can go fu** himself.
@Berethor thats your opinion. and anyway only loving men are worthy to be husbands you don't seem the type.
and apparently you can lose your physical virginity by riding a bike so you can just tell the person you lost your virginity to a bike
Then she should not ride a bike, also there is sidesaddle made for virgins. :)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sidesaddle#History
@Berethor anyway god is the only one who can judge us so if a man can't accept a woman's past mistake i won't waist my time on him neither should any woman with respect for themselves.
@catarecute we can judge too, even if God would forgive her I would not forgive her.
@Berethor i dont even know if you are joking right now but if you are its not funny you could be upsetting this young woman. have you ever though that maybe you could benefit from going out more?
@catarecute I can benefit from being with a virgin, I don't want a dirty ho, no thanks.
allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Abhors_a_Virgin
@catarecute I mean this, why would I want a non-virgin, who had dicks on her? :)
allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin
Thank you @catarecute I'm trying to just ignore this guy. He's replied to every single opinion on my post:/
Most people who are getting married had other sexual partners before their current spouse. If your concern is finding a husband then you have nothing to worry about.
Virginity is not a thing anymore than not riding a bicycle. Very few is people end up with their first. Forget about it. If some guy cares about it, he's not someone you want to be with.
Nope, you are young and you will find love.
Don't be in a hurry.
It will happen.
You are fine. Most guys just don't want a girl that has a 30+ body count. Having 1 as a body count is nothing
@Shamalien I don't even know my body count since everyone has a different definition of it. Like some people count oral and anal but I don't count those things
@Apple1996 she might as well have a 30+ body count, no hymen hard to tell.
@Apple1996 sounds like a freak case, hymen is great indicator in most cases.
@Apple1996
Don’t listen to this guy, he’s a predator. He literally admitted to liking 16yo women and wants to steal their virginity. Be careful.
I screenshotted that part if you want to see it
👇👇👇👇👇
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@Shamalien if everything sexual counts then my number is high af
Wtf there are bigger problems than this in life. I assume u do live in a third world country right? Bcs this is not even a problem at all in a westren country. If u live in a 3rd world country get that virgin again surgery and move on
I'd disagree here..
@Asker
Don't get the surgery.. Own up your mistake.. Accept the consequences.. If you get the surgery then your whole relationship with your future husband will be based on a lie
Well if it's so bad that you could actually get beaten up or ostracized or something then go for the surgery I guess.. But otherwise just be honest please
And also.. Ignore @Berethor
@Berethor as a guy with traditional views I just wanna say that you're doing great disservice to our cause
You not being a virgin does not make you unworthy of love. You'll find someone still.
You have not lost your worth. You are not a hoe. Your body count is literally one.. that's nothing to be concerned about.
Thats bullshit, don't be fooled by people on the internet telling you, you are less worth than before.
Well, you cannot change the past. And losing your virginity does not make you a bad person. Men appreciate someone who’s honest, sweet and caring more than anything else.
@Berethor
Then you’re talking about you 🫵 you smell like a pussy, you smell like a vagina. I sense a sweet, sugary essence to you 🫵. You literally look like you have no testosterone. You look like you haven’t seen a gym in your entire 30 years. You look like you need some dick.
That’s what you look like😂😂😂😂
@EmyyWolf so the one who sing this is gay? no you just a ho, not wife material.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDaaAI6keSw
@EmyyWolf most men watch porn and most men prefer young women, it fact.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy#Research
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Don’t stress over it, it happens. I made a similar mistake around your age. It was a relationship that just didn’t work out. Most guys aren’t going to hold that against you.
it’s not a dealbreaker for most folks. What is important is that you aren’t a slut. Having sex in a 2yr relationship is fine.
You can always tell yourself, there worse women out there, the worse they get, the more worthy you become, if you don't fold anymore
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