I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now. I truly thought we were in love. That’s how he acted. I recently had a bad situation and I had to get the cops involved due to poor actions he made. He was becoming abusive. I know that’s already enough to read to tell me I need to move on. There’s a protection order in place for a month so we never officially broke up, but the order prevents us from resolving things. it’s been extremely hard, we used to spend every day together. I’ve been really struggling, we still follow each other on all social media platforms. He hasn’t deleted any pictures of me. He’s been messaging my bestfriend on Snapchat saying how he wishes him and I can just talk, how he’s so depressed, etc. for a second I was like ok maybe he feels remorse finally. At first he was being very dismissive and putting the blame onto me and not understanding the severity of things on his end. As I’m dealing with this new normal and just focusing on myself, somehow things keep getting back to me. A ex friend who I had a falling out with and haven’t spoken to in years texted me the other night saying she saw him on tinder. He messaged my bestfriend and said he’s so depressed and it was just for “distraction”. I know it’s messy to have my friend and him interacting during this time especially a legal issue, but he keeps messaging her acting like he misses me and wants to make things right. He said the same thing to her today and messaged her again just saying the same thing, he wishes we could talk. Just when I think he’s self reflecting and reality is finally setting in on how it’s like to be without me, I got a message from a random girl on fb asking if I’m still dating him. We all know what that means. I go on his profile, and he UNTAGGED himself from my one year anniversary post to him just this past September. This is just getting embarrassing. We’ve had serious talks about next steps in life together, so I don’t understand how it’s so easy for him to move on.
Why are men so fast to look for someone else?
