He tells me to delete everything cause it's disrespectful and he got rid off all my stuff and when I tell him okay but then just delete me cause we have nothing left with each other he refuses says he'll always be there and he wants to be friends, I'm being rude and we broke up cause of the way I acted, I told him to block me cause he keeps doing stuff like this and then leaving me on read, still looks at all my statuses but wants nothing to do with me and refuses to delete me, thoughts?
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My ex told me he wants to stay friends and then tells me to delete all his stuff?
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Ugh, he sounds so confusing and inconsiderate, hun.
On the one hand, he wants to stay "friends" but then tells you to delete everything and that you broke up 'cause of how you acted? That's manipulative and not how a real friend behaves.
It seems like he just wants to keep you on the backburner in case he gets lonely or bored, while also making sure you can't fully move on. That's not fair to you at all.
My advice would be to block and delete him from everywhere yourself. You don't need that mixed-message BS in your life. It'll just prolong your healing.
He had his chance, but he's not treating you right now with respect. A true friend wouldn't leave you on read or make demands like that.
You deserve so much better than his hot and cold routine. Cut off contact - that's the healthiest thing for you right now. I know it's hard, but you'll feel such a weight off your shoulders. You got this, girl!
You delete what you want to delete. What he thinks of it shouldn't matter to you. They're your memories, do with them what you think is best for you.
Staying friends, to that I say "fuck that" I'd block him.
I told him I'd delete it when I'm ready , like I don't even look at the pictures anymore but the break up was recent like 2 weeks and he said wtf he doesn't care if I look or not it's his personal stuff and if I can't even be respectful then his lost trust in humans
What a manipulation tactic.
If that's what it takes to lose trust in humanity, it doesn't matter what you do, his trust should be long gone. You're not putting him to shame or anything, you're just keeping a precious memory. He's an ex and for better or worse you made memories together. There could have been important moments in your life where he was a part of. I wouldn't delete those.
Lol worst part he was my first boyfriend so kinda hard just deleting everything like that and the fact that he could so easily move on and delete ny stuff then instantly download dating apps sucks, I asked him when we just broke up whether we're completely done and he said he can't tell the future and kind off hovers around checks in with a message every week just to leave me on read after asking me whether his things are gone and when I say delete me cause he already hurt me enough or give me space until I'm over everything he says his being respectful and I'm being rude and it's cause of my behavior that we broke up lol sorry I'm ranting to you right now but doesn't this sound a bit narcissistic?
He can do no wrong, it seems.
Basically and I'm an absolute coward that can't let go so his using that like crazy lol unfortunately he lost interest and I didn't so I have to sit with the aftermath