How to fix my trauma?

[Anonymous]

I have been in relationship before but sidechick than I got into really good relationship, but when I saw same paterns it ruined me and I started to panick and emotionally not handle well like if it is hapening again. My partner was busy so he couldn't handle me emotionally and also he always said sorry for not taking care of me well. He couldn't handle it and we broke up but I would still try to text him to fix it but he didn't see my last message and ignored my calls. I completely understand him bc I was the problem. I don't know I still want to try with him when I get emotionally stable. We had really good relationship and I cry every day bc my unstable mental health ruined everything. I feel so sad for both of us. I still love him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah sis, don't be so hard on yourself. Breakups are always tough, especially when ya still love someone. But you gotta take this time to heal that emotional trauma before trying again.

Sounds like you two had something real special, so I get why you wanna fix it. But you both need space right now. Hitting him up constantly will only make things messier in the long run, trust me.

What's important is using this break to work on yourself. Talk to friends, journal your feelings, do relaxing self-care - whatever helps you feel at peace again. Maybe even look into therapy. We all got baggage, nothing wrong with getting professional help unpacking it.

Once you're in a better headspace, then maybe check in on him casually. But make sure you're fully grounded this time before getting serious. And communicate your needs upfront so it doesn't catch y'all off guard again, feel me?

This too shall pass sis. Stay strong - you got this! In time I know you'll both heal. But for now, put yourself first and the rest will follow. We're here for you x

[TheGuyYouCrave]

Its his problem. Men are responsible for women.

Solving your trauma:

Let go of the emotions.

By not allowing your spirit to continue to sour.

Be optimistic by striving to improve yourself, literally change your behaviors to change your mind.

Meditate. Whatever comes to mind, just know it is like a notification, passing by. THe notification does not matter if you are not alive right?

So, working to unfu*k yourself is how you move on. Don't message back, the past is the past. ITS DEAD. Its over.
There are always better things ahead of the valley. It may seems like a mountain, but do not give up.

Eat healthy, give up bad habits, and keep reaffirming to your mind, body, and spirit that it is capable of self-love by your behaviors. And practice self-affirmations, morning and night.

Allow yourself to breathe slowly, deeply, calmly, moving through life at YOUR pace. And then proceed forward.

Don't forget to journal miss.
And there is power in prayer.

Do not forget.

There is plenty of love within, you just got to find it.

[BoopBoopBeep]

First off, people who use trauma like that are "super cringe" as the lingo of the day goes. People that watched their spouse die in a car wreck have trauma. People who went to war may have trauma. You showed your ass, got called out for it, got dumped, that's what happens. If THAT is trauma then it's going to be a rude awakening one day. I hope you can manage it. Secondly, unless he's super into codependency, he's moved on and quite glad to be past you. He may not say that because he sees you as the easiest hookup down the road, but yeah. He moved on, you should as well. There's 8 billion people in the world. Find a different one. Do better next time. Neediness is emotionally exhausting. People don't stick around for that.

[Asker]

But what if person has treated you so bad and abused you to that the point you dont know what to do anymore. I didn't want my emotional state to be this bad. I am wrong for everything.

[BoopBoopBeep]

What if they did? They're bad people. There's tons of them in the world. You move on, you find one who isn't. If he treated you bad then all the more reason to get over him and move on with your life.

[TheGuyYouCrave]

Leave.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@TheGuyYouCrave They already broke up. What is there to leave? I don't see where it says they live together.

[strateguy632]

in the big picture there are many people and among them some are lovable so find and love someone else