I am not okay since me and my ex broke up... I miss him so much... What should I do?

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BCRanger10 · Accepted Answer

I'm very sorry to hear about that. If I may ask, how long ago did this happen and why?

As for what you can do? Remove him from social media and get rid of all pictures and reminders. That would be a good starting point.

Keep yourself occupied. Not busy, just occupied. Have something to keep your mind focused, but don't overwhelm yourself with it.

Other than that, this is one of those things that you can only take one day at a time. You have to face the reality and make peace with it. And you have to do that over and over again until you've moved on. No one expects you to do so immediately. It takes time, but all ends well.

eagle1951 · Accepted Answer

find another boyfriend

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

“I once had a girl,

or should I say,

she once had me.”

You are not the only one who has lost him, he lost you too.

As painful as it is, try not to dwell in the sad thoughts, cry when you want to, but don’t contact him. It doesn’t and will never work in your favor.

He sadly made a decision and it’s about him, rather than about you.

There’s nothing wrong or flawed about you.

Sometimes life turns out the way we didn’t expect it.

For some time, you’ll be hurting.

But I promise, at some point you’ll look back fondly and you’ll feel grateful it ended.

You’ll recall his memory with nostalgia in your mind, appreciating good times you had and learning from the mistakes made or not made,

One day, you’ll be kissing the man of your dreams and the trace of your heartbreak will be a long lost memory, causing nothing but an appreciation that you loved, and as everyone who truly loves, you got hurt too.

My younger brother told me “It’s better to have loved and lost rather than never have loved at all.”

It didn’t make sense back then, I was annoyed thinking that he didn’t feel my pain.

I understand him now, out of all the memories left in my heart, most importantly I feel grateful that I loved and I was loved back, so what If I got hurt.

We lived and we loved.

And life goes on,

You fought your fight.

Don’t stay on the battleground that he already left, he’s not coming back and even if he does, you won’t be where he left you.

Keep going,

men are nice entertainment but never the most important thing in life.

The most important person in your life is a girl who looks at you from the mirror, sad and heartbroken, take care of her and don’t allow the same person to break your heart twice.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

It’s sad to hear you’re having a hard time but you are very young and will still have many men chasing you for decades to come. I think because you are young, you are more receptive than older women, and men want a woman who challenges him by being elusive to him at points in the pursuing process. The rules is one good book on dating. Also study people who have had successful marriages like Priscilla Chan or Amal Clooney, these girls challenge their husbands by setting up extra rules about their dates or rejecting invitations once in a while. You will learn to be more challenging as you get to my age. You’re a kind person and you should make people work very hard to earn your trust, then they will be afraid to lose you.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What caused the break up? Feel free to DM me if you would prefer.

Xepshunall · Answer

Wait. You'll be okay. I had to break it off with the love of my life when I was 26. I cried for 2 straight days. After that, it was like she never existed. I married another woman and was happy for 10 years until I realized she had gambled so much of our money away. If you're still young enough to be heart-broken from a breakup then you have plenty of time to learn that it's not that big a deal when all is said and done. Casually date someone else but go Dutch so he knows it's not a DATE date. You'll be surprised how much less your breakup will affect you when you realize that you still have a future.

Still-alive · Answer

So sorry to hear it. i didn't know.

Well your best course of action is to go no contact. i get it you want to reach out and call him or text him but thats actually the last thing you want to do since it will only drive him further away. So go no contact and in the mean time work on yourself. focus on hobbies, get new ones, hang out with friends and relatives. Work out often. definitely come on here and talk to us if you like. Eventually you'll reach a point where you can finally go days without thinking about him or missing him so much. i know its hard now but it will happen for you eventually. and maybe some day he will reach out to you himself and see how you're doing. You can't hope for it but it does definitely happen. It's not easy. but best of luck to you. this is your time to heal and focus on yourself.

AutumnSerenity · Answer

I’m so sorry, love. This is tough especially around the holidays. Some people shut everyone out instead of seeking help or support from those that love them. It’s not easy for either side. Cry it out until you can’t anymore and then distract yourself with things that make you happy - organize your space, watch something funny, start a new hobby, make new friends, watch a new movie. Any little bit of positivity you can give yourself right now helps. Sending you hugs.

NathanDavis · Answer

it's just part of life... we have to go through it, and it is very normal too

sometimes we do miss the good and great parts of a relationship or a person, but we should not forget that, the break up happened for a reason... and they were not good reasons at all

so, it is for the best... best to move forward (=

Thestupidusername · Answer

I'm really sorry. You seamed like you two had a long happy relationship but I dont know ofcourse.  Take your time to heal before you move on. Admitting that you aren't okay is good actually.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Sometimes things are simply not meant to last. You are young, pretty, and have an incredible personality. You will be fine. It just might take you some time to realize that.

Berethor · Answer

You in a relationship and thinking about your ex?

AmeerX · Answer

What's is up with this month? First it was Lisia and now you? What happened? Why did you break up? I thought you were his loyal girl and everything?

Whitewulf · Answer

Find a distraction, if he broke up with you it takes on average 3 months before the pain stops. I make a pretty good distraction if you would like

Levin · Answer

Welcome to the single life. Crushing loneliness at every turn. You're one of us now. There is no escaping.

syncheart · Answer

It sucks, just keep moving forward. It takes a while for your emotions to get used to the idea of not having him.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Sometimes the only answer is to give yourself time to heal and grieve.

Rickyboy100 · Answer

Why he broke up? Did he meet a other woman? What was the problem between you?

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Aw man, I was routing for y'all no lie, what happened :/

Staximus · Answer

It sucks but if you wait around for somebody to get their head out of their ass, you might be waiting around forever

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Meet friends spend time with family live life. Course you miss them best way get over someone do you enjoy life

Christoff92 · Answer

Unwind and get to know other people's personalities and characteristics.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Either make list of all his negative qualities, or call him

Part2603 · Answer

Uh, post thirst traps and flirt with randos on Gag?

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Eat some grapes

AngryCarl · Answer

He dumped you before Christmas? That ain't right!  You'll be fine. Consider dating one of your 900 instagram followers. What? I said consider it; I didn't say do it.

Dreamclouds · Answer

Getting over him is best ideea, sometimes life hurts to be able to have a new begining

TallAnon · Answer

Oh damn, how recent is this?

citygirlxox · Answer

Go to the spa and get a massage and ur nails done

CubaPirate · Answer

Move on and get a new squeeze

msc545 · Answer

Talk to him about how you feel.

riverrat3 · Answer

Sad for you, just keep your mind busy

Adogdog · Answer

Simple, find a new boyfriend.

JohnK123 · Answer

Oh no did u two break up?

dolemite58 · Answer

try to move on 🤷‍♂️

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Oh no! I'm sorry! 😢

collie22 · Answer

I'm so sorry

I am not okay since me and my ex broke up... I miss him so much... What should I do?

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