Keeps ghosting then coming back?

[ToxicoLuluz]

I have been seeing a guy for some months, he is very hot and cold and inconsistent. Acts like he’s in love with me when we’re around each other just to then go ghost for weeks. I have been so patient and understand but It is starting to really piss me off, he asked me to hangout with him a few weeks ago in a message, I responded wanting to hangout and then he didn’t open my message for hours, he finally did and said he fell asleep. Not sure why he would ask me to hangout only to then fall asleep. Then he Said he misses me and wants to see me soon. Then I Don’t hear from him for a week. Then he finally messages me on insta and asks me what I’m doing this weekend. Then I answer him that I’m not doing anything this weekend. He waits almost 24 hours to even read my message, only to then leave me on seen. It’s been hours and he hasn’t responded but he just watched my recent story so I know he’s on the app just not responding to me. What was the point of asking me? Part of me, like my intuition feels like he does this on purpose as some weird manipulative game which is fucked up. That or he just refuses to communicate his real intentions and he is a bullshitter. I’m finally getting really tired of my time being wasted. I guess I am on here because I want to know how I should go about dealing with him. Should I woman up and call him out on his shit finally and see is he changes his behavior? Or Should I just say fuck it and start ignoring him, and just move on?

[Anonymous]

So from my POV for one you’re not his no.1 chick. I can almost guarantee you he’s seeing, talking, maybe even sleeping w other chicks. A man will jump through hoops if he is really into a girl to want to be w her. Those times he ghosting you is probably because he’s w someone else or taking to someone else. Once he gets what he wants from the other person or the other person isn’t available then he will come back to you. He does this because you’re allowing it to happen. He’s done it numerous times, you’ve proven to him that you’re willing to wait around for scraps like a begging dog. You need to move on. I never tell people to turn the tables, meaning appear unavailable or play this game back because I think it’s childish. But I’d you’re not willing to move on cause you like him that much than yes don’t be as available all the time. Don’t be so quick to respond. Maybe simple word responses. But I think it’s time to move on cause I can almost guarantee you he’s talking to other squirrels on the side.

[Guy13]

If someone keeps ghosting you then it is clear that they are not serious. Why would allow them back into your life? This makes no sense to me.

[MIMOSACHALLENGE]

Lemme tell you the truth straight up because I had something similar happen to me and I kept going back. He immature and he's not seeing you as a serious option for his future. Trust me, a man who wants something will put the effort in and actually not play these games. Start being colder with him, answer him less, be more dry - WATCH how quick he changes. Either changes in the sense becoming more consistent because he will finally respect your time or he'll be the same which in that case don't say anything directly just show with your actions by being distant af that you have better things to do and better options out there. Hope this helps! P. S. he is a bullshitter and you sound like a lovely young lady.

[Furious_Revelation19]

I would say he is clearly not serious!!

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[LemiaOfThunder]

Ask him why he keeps ghosting you.