Why is my therapist blaming me for being ghosted and saying that running a YouTube channel is not a real job?

[Anonymous]

So I'm being blamed for my girlfriend ghosting me and its my therapist who is blaming me. She's upset at me cause I won't listen to her advice of getting a real job as she claims running a youtube channel is not a real job. She says that I look unattractive to women and I find that offensive. Apparently a lot of people are taking her side and I'm getting sick of it. Everyone is always blaming me and saying that I strain all of my relationships and friendships just because I have bipolar. Why is it considered my fault that my relationship when I had no control over it? How can I deal with people constantly harassing me? Why is running a youtube channel not a real job when I get paid for it?

[SueShe]

Somehow, this question has been asked numerous times before under different identities and phrased slightly differently.

Furthermore, I don't believe that a qualified and certified therapist would ever interfere in your professional and emotional life to tell you bluntly that you are at fault for what you are experiencing. This seems way too far fetched in my opinion. Your therapist could be a self-proclaimed therapist but certainly not one that had to through the standard medical education and curriculum.

A professional medical person would not give her own personal opinion on a topic that is not relevant to the medical case that she is treating and neither would she take sides against the patient.

[kylee2437]

I don’t believe that your therapist talked about your looks and such. YouTube is not a real job unless if you are actually making a living wage off of it and you gave little detail regarding your relationship to determine why your therapist is blaming you for your girlfriend leaving

[young_OG96]

I don’t know why people are saying YouTube isn’t a real job…. It’s another source of income that people make decent to excellent amounts in…. Now I don’t believe this post is genuine probably using it to promote himself tho. No therapist would have a license to practice if they spoke to you like that

[andreasderjuengere]

A therapist is there to help you with your issues

and not to stroke your ego.

Youtube indeed is NOT a job, but just ripping off some money for actually not doing much. Similar to an insurance broker, or a pole dancer.

Be glad to have a therapist who's open and honest with you.

[EnglishEuropean]

You have a lot of thought distortions going on there. Obviously I don't know your therapist personally but she's likely just challenging some of your beliefs, some of which might be delusional. It also sounds like you have trouble taking responsibility for events in your life. You're saying you had no control over your relationship? That's simply not plausible. A relationship takes two people. You probably got ghosted because your girlfriend thought dumping you outright would make you crazy.

But you don't believe your therapist, so obviously you're not going to believe me either.

[gaydude948]

This guy is a joke. He claims he runs a successful youtube channel and has earnings when you look at it, he only has 2 subscribers and views are shit. He's full of himself and he actually posts this same shit on reddit

[Anonymous]

I know people that run very successful YouTube channels that make money, and none of them consider it a real job.

[EnglishEuropean]

Actually it could be a real job, if you have daily updates and over 100k subscribers.

[gaydude948]

@EnglishEuropean This guy is a joke., his channel only has two subscribers and views are shit