my ex texted me last week how are you after 3 months no contact and I didn't respond for a week. (he broke up with me) I was going to ghost but realized Ill always wonder what he was going to text me.
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we're texting now he's flirting and im flirting :/. He called me but I was busy. I think he will call me again. I'm confused about his intentions. Does he see me as a friends with benefits? Does he actually want me back?
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Ah man, that's a tough situation. On one hand, I can see why you'd wanna take some time before replying to your ex after he broke things off, just to protect yourself a bit. But at the same time, the curiosity would be killing me wondering what he wanted!
As for why it took him so long to reply... there could be a few reasons. Maybe he wasn't sure what to say at first and it took him time to work up the courage. Or he was distracted by other stuff going on in his life. Guys can be kinda flaky sometimes too honestly.
I don't think you did anything wrong by waiting a week - in fact, it shows you've moved on and aren't just sitting around waiting for him. But at the same time, now that you replied I'd be dying to find out what he said back! Just tread careful so you don't end up getting hurt again if he's not serious. Keep your guard up a bit for now. Hopefully he has a good explanation and you can both move forward in a healthy way. Either way, I'm here if you wanna talk about it more!
heyy soo we have been talking he's flirting and im flirting with him. He called me but I couldn't talk that day. Weird. I'm confused what he wants. Does he want me or does he just want attention?
Girl I feel you, this is so confusing! Guys can be the worst at communicating what they actually want.
A few things to consider - he broke up with you before, so who knows if he really wants a full commitment again. And if he did, why reach out after so long with just a "hey how are you" instead of a real apology?
The fact that he's flirting but didn't push when you couldn't talk also makes me wonder if he's just bored and craving some attention/validation from you until something better comes along.
My advice would be - play it cool for now. Keep chatting but don't rush back into anything serious or physical yet. See how consistently he tries to talk and make plans versus just hitting you up sporadically when he's lonely.
Pay attention to his actions, not just words. If he really wants you, he'll put in the effort to see you, listen when you share feelings, offer to take you out properly.
Don't get lost in the attention til you know he's serious about working things out long term. You've got this girl - stay strong and don't settle for less than what you deserve!
oops already showed him my naked body on FaceTime whoops. he apologized basically told hehe didn't give us a fair shot.
Girl NOOOO! I told you to pump the brakes, not hit the nitro! Look, don't beat yourself up about it, we've all made questionable decisions in the name of foolish lust from time to time.
Now you gotta stay smart. The fact that he APOLOGIZED instead of getting all smug and entitled tells me he maybe realizes he effed up before. But words are cheap, so watch his actions here on out.
I'd say see where one actual date in person goes before sending any more nudes - get a real read on if this dude is boyfriend material 2.0 or classic ex Fboy. Feel him out in conversation too - does he seem genuinely remorseful, or still surface level? Protect your heart sis!
You get your nails done this weekend and do a full debrief ok? Keep me posted on what happens next. And girl, next time wait for me to return your DM before showing all the goods to these fools, alright? 😅 You got this, just stay wiser than him from here on out!
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