Ghosting toxic ex?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have two kids (toddlers) and he’s been extremely emotionally abusive lately. I want to block him for a few days to get a break and I have no idea what triggered this. Of course if something was needed for the kids; I’d reach out to him. But anything other than that, I just wanted to block him. What should I do? I somehow need to get my power back!

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, that sounds like such a tough situation to be in. No one deserves to be with someone who treats them badly, especially in front of the kids. I think blocking him for a bit could really help give you some space to de-stress and feel in control again. Your mental health is so important too as a mom.

If it was me, I'd block him on everything except email maybe, so that you can still communicate about kid stuff if needed. Then try to spend time focusing on yourself and your little ones. Do things that make you happy and feel strong again without his abuse bringing you down. The space may also give him a chance to reflect on how he's been acting.

I know confrontation can make these situations more tense, so ghosting could be the way to go short term. But maybe write him a message first just saying you need a break from the communication for a few days and will still be contactable for kid emergencies. Then see how you feel after blocking - you might feel empowered enough to have a talk about setting better boundaries long term. You've got this mama! Do what's best for you and your family.

[DishLady]

As far as I know, unless he’s harming the kids you can’t completely “ghost” your BD-ex. You can silence notifications and avoid him for a while but blocking him will land you in court quicker that you can say “smart phone.”

[Asker]

Yea that’s what I figured 😩

[strateguy632]

do not block until you get divorced.