An ex is an ex. Forget him; he's not your source of happyness, is he?
Things didn't workout and that's fine. A romantic relationship is after all: a product of feelings and agreements. Initially, you both shared the same feelings and had agreements; time passed, things went down south, and here you are. I know what is like to been ghosted. It surely builds up lot of resentment, however, I came to realize, why hate my ex? First, you gotta accept you gave your ex a trust you never had to, therefore, you need to accept you can't trust your ex, not even a bit. It means, you gotta take responsability of what you wanna do next (keep him or dump him from your life). If you feel you got things to solve, do not enter a serious relationship. You will undoubtly regret it. Enjoy been single and remember: he is who he is, you can't change that, plus, you are not together anymore, why give him the importance of being hated, when you should save your energy for recovering yourself from the toxic relation you had?
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I get what you’re going through for sure. One thing I learned about hate, was that it does more to you then it’ll ever do to the person who wronged you. Not only that, but it gives them so much power — too much — and they don’t deserve that role in your life. In my darkest moments I had to literally force that negativity from my mind because I didn’t want to be that person. I didn’t want to turn into this man hating, negative version of who I was, not trusting anyone and only expecting people to hurt me. All because of him. I was sick of feeling so mad, depressed and etc. I took my power back, and you should too.
You’re only going to sabotage your own shot of being truly happy with someone else if you continue like that. Meanwhile Derek will continue to live his life normally while you’re over here stuck in the past.
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My guess is he was a college sweetheart of yours
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