Ghosted- my fault?

[Anonymous]

I was seeing a guy and he was so into me at first, saying things like I was his ideal and he was infatuated with me. Third date he told me he doesn’t wear condoms and as I’m not on the pill I didn’t sleep with him but we carried on seeing each other. He said things like he wasn’t interested in anyone else.

Date 5 I got very drunk which isn’t like me but I apologised to him although he was annoyed I didn’t sleep with him but I told him I would go back on the pill. Date 6 he came over to my place and a message on his phone popped up from a girl on hinge. I knew he didn’t have the app previously so I got upset and probably didn’t handle the situation well. He said I was paranoid as we weren’t even exclusive yet.

After a few more meet ups, he’s now ghosted me. I’m gutted as I really thought we had clicked and he was keen on me. Now I feel like it’s all my fault and I’ve lost a great guy.

[Anonymous]

It sounded like (even just your first sentence) that he was laying it on pretty thick very quickly. The third date he tells you he doesn't wear condoms, who does that? lol I have to agree with the 1 comment so far from women, I think in this case he was only interested in a sexual relationship and that was the only real interest in you. Look at it this way, did he EVER try to get to really know you as a person and your life? My guess is no, it was all about sex?

[Avicenna]

Well, you weren’t exclusive with him and maybe he got a stronger vibe from the other woman. Did you want exclusivity with him?

[Asker]

I did want exclusively with him yes but when I tried to talk to him he didn’t want to and just said he was happy were things were going. I initiated meet ups but I knew he had changed. You’re right he may have had a better connection with someone else but why ghost me instead of just being honest?

[Asker]

Also it was him that said he wasn’t pursuing anyone else!

[Avicenna]

Most people lack the courage to tell someone they've met someone else. Although I do it, it's not the most comfortable thing to do.

[KrysKukVinson]

I don’t mean to be rude, but that guy is just a dick! He wants to use you for sexual pleasure and that is not okay. Using people can hurt them greatly and ghosting you because you wouldn’t have sex before is bullshit.

[Anonymous]

He only wanted sex. Guys lie to get in ur pants

[Iron_Man]

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