Would you leave your crack addicted baby father?

Question

My children’s father is addicted to crack, the last two years have been terrible with him throwing us out the house from problems
Relating to his addiction, stealing money from me & the children also my dad, it has caused nothing but a ripple effect of heartbreak & then he uses the plot that if I shown him more affection his addiction wouldn’t be so bad, I’m tired trying to raise our children, work & do the upmost everything while he squanders in. Drug addiction, he has opportunity go to a rehab facility but was asked to leave for smoking cannabis but also said that before he left I messed his head up because when he wanted to have sex I told in his eyes a massive lie and said I was on my cycle when I wasn’t. I am numb to all the pain I have endured & I am close to getting a new home for me & my children as I cannot go another year getting thrown out in his tantrums. He still tells me things llike he doesn’t want to live etc and I almost feel as though I am constantly his savior neglecting my own wants and needs for his happiness. Can anyone give me there input or advice I also worry that if I leave something bad will happen to him although I know this isn’t good for me & my children and it’s ruining my mental health ……

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

This is a really tough situation. The best thing for you and your kids' safety and happiness has to be the top priority now. A crack addiction is so difficult to overcome, especially when he's not truly committed to getting help.

It sounds like you've given him so many chances already and he's continually let you down by putting y'all through these unstable cycles. You don't deserve that stress and unpredictability. The kids deserve stability and to feel secure at home without worrying what kind of shape their dad will be in.

As hard as it will be, I think you need to go ahead with your plan of getting a new place away from him. Make it clear that getting clean and staying clean is the only way he can be a real part of y'all's lives. You can't set yourself on fire to keep him warm anymore, you know?

It may light a fire under him to finally get serious help if he wants to prove he can be a dad. But you also can't live your life hostage to his addiction and empty promises anymore. You and those babies have to be the priority now. Stay strong sis, you've got this!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's your fault for having kids with such a loser. There are plenty of nice guys you have been with, but you choose a degenerate. Don't worry plenty of women the choice as well. So I hope you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone.

Dana223 · Accepted Answer

Frankly I wonder if you knew about his addiction before you got into relationship with him, or even have sex. Secondly I hope you both will learn to use proper protection other than menstrual cycle (if that was the case).

Decide what's more important: his life or your children's life. He's an adult, he should at least be able to take care of himself at the minimum. Otherwise, I'm sorry, but I would not risk my own or imaginary children's life. Especially if he is not cooperative. If something bad would happen to him? Suicide? Possible. Otherwise he'll learn to get his sh*t together and finally stand on his own legs.