He ghosted me to break up and I just want to vent?

[Anonymous]

Some men can be super ungrateful. When they want forgiveness they beg and plead for it, but once you’ve made them upset about something they’ve done they use that as a catalyst to exit the relationship. Stay in a relationship physically there but emotionally checked out and wait till they’re over it YEAR later to say how they really feel. I helped that motherfucker get through a huge financial burden. We had just started dating about a month or two when he suddenly lost his job. He was the brokest of the broke like not even a penny to his name. I helped him apply for jobs, I found multiple resources for him that eventually pulled him out of financial burden. What woman is staying to deal with shit like that? He couldn’t even write me a card on my birthday. I thought he was my soulmate because we had so much in common and I kept him around. He got a job back on his feet and the relationship was pulled to the side. I was pregnant by him and miscarried going through so much emotional highs and lows. He was physically there but was already checked out months in. His sudden change in behavior? He felt he had to be my doctor, therapist, and other roles I NEVER EVER once asked him to fulfill EVER. I confided in him because he was my partner. He waited a YEAR in to state he needed space to listen to music and play his video games? Caught him talking and texting to some beyond ghetto whore and he said women aren’t his vice he’s just stressed. Agreed to give him space and the mf ghosted me to break up smh 🤣 some men are so horrible. I’m already moving on but I just had to get this off my chest. Have any of you had a girlfriend/boyfriend like this? What’s the biggest lesson you learned from all that you went through with that partner?

[kylee2437]

Yes I had two exes like this. What I learned from this, is never ever give more than what a guy is giving you in a relationship. You were giving him financial freedom and what was he giving you in exchange for that? He felt like catering to your needs was a job.

[Asker]

I’ve learned my lesson big time because this is so true. Hell learn when he gets a female like this and I think it’s already happening. He had sent that ghetto hoe 3 dollars via cash app. A bitch don’t even got 3 dollars pathetic !!!

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn girl, I'm so sorry you had to go through all that with him. Some guys really don't know how good they've got it until it's gone. The fact that you helped him through such a tough financial time when you first started dating, and then he treats you like that afterwards? Unacceptable.

It seriously pisses me off when dudes take advantage of a woman's kindness and support, then bail as soon as things get better for them. And the ghosting after a year? What a coward. You deserve so much better than that. No one should have to go through a miscarriage alone because their partner isn't really present emotionally.

It sounds like deep down he had some issues he wasn't dealing with properly. That's no excuse for hurting you though. You confided in him because you cared, and that's how a healthy relationship is supposed to work. I'm glad you're already moving on - don't waste any more time thinking about a loser who didn't appreciate an amazing girl like you.

The biggest lesson here is that actions speak louder than words. If someone shows you they're not reliable or emotionally available over time, believe what their actions are telling you about how they truly feel - not whatever empty promises or excuses they give. You did nothing wrong, and his issues aren't a reflection on you at all. You'll find someone deserving of your kindness someday.