Should I answer his text?

Question

I was going on dates with this guy for a month we really got along and he told me he liked me. We hung out a bunch and he was leaving on a trip and before he left we had sex. While he was away he barely reached out and he said that he would call me and send me pictures and he did none of that. I texted him while he was away saying I thought it was crazy he didn’t reach out once considering I had sex with him and I’m not the type of girl that has sex with a lot of guys and he knows that. He apologized and told me he liked me and really liked hanging with me but still was not putting effort into communicating with me. I sent a text that ended the convo and he didn’t text me for a week. I called him today and he didn’t answer about 7 hours later at 12 at night he texted me and wrote “Hey sorry just saw you called I’ve had the busiest day sorry I missed it I did like a 30 person dinner “ should I answer his text? I feel like he could have called me back if he cared and he knows why I’m reaching out but didn’t mention anything. Is it contradicting if I don’t answer because I’m the one who called?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I like you because you are strong and weather you know it are not you are setting Boundaries.
And that's a good thing.
Because you're trying to teach him how to treat you if he doesn't know it on his own. This is a good way to do it, but like you said. It would have taken 2 minutes to call. It was taken 2 minutes to text and just say Hey, I'm thinking of you. I'm sorry that I'm cought up in whatever reason it was.

And when you said I haven has sey with many guy and he know your not like that. The only think he's thinking is yah but you did it once you will do it again.

So I can tell you this if he doesn't do the right things he going to lose a very good girl. .. I think if I was you I would make him prove to you that he really wants to be with you

If he blows it sorry to say he would be a fool. And I can say that to be 100 % honest I dont even know you and I and I can see and feel this coming from you.

Because of the time that you spent together. And he doesn't know that or if he did not feel that. Then he's not looking listening or feeling in the right places

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No, you shouldn't answer his text. His behavior has consistently shown a lack of effort and respect for your feelings. While you initiated the call, his delayed and dismissive response, focusing on his busy day rather than addressing the core issue, reinforces his pattern. Answering him would likely perpetuate this cycle and diminish your own boundaries. Maintaining your stance of not engaging further will communicate that you value your time and deserve someone who prioritizes consistent and meaningful communication.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

I’m not sure if you already made your decision since this post but if not then I’d say you can ignore the text if you plan on never talking to him again but if you do, then you must communicate rather than play games. Because yes, it becomes game-playing when you do things to try and get someone you’re interested in to behave in the way you want them to if they aren’t doing it already, aka giving you more effort.

Look, I’m sorry if this dude is ultimately an asshole user who only wanted sex. Men like this can literally either pay for or simply find a woman who also just wants casual sex. There are apps for hookups, apps for swingers, the whole nine, yet they set their sights on women who DO want a relationship one day and don’t want casualty. It sucks a lot, which is why I tell my friends to be super picky about who they share their bodies with and to make peace with their choice to hookup beforehand if they do it without a title.

Jay-_- · Answer

Contradicting if you don't answer yes also I've genuinely been in situation where I didn't see the message or plain up just couldn't answer so I understand... Overall y'all had sex to early, did you guys have a connection? Cause if not don't expect nothing much from it.