I've been crying over a man for 2 years. We never officially dated but we were sleeping together. I thought I might fell in love with him. I can't get over him. What to do?
- 11 mo
Man, that really sucks. Two whole years crying over some guy? That's rough.
I know it's hard, but you gotta start letting this guy go. Even if y'all never dated officially, you still cared about him a lot. And it really messed you up when it ended or whatever. But it's been two years now!
You gotta stop torturing yourself, ya know? All that crying is just gonna make you sad and isn't doing anything to fix the situation. Maybe it's time to try moving on for real.
I'd say stop all contact - block him on everything so you're not tempted to check up on him. And really throw yourself into other stuff - try a new hobby, hang with your girls, work extra hours, whatever keeps your mind busy.
It'll still hurt for a while. But soon you'll start feeling better. And who knows, maybe letting this dude go will clear the way for someone even better to come into your life. You definitely deserve to be happy!
So be kind to yourself, sis. You got this. Two years is enough crying - I believe in you to start feeling better from here. Let me know if you ever wanna talk more about it, okay? You've got people who care.00 Reply
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- 11 mo
It doesn't matter if you fell in love with him or not. Love happens when two people connect. Perhaps there's something deep inside that's gnawing at you that has nothing to do with this particular man at all. Therapy could help here. Please don't waste your tears over someone who isn't into you. This is your life.
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Why do you say he's not into me? What do you know
- Asker11 mo
You don't know me or what happened between him and me. How you can say "He's not into me" ?
- Asker11 mo
I didn't even give ANY information about him and me? How you can easily say he's not into me.
- Asker11 mo
You're just trying to hurt people. That's it.
- Asker11 mo
Will you answer my question? @bededazzle
- 11 mo
you said you can’t get over him. usually we use that phrase after a breakup
- Asker11 mo
How you can say "He IS NOT INTO YOU"
- 11 mo
could you explain a bit more about the situation. usually you can’t get over someone means you’re not seeing him anymore. also, just calm down. i’m just a stranger online. you shouldn’t worry so much about what i say.
- Asker11 mo
He said something triggered me. He said "His married friends loves each other but do other things too"
"You cannot love one person biologically impossible" this is what he said. I got upset and I said "I think you can't to be loyal" He said "I can be, you make assumptions about me. But I guess we're not that level yet" Then he said "You're in safe hands you can call me anytime I'll be there for you"
I was like WTF he mean? Then we fell asleep. After that I left in the morning while he's sleeping, I basically walked away, and never talked to him again. He texted "Where did I go?" "Baby" I didn't answer.
we never talked to each other again. - 11 mo
hm i see. well, it sounds like you left him but still have feelings for him. are you sure you communicated things clearly?
- Asker11 mo
I didn't, I know. I should've told him he hurt me. But I was so pissed off. I wanted to keep my head high.
- 11 mo
well, you have to be firm about your values then. if you want loyalty and felt he couldn’t be loyal, then you did the right thing. accept that you have feelings for him, but you may need to work things out inside to let him go. you should consider talking to a therapist. pining away for him can prevent you from meeting the right person
- Asker11 mo
He said "He can be loyal I make assumptions about him" He was like making U turn... He also said "He feel like I don't trust him" I said "Yes I don't" lol.
- 11 mo
it sounds like a confusing conversation, but it sounds like you trusted your instincts which probably isn’t a bad idea
- Asker11 mo
We were naked when we had that conversation. I was angry & confused. I was shocked like is he friendzoning me? I was shocked and hurt.
- Asker11 mo
Do you still can say "He's not into you" ?
- 11 mo
no, you left him. i think it matters more what you say, not what i say
- Asker11 mo
Ok but I care about another perspective
- 11 mo
it sounds like he still has feelings for you
- 11 mo
sorry i mean had
- Asker11 mo
I didn't understand if he has feelings or he was playing? Sometimes I don't know if if I'm being too anxious and I overthink
- 11 mo
unfortunately, i don’t think you’ll ever know 100% for sure, but there was something about his attitude you didn’t like. we all have some things in the past we’ll never know for sure about. it’s ok
- Asker10 mo
Why did you think he had feelings for me? I'd love to know your view
694 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic. take this as a learning experience. don't sleep with people who you are not in a long term official relationship with because it can really hurt you. crying over him, 2 years later, isn't solving anything and only making you sad. what can you change? nothing. you can only move forward and do better in the future
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Isn't that you feel more comfortable looking your past instead taking the risk of repeating a mistake but looking forwards?
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- 11 mo
Find someone better.
02 Reply- Asker11 mo
In which means?
- 11 mo
Like try to go to parties or bars or anywhere you can meet people. Like just say hi to some guys and they'd be flattered and try to get to know you better.
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