Ex acts so nice, caring and sweet after breaking up, but I'm bitter and heartbroken - how can I interact with him?

[Anonymous]

We had a good relationship, but the reason he broke up shattered me. He wants to try somewhere else first to see if I'm the one. There is no definitive timeline to this. either, whatever happens happens. This attitude was communicated nicely, and my ex still shows the love. But I can't respond like this. I'm bitter and can't communicate. I feel like we need to maintain healthy communication even though we're exs but right now it's impossible. What can I do?

[IslaTheWitch]

He wants to try something else. So he left you knowing that you have feelings for him. And now he acts all nice, even if he is looking for something new. Am I getting the situation correctly?

If you feel you can't communicate, don't do it. He broke this relationship. There are some consequences for him to bear.

I understand that, for him, it's a pretty comfortable situation. You love him, so you will probably accept him back when he decides he wants to return. So he can test other girls to his heart's content and still have a place to return.

But is this situation so favourable for you, too? Did you even think, what would you do if he came to you apologising? Are you ready to deal with such a situation?

I will share my personal point of view, so please don't feel like it's my recommendation.

For me, such behaviour as he showed is immature. It would hurt me deeply, and for some time, I would request no communication at all because I need time to sort my feelings out.

After healing and recovering, I wouldn't return to this relationship and probably would keep communication minimal and dry.

My advice. Give yourself time without distractions to think and sort things and feelings out.

Don't give up. There are plenty of guys who would respect you and your feelings.

[Oliverlogan263]

Honestly, staying bitter and cut off isn't going to help you or the situation. I know it hurts, but you gotta let go of that resentment for your own well-being. Seems like your ex is still caring about you as a person even if they want to see other options romantically. That shows they aren't a bad person, just figuring their own stuff out.

My advice would be to take some space if you need to, but don't cut them off completely. Communications open is better than nothing in case things change down the road. For now just keep it casual and friendly whenever you do talk. Don't confess your feelings or argue - just listen without judgment. In time the bitterness will fade as long as you aren't dwelling on it. Focus on yourself and your friends, hit the gym, go shopping - stay busy so you aren't stuck in your feelings. It'll get better, you got this!

[Anonymous]

Don't bother, you sill just keep suffering if you stay in touch.