Why has my ex started following me and liking my posts a year later?

[Anonymous]

My ex-boyfriend, who I was only dating for a couple of months, dumped me a year and a half ago out of the blue. He said our relationship "didn't match his priorities" and I "couldn't help him grow as a person." Which is what he wants out of a girlfriend and future wife, apparently. He also said he thought he was ready for a relationship, but he actually wasn't. He also said that he was "manifesting" a wife. I told him good luck with that.

I accepted the breakup, and let him go. I deleted him off all my social media and blocked his number.

Now a year and a half later, I recently saw that he followed me on instagram. He's been liking all my latest posts. I did want him back all this time, but I feel like if he threw away out relationship last time, he could do it again.

What does he want? What should I do? If he reaches out, should I accept him?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I wouldn't read too much into this ex popping back up out of the blue. He sounds kinda flaky from the things he said when dumping you before.

My guess is he's just creeping and liking your pics cuz he's bored or feeling lonely. Or he's testing the waters to see if you're still single and available as an option.

But honestly, I wouldn't trust him not to up and ditch you again soon as something "better" comes along. If he wanted you this whole time, why is he only just now reaching out? Makes no sense.

I say don't reply if he messages you. You've done so well moving on these past years! Don't let him mess with your head. Block him again sis.

You deserve way better than some indecisive dude who will just play with your feelings. Keep flourishing without him! When the right guy comes, he'll cherish you for sure. Stay strong - you got this!

[Mr_twoface]

He is beginning to be desperate and is making his move to get you back (or at least for the sex if he is a dick). You will do so much better without him! Don't take him back!

[Asker]

Yeah thanks, I haven't followed him back and am ignoring his attention. If he can dump me once, he'll never have me again. Like no thanks sir!

[Mr_twoface]

Yeah, that's one way of going about it. Another is to reach out and be gentle, hear his side (as to why he is being desperate again) and then politely declining him. This way he may regret even more dumping you (especially if you come across as being more mature). Also for your own "peace of mind" it may be nice to hear he wants you back (desperately) and then you being the more settle one! However, if you are weak in your emotions then what you are doing is the best! Men can sometimes be so persuasive that people will forget their faults.

Good luck and hope things works out for you!

[Asker]

Thanks!!