Should I answer his text or no?

InfluencerGuru Age: 23

lol it started good until he said

“I’ll let you fix this.”

Disqualified.. 🫡😬

Also him keeping your stuff meant he was always planning to convince you and get you back. He’s not really giving you much option to say no to him and be happy for yourself, and if he cared he would’ve gave you that option 🤷‍♀️

you had to choose the distancing and that’s sad because what if you hadn’t? You are the one who is taking matters and having to, and I’ve always told my partner “I want us to be transparent and vulnerable.”

“I dont want us having to defend ourselves against each other.”

“It shouldn’t be ‘you’ or ‘me’ thing, or you vs me. I don’t want you having to feel like you have to protect yourself against me and me with you because then we’ll be hostile and not really listen or be close.”

This is kind of the same case. It’s never good where a lady or any partner has to think of themselves because they know if they don’t that their partner would neglect them, not try, or hurt them…

It’s a bad situation, truly. :[

Because if you become lenient to him and pitying you’re choosing him over yourself and that’s just not fair, he should be wanting to protect you and make you happy, having your happiness, health, and best interest in mind.

Not himself!

seriously- seriously consider it.

I actually think considering is already a loss but if that makes you feel better. I’m thinking of course you’d want it to work so him asking and saying this makes it easier for you to say yes, but what if he doesn’t deliver, what if things don’t change? What if you keep getting hurt but remain tolerant of him and settle?

Rosexøxø

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You’re asking us if you should reply?

Reply with what? What do you expect to be giving him?

What is it that YOU WANT

You need to consider this before even thinking of moving forward because this may be the only chance you can if you go back and it does not go well 🤷‍♀️.

So really consult with yourself is he’s the one you want.

If the behavior and habits are like that and he’s not prioritizing I don’t see something like that changing. People do say you can’t like change people.

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Rosexøxø

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If he respected you and admired you saw you like some mentor and he had the ambition and the self pushing he’d do it but he doesn’t see you that way- he’s just trying to bargain. He definitely doesn’t see you that way because his previous behavior (only known to you, but I can only imagine) has already proven this.

This is his effort?

A message. Nothing else.

Is this what you’re willing to agree on?

No other physical or real efforts? This is his best card to try and “get back in the came?”

If he wanted to “he would.”

🤷‍♀️

Really weigh it out sis.

You don’t want to be raising a grown baby, or having your needs not met, not being supported, or having to live every day guarding yourself with this guy. You should be at peace and not have to think is hard- and look? He’s already got you thinking so hard.

It’s not obvious. A good guy would make that clear to you- what you mean to him, and what the relationship means.

The begging is not a real man. It’s manipulation and playing victim. If he was mature and independent. Intentional and owning his actions. He would’ve taken a different approach. He just begged you?

Not trying to win you or earn your trust? How can you make a logical decision on this? What is he showing you right now that makes it convincing?

He begged you and you’re reflecting and only probably seeing what you’d want and you have to be realistic if that’s even gonna happen here.

I’m cautious and wishing you well- sorry for any intensity. But you have to live with these choices you know?

Maybe listen to the other comments. Or consider them while you come to a conclusion, but this is just what I felt and was considering based on the context of the question.

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lexih_919

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That’s a good point but I guess it’s a risk I’m willing to take

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Rosexøxø

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An adult human who has respect for you and value for the relationship will always try to earn trust and not hurt the other person.

Not begging them to go against their better judgement or their gut feeling and instincts. It’s wrong. It’s plain wrong.

You don’t beg people. You respect their boundaries and try to fix it like adults. He’s not demonstrating this, and my heart goes out to you.

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Rosexøxø

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I had a feeling. Best of luck. 🤞 truly.

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