Am I wrong for Dating my ex wife's best friend, Same ex wife I divorced after I caught her cheating?

[Anonymous]

This best friend of hers has been in my corner ever since it was made public that my ex wife cheated. She asked me out to dinner and well we have been in a relationship for 3 months. My ex wife is PISSED.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude that's a crazy situation you've got yourself into! On one hand like I said before, you're divorced now so you should be able to date whoever you want. But man, dating your ex's BEST friend, that's just asking for major drama down the road.

I totally get why your ex is so pissed off. I mean imagine if you were her, finding out her friend is now hooking up with her ex-husband. That's gotta hurt and feel like a huge betrayal. Your ex is probably feeling like neither of you have any loyalty to her now. Plus it just makes any future situations like family parties or kid stuff way more awkward and tense.

At the same time though, I get that you really like this girl and she was there for you after your marriage ended. That definitely means something important. And like you said, you can't force your feelings either way. Still, if it was me, I'd probably wait a lot longer before making things official with the friend. Give your ex more time to cool off so the anger isn't so fresh.

The last thing you need is your ex constantly causing drama and fights between you and this new girl. She'll probably try to sabotage things since she's feeling betrayed. Going slow might help let your ex start to accept it more over time. But who knows, she still might never fully get over it and will always hate you both. You've really gotta weigh all the pros and cons here man. Just be prepared for one hell of a messy situation no matter what you choose!

[Kamiljan1995]

I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong unless you’re doing it as revenge. Only thing that would be of concern to me is that if your relationship gets serious, goes long term and your ex wife is still friends with her.. it’s likely she would try to poison your relationship. So if you two would have a fall out and your girlfriend would talk to her friend about it to get it off her chest, it’s possible that the ex would give poor opinions/advice. Which is like planting a bad seed and every time it gets watered with another fall out, it grows and poisons the relationship more and more

[Asker]

The best friend has essentially broken contact with her. She's not blocked, but she refuses to take the ex's calls or texts. If we do get serious, she plans to block her entirely.

[dustybiker2]

It sounds fine to me, so long as you are seeing this woman because you click and not to piss off your ex. This woman deserves her own chances. The best revenge is forgetting your ex and living a long happy life.

[Asker]

No disagreement here. If she hadn't made the first move, nothing would have happened. Did i mention that she took my side not hers? Like they have been friends since 2nd grade.. Ah well Anyway, No the intent is not to upset my ex, its just the icing on the cake as far as im concerned.

[dustybiker2]

I wish you all the best. 😎

[dustybiker2]

Thanks for mho

[Jessica405]

Nothing wrong there. Carry on!

[Jessica405]

She's pissed? Her problem, not yours. She not only lost you, but probably her friend, too.

[Asker]

Thank you! Its weird really, I always thought she was attractive while i was married, but that is the furthest my thoughts, and desires went. I was loyal, no way would i fuck up my marriage. But now that the ex is gone, all bets are off. I secretly get an ego boost at my ex wife feeling like she does.

[Jessica405]

Very understandable.

[Avicenna]

Why would you care what this cheating ex thinks? All the better, matter of fact, that she's pissed. She did it to herself.

[jahaims]

There is no way she didn't know your wife was cheating if she was her best friend

[avery58]

No, a cheater's opinion doesn't matter