I am not okay since me and my ex broke up... I miss him so much... What should I do?

[CoolCatMar1]

[BCRanger10]

I'm very sorry to hear about that. If I may ask, how long ago did this happen and why?

As for what you can do? Remove him from social media and get rid of all pictures and reminders. That would be a good starting point.

Keep yourself occupied. Not busy, just occupied. Have something to keep your mind focused, but don't overwhelm yourself with it.

Other than that, this is one of those things that you can only take one day at a time. You have to face the reality and make peace with it. And you have to do that over and over again until you've moved on. No one expects you to do so immediately. It takes time, but all ends well.

[BCRanger10]

Thank you for MHO 🙌

And also, 🤗

[eagle1951]

find another boyfriend

[CoolCatMar1]

No one is better than him

[Whitewulf]

If that were true he would be with you. The mr better than him is still out there walking around. I know it’s hard to see right now. 2 more months. Mark your calendar. But you need to cut all ties. If you keep talking and hoping and putting all your energy into the words “ maybe we’ll be together again “ you are going to drag that pain out longer than necessary. I don’t know the reason for the breakup but it sounds like he decided to end it for whatever reason.
There are only a few reasons why men and women break off a relationship and they are pretty painful to think about.

[CoolCatMar1]

@Whitewulf well we actually speak as friends and it seems like when he gets better mentally he will be ready to try again he just feels like sustaining a relationship is very stressful for him this period

[Whitewulf]

Mmmm I don’t know. Unless he has some serious stressful situations going on and you are bombarding him with relational expectations then I’m not buying it. I mean if you were going through some hard emotional times wouldn’t you want your SO there to support you. I’d give him some space and keep an eye on the situation

[CoolCatMar1]

@Whitewulf yes but he doesn't even visit me anymore i blocked him yesterday because i couldn't take him anymore and he stated he doesn't want to get back together at all

[Whitewulf]

Ok well there is your answer. I’m not saying this to take away the fact you are hurting. But as an attractive women you will have options and options are distractions they help you through. Most of us men don’t have a lot of options so we just have to suck it up till the next one comes along I’m like 10 years. You’ll be over him before you know it. You are going to be ok

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

“I once had a girl,

or should I say,

she once had me.”

You are not the only one who has lost him, he lost you too.

As painful as it is, try not to dwell in the sad thoughts, cry when you want to, but don’t contact him. It doesn’t and will never work in your favor.

He sadly made a decision and it’s about him, rather than about you.

There’s nothing wrong or flawed about you.

Sometimes life turns out the way we didn’t expect it.

For some time, you’ll be hurting.

But I promise, at some point you’ll look back fondly and you’ll feel grateful it ended.

You’ll recall his memory with nostalgia in your mind, appreciating good times you had and learning from the mistakes made or not made,

One day, you’ll be kissing the man of your dreams and the trace of your heartbreak will be a long lost memory, causing nothing but an appreciation that you loved, and as everyone who truly loves, you got hurt too.

My younger brother told me “It’s better to have loved and lost rather than never have loved at all.”

It didn’t make sense back then, I was annoyed thinking that he didn’t feel my pain.

I understand him now, out of all the memories left in my heart, most importantly I feel grateful that I loved and I was loved back, so what If I got hurt.

We lived and we loved.

And life goes on,

You fought your fight.

Don’t stay on the battleground that he already left, he’s not coming back and even if he does, you won’t be where he left you.

Keep going,

men are nice entertainment but never the most important thing in life.

The most important person in your life is a girl who looks at you from the mirror, sad and heartbroken, take care of her and don’t allow the same person to break your heart twice.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

If I was there, I’d invite you to go out with my friends and dance our worries away.

Dance is the best medicine of a heartbreak.

As you listen to the music and follow the rhythm, you do realize you are so feminine, so sexy, so cool, how can a man not look at you and want to stay?

[jennifer_bloom]

It’s sad to hear you’re having a hard time but you are very young and will still have many men chasing you for decades to come. I think because you are young, you are more receptive than older women, and men want a woman who challenges him by being elusive to him at points in the pursuing process. The rules is one good book on dating. Also study people who have had successful marriages like Priscilla Chan or Amal Clooney, these girls challenge their husbands by setting up extra rules about their dates or rejecting invitations once in a while. You will learn to be more challenging as you get to my age. You’re a kind person and you should make people work very hard to earn your trust, then they will be afraid to lose you.

[OlderAndWiser]

What caused the break up? Feel free to DM me if you would prefer.

[Xepshunall]

Wait. You'll be okay. I had to break it off with the love of my life when I was 26. I cried for 2 straight days. After that, it was like she never existed. I married another woman and was happy for 10 years until I realized she had gambled so much of our money away. If you're still young enough to be heart-broken from a breakup then you have plenty of time to learn that it's not that big a deal when all is said and done. Casually date someone else but go Dutch so he knows it's not a DATE date. You'll be surprised how much less your breakup will affect you when you realize that you still have a future.

[CoolCatMar1]

Yes i do have a future but I want him in it...

[CoolCatMar1]

He is the only guy who makes me feel some type of way

[Xepshunall]

I'll happen with others. Most feelings are actually the end result of chemical reactions. Some guy will come along and make you wonder what you ever saw in this guy. You're way to young to have only one good option. When you're older, people are set in their ways and they don't grow together as a couple. I'm supposedly the only man who makes my ex feel some type of way but she's doing as well now as before I broke it off. She's not all that worried about being made to feel that type of way because she knows that there are more important things in life and she can find that feeling elsewhere if she wants it. I'm just the only one she knows who gives her those feelings.

[Whitewulf]

What you say makes sense. When you’re not in the storm it’s easy to look back and think , I can’t believe I was so tore up about that person. But you also when you’re in it. You’re going through it. And it sucks. It hurts. I don't know about other men but I get attached and when she has left, it consumes all of me can’t even work. But it’s only for a season.

[Whitewulf]

Yep. I’m positive I made all my exes feel some kinda way lol why they. all probably hate me lol 🤷🏻

[Still-alive]

So sorry to hear it. i didn't know.

Well your best course of action is to go no contact. i get it you want to reach out and call him or text him but thats actually the last thing you want to do since it will only drive him further away. So go no contact and in the mean time work on yourself. focus on hobbies, get new ones, hang out with friends and relatives. Work out often. definitely come on here and talk to us if you like. Eventually you'll reach a point where you can finally go days without thinking about him or missing him so much. i know its hard now but it will happen for you eventually. and maybe some day he will reach out to you himself and see how you're doing. You can't hope for it but it does definitely happen. It's not easy. but best of luck to you. this is your time to heal and focus on yourself.

[AutumnSerenity]

I’m so sorry, love. This is tough especially around the holidays. Some people shut everyone out instead of seeking help or support from those that love them. It’s not easy for either side. Cry it out until you can’t anymore and then distract yourself with things that make you happy - organize your space, watch something funny, start a new hobby, make new friends, watch a new movie. Any little bit of positivity you can give yourself right now helps. Sending you hugs.

[NathanDavis]

it's just part of life... we have to go through it, and it is very normal too

sometimes we do miss the good and great parts of a relationship or a person, but we should not forget that, the break up happened for a reason... and they were not good reasons at all

so, it is for the best... best to move forward (=

[Thestupidusername]

I'm really sorry. You seamed like you two had a long happy relationship but I dont know ofcourse.

Take your time to heal before you move on. Admitting that you aren't okay is good actually.

[CoolCatMar1]

He said he wants to be friends but we don't meet at all 2 weeks now because he says he isn't ok mentally and he claims that when he gets better we will meet and he said maybe will be together again

[Thestupidusername]

Thats a lot to take in. I would give him space if I were you and dont hang on the hope with being with him instead just focus on healing.

[LiamJHayden]

Sometimes things are simply not meant to last. You are young, pretty, and have an incredible personality. You will be fine. It just might take you some time to realize that.

[CoolCatMar1]

Yeah thank you you are kind

[Berethor]

You in a relationship and thinking about your ex?

[CoolCatMar1]

He is my ex

[CoolCatMar1]

We broke up

[love_conquers_lust]

@CoolCatMar1 You’re profile still says in a relationship

[Berethor]

@love_conquers_lust yea, and I didn't thought that they would brake up.

[Whitewulf]

@love_conquers_lust she’s holding out hope. For that. Thus this discussion.

[love_conquers_lust]

@Berethor @Whitewulf I’m not trying to harass her. I’m pointing out why there would be a misunderstanding between her question and her profile status.

[AmeerX]

What's is up with this month? First it was Lisia and now you?

What happened? Why did you break up? I thought you were his loyal girl and everything?

[CoolCatMar1]

I am still loyal to him even if we aren't together anymore

[AmeerX]

🤔 What happened then? And why doesn't he want you?

[CoolCatMar1]

It's that he was overwhelmed with the fact I wanted some things he couldn't give me ag that time

[CoolCatMar1]

And that he has his own mental issues

[AmeerX]

What things? Like something expensive? Or like marriage? Or a promise?

[CoolCatMar1]

No. I am nof materialistic

[CoolCatMar1]

It wasn't even that deep i just think he overreacted all the timw

[AmeerX]

Hey, what exactly did he overreacted? I know you are hurt but don't feel it that bad. If he cares for you like you care for him you both will be reunited 😊. It can happen

[AmeerX]

Young love can be impulsive and things can happen to take things overboard. Don't let it get to you though. Somethings a person has to let go to find out about. It's really a life part of life and way to maturity.

[Whitewulf]

Now that puts a whole new spin on things. Do you you believe that is actual true. Like there was a conversation for example: I wish you would buy me this : you know I can’t afford it. Or “ I wish you could last longer” or when are you going to put a ring on my finger” if he just left out of pressure or frustration then this is a fixable situation. But If he left with the blank statement “things I can’t give you right now. without saying what they are? Yeah then give it space.

[AmeerX]

@Whitewulf you put an ocean into a chest with your advice 👍

[AmeerX]

It's not going to help her but perhaps she needs to make a choice. I don't think it's about anything material. Perhaps she just wanted him to give her time or engage her.

[Whitewulf]

Lol thanks. A little wordy? I know

[AmeerX]

@Whitewulf not at all wordy. I just didn't want to say it.
She is not materialistic girl. At least not how I feel. It's more about a commitment problem on the guys part but only those two know what really happened so best not to say things that might not have happened. They can be hurtful indeed

[CoolCatMar1]

@Whitewulf well it was more like questions about me wanting to get back to his house even though there was a huge argument there and now his aunt does not want me there but that doesn't sound believable because his sistsr told me that his mom and dad ask why i don't come to his house anymore.. I don't know that's all soo weird..
Also he hated when he told me we will only have a car ride and i thought that maybe we will also do other stuff alongside and he said our relationship "lacks communication" wtf

[AmeerX]

🤔 why would his aunt have an issue with you? She is really a nobody. Maybe his parents can have a reason to object to you but not the aunt.
It's really that perhaps he was not in the mood.
And sometimes it happens that you need to sort this out with him. One shouldn't throw away a relationship like hand full of sand.
I know it might make you feel uncomfortable but perhaps you should visit him one more time to see where things go. It's Christmas and New Year isn't it. Pretend you are Orthodox and make plans for New Year and then again on 5-6th January for Christmas:).

[Whitewulf]

Find a distraction, if he broke up with you it takes on average 3 months before the pain stops. I make a pretty good distraction if you would like

[Levin]

Welcome to the single life. Crushing loneliness at every turn. You're one of us now. There is no escaping.

[syncheart]

It sucks, just keep moving forward. It takes a while for your emotions to get used to the idea of not having him.

[ProbablyClueless]

Sometimes the only answer is to give yourself time to heal and grieve.

[Rickyboy100]

Why he broke up? Did he meet a other woman? What was the problem between you?

[CoolCatMar1]

No he still doesn't have anyone else

[Rickyboy100]

Than try your best... perhaps he will be back. If you give awesome bj he will 100%

[ChicoFromThe305]

Aw man, I was routing for y'all no lie, what happened :/

[Staximus]

It sucks but if you wait around for somebody to get their head out of their ass, you might be waiting around forever

[Luckycharms12]

Meet friends spend time with family live life. Course you miss them best way get over someone do you enjoy life

[Christoff92]

Unwind and get to know other people's personalities and characteristics.