Girls, is this true: "Girls don't breakup without a backup" ?

[moneymagnet24]

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Well I don't see anything wrong in having backup girls or guys should have backup because no one stay forever... be realistic.

[Finchie40]

Some do some don’t , just depends on what kind of person she is , if she is a selfish girl that only cares about herself? Than more than likely she has a back up plan , cuz she is afraid of being alone , if she isn’t a selfish girl and treats you with love and respect, than she more than likely doesn’t have one and you shouldn’t be breaking up with her in the first place , finding a non selfish girl these days is hard to come by

[Didi__1]

More of self protection, than selfishness and depends on how you treat your woman.
If you treat her with the deserved respect, love, kindness and nurture her feminine energy from within and she will always give you the same goodness you give.
People are what they do, not what they say, you are what you do, not what you say.
Don’t expect a woman going all for you and receive the little end of the rope.
She certainly can’t pour from an empty cup, you pour what she needs into her cup, and she will pour more into yours!
it all depends on how you both turn up for each other every day.
Finding a non selfish girl isn’t hard, are you willing to put in the work?
It all depends and starts with you!

[RyanK9b]

All what u mentioned didi are simp traits which gets a guy friendzoned or left

[Didi__1]

Anyone who is emotionally intelligent/mature and emotionally secured enough won’t see that as simp traits.
I wonder why some men think it is simping, that’s one of the reasons you all think good women are so difficult to find. Because of the mindset you all have.
Both willing to work as a team in a relationship it’s necessary to even start with, finding the person you need is another and with the right mindset, everything will naturally follow, without one person feeling like a simp or whatever that’s called.

[rosemilk]

depends on the person (guy or girl). some people just can't be alone. some actually do want to be single and aren't afraid to be. but this "backup" happens when people who are so dependent on someone else or making a relationship their whole personality that if they don't have another relationship immediately or someone who wants them, they will have a full break down. they have no idea who they are or how to cope with being alone. a lot of people with borderline personality disorder are like this.

[MsShy87]

No, not for me. The last guy I broke up with was because he turned controlling and abusive and was a cheater. I can honestly say that I've never left any relationship with a backup man. Given the current dating scene that values meaningless encounters such as nsa hookups and booty calls, I have zero interest in dating again. I'm too old and damaged anyway.

[Summeroflove]

For some girls it’s true. Number one…. Don’t waste someone’s time you don’t genuinely love. Let them find happiness in someone they genuinely make happy and are happy with. As well as don’t waste your own time.

Number two you’re better alone then with anyone who makes you miserable. EVER

[DishLady]

No, it’s not true. Guys aren’t computers. You don’t need an f-ing backup. Just a friend to give you a lift when you leave the guy who isn’t worth your time and effort.

[AGメtheloneWOLF]

Just a Friend with benefits or so
because in my generation it's trending like nothing else

[DishLady]

@AGメtheloneWOLF Yeah, I'm aware.

[AGメtheloneWOLF]

Hence the backup right

[DishLady]

@AGメtheloneWOLF Wrong. I can't imagine being some asshole's backup. SO romantic right? Every girl's dream, right? (Wrong... my generation had Knight Rider with the ejector seat. That's a concept to boot out of the ejector seat.) I'd SO rather be alone and left in peace rather than to risk my body with whatever STDs this idiot would be passing along from girl to girl.

(And by the way same goes for the guys. I know guys may have their sexual amps cranked to 11 for a few years and they have to do whatever they have to do, but bottom line is there are whores who don't mind being "the meaningless sex" person and ladies who don't want or need that at all.)

[Dongie]

Ouch.

[AGメtheloneWOLF]

Uhm...

[DishLady]

@AGメtheloneWOLF Yeah...

[AviatorTom]

From my experience, that's generally true. Women are willing to settle until and unless they have a viable option to break up.

[Avicenna]

I'd guess that a minority of them do, but most don't.

[IslaTheWitch]

I have no idea what "backup" means

I brought the break-up topic to my first long-term boyfriend because he acted toxic... I just took my stuff and kids and moved out... I needed to find a job, I was in the middle of my psychology studies, I needed a place to live with my kids... I guess I didn't have back up

[Vegasrunner]

@islathewitch You already had kids when you were in your 1st long term relationship and he was the one that was toxic?

[IslaTheWitch]

@Vegasrunner nope, my kids were an effect of my first long-term relationship :D

[Vegasrunner]

@islathewitch So your first long term relationship was with the father of your children?

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner Who I bet she then hit up for child support and refused to let him see them except when she needed a babysitter.

[IslaTheWitch]

@Vegasrunner yep

[Vegasrunner]

@islathewitch So he never chose to marry you?

[IslaTheWitch]

@Vegasrunner no, marriage was never a part of our plans... we did talk about it, but my parents divorced when I was a small kid, and his also had their hiccups, and we didn't see marriage as a good idea

[Vegasrunner]

@islathewitch You mean he didn't see marriage as a good idea, because he never proposed to you?

[IslaTheWitch]

@Vegasrunner no... we BOTH didn't see it as a good idea, I didn't expect him to propose lol

[Vegasrunner]

@islathewitch Well yea, that's the only way you can get married, women don't propose to men, men control who gets relationships. It would be interesting to find out why he didn't propose to you despite being in a long term relationship with a woman that has his kids.

[IslaTheWitch]

@Vegasrunner lmao... I got married in my second relationship because I proposed :D

[Vegasrunner]

@islathewitch Ouch I'm sorry to hear that. That means that you were forced to settle for a guy that could only get a woman w/someone else's kids and you had to force him to marry him. No it kind of males sense why the first guy didn't want to propose.

[IslaTheWitch]

@Vegasrunner lmao I was able to settle with a wonderful guy who loved me and my kids, was honest about his lack of preferences about the marriage and we had a lot of fun when I proposed. But you wouldn't understand it... pure love without expectations doesn't exist for you

[moneymagnet24]

Ofc pure love come with special offer kids as a free with pure love. 😊

[Vegasrunner]

@islathewitch I think that's great for you. I would argue that more women should settle for average guys instead of waiting until they're past their prime like you were forced to do.

[IslaTheWitch]

@Vegasrunner I never was forced, I did my choice and have no regrets :D

[msc545]

Vegasrunner has his own preconceived notions of how these things work, and he is determined to make sure that reality doesn't intrude on this no matter what you say to him.

[IslaTheWitch]

@msc545 yeah... :D

[Vegasrunner]

@islathewitch Based on your words you were kinda forced to settle for the type of guy that's forced to settle w/ a women w/ two kids.

[Vegasrunner]

@msc545 Reality is she was forced to propose, to the kind of man marrying a woman w/ two kids from another man which should tell you everything you need to know.

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner You may not be wrong, but you don't know this at all. You are guessing.

[Vegasrunner]

@msc545 Did you read the interaction? All of this is factual and confirmed by @islathewitch

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner I read it. You asked her one bullying, leading question after another and I think she just got tired of arguing with you.

I don't think that anyone or anything "forced" her to do anything, but you kept badgering her to adopt your version of things.

[Vegasrunner]

@msc545 It's unfortunate that you felt it was bullying, however I simply asked a normal question which is what people do when they want to learn more about a person. The problem stems from the fact that we are asked to take women at their word all the time w/out getting the other side of the story. In this case I asked a simple clarification question which led to a conversation. TBH @islathewitch answered the questions like a normal person and I have a better understanding of her situation. She is the one who introduced the idea of proposing to her boyfriend, since women don't typically propose to men it is a logical conclusion that she was forced to propose. It also highlights how important marriage is to women.

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner Ok, maybe just badgering as opposed to bullying. Still not ok.

[Vegasrunner]

@msc545 So you're saying that whenever women ask questions they're badgering?

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner No I described what YOU were doing as badgering. Please don't rely on false equivalence as a rhetorical device.

[Vegasrunner]

@msc545 Kind of hypocritical no? On one end you're claiming I have "preconceived notions" then in the next breath share your opinion that I'm "badgering" Do you not understand why that's incongruent?

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner How are those incongruent?

[Vegasrunner]

@msc545 Great question. Do you know the definition of incongruent

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner Do you?

[Vegasrunner]

@msc545 Yes

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner what is it then? And why did you ask me?

[Vegasrunner]

@msc545 You believe the appropriate response to a question is to ignore it and ask the same question to the asker? You clearly don't know what the word means, don't contact me until you answer my question first.

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner I don't take orders from you. Surprise!

[Vegasrunner]

@msc545 Then there's no place for you in this conversation.

[msc545]

@Vegasrunner You are not in control of this conversation and you have no authority here.

[Didi__1]

Depends on how you treat your woman.
If you treat her with the deserved respect, love, kindness and nurture her feminine energy from within and she will always give you the same goodness you give.
People are what they do, you’re what you do, not what you say.
Don’t expect a woman going all for you and receive the little end of the rope.
She certainly can’t pour from an empty cup, you pour what she needs into her cup and she will pour more into yours! she won’t need a back up
it all depends on how you both turn up for each other every day!

[Wallythewalrus2]

I don't think they have a "back up" when they're actually heavily involved with someone but I feel, once they sense problems, they start becoming drawn to someone they might see as a replacement. I've been the "replacement guy". I've had the, "John, Tom, Bill (pick a name) and I are having problems" talk with them. I get the hell out of Dodge once I hear those words!

[Alli112]

As a general rule, no. Is that how certain individuals might think? I don't know I guess, but there are dudes that do the same. It's not a gendered thing. But I'd say that most people break up because it's time to break up, not because they're ready to shift to who ever's on the back burner.

[mobiusforniner]

Not in my experience. I think you’re trying to find validation for having vengeful anger after being dumped. If that’s the case, maybe do some introspection and change instead of imagining her infidelities to justify remaining the same.

Let go and move on.

[GeminiDiamond]

Been married for awhile and don't have a backup. I did when I was dating. Any girl says no either doesn't know anyone or a liar. Same with guys. You guys keep a contingency plan if dating.

[moneymagnet24]

I agree till you're not fully committed into relationship then I always have backup plan.

[PhotogLady]

I've never had a '"back-up" plan. I have met other boys while seeing another and broke up with the one I was with. I wouldn't call that a backup plan. I would call that life. I was a teenager then. In my adult years, never had a "back-up plan."

[HawkPerception]

I never had a backup plan in any of relationships I've had and it usually took me more than a year to get into a new relationship.

[Jessikaah91]

I've never had one probably because I usually give my everything to one guy. but I'm not denying that other woman probably do.

[standardguy]

That is not true. Girls break up because they really don't need men. The problem is that today breaking up for a wife has not negative but positive economic impact. so they are not hindered but motivated to break up a relationship. And that is very bad thing.

[RowenaRavenclaw]

I mean would you quit your job before you had another one? Jk, I mean it’s not a prerequisite for me tbh… I probably wouldn’t mind though. Going a while without sex would suck, so

[moneymagnet24]

Haha you're my girl 😘

[RowenaRavenclaw]

Woah woahhhh don’t make me fall for you, I don’t even know you 😭 (yet)

[moneymagnet24]

Don't fall for me
Rise with me 😘

[RowenaRavenclaw]

Are we… flirting rn 👀🥵

[moneymagnet24]

If flirting make you smile n blush
Then queen I can go hours n hours nonstop flirt with you. ❤️😘

Because the moment you smiled I melt like ice...😘

[elizamichale1]

Not at all... who on earth would do such a thing... once u start to think about backup it already means tht u r not being committed at ur best so things r bound to get failed

[moneymagnet24]

Aw eli the cutie 💓

[elizamichale1]

😊😊

[moneymagnet24]

It's been long time how are you cutie? 😘

[elizamichale1]

Not bad.. how about u

[Anonymous]

I always had what I used to call a "contemporaneous backup", which translates as another women that I was usually also sleeping with but not as involved with as the main one. I did this "just in case" and that case would happen a little more frequently then I wanted it too, actually.

In other words - I cheated a lot and all the time.

Presently I don't date at all, so I can avoid all this drama.

[Nikki1989]

I have never had a back-up in my entire life.

[moneymagnet24]

Maam you're queen no men afford to lose you...
They won't give you chance to think about backup. ❤️

[Little_Bumblebee]

I've never had a back-up or jumped to the next one instantly.

[Mwolf]

💯 N-O. I'm fiercely independent, so dating is not really on my list in the first place TBH.

[RyanK9b]

Its not a backup, its the better version. They just meet someone more interesting or fitting for their needs and dump the older guy. Thats what's seen as backup but actually is a switch

[_Troian_]

It's all about characteristics of that woman.. if u check social media u will see a lot of guys saying that.. yeah something like that exist but not in all cases.

[WhitneySnow]

Not true. Plenty of girls break up without a backup.

[RARETRAMP]

Agree with @geminidiamond. I don't even know if I will be alive in 5 seconds and you talking about this?

[genericname85]

girls don't need a back up. there's enough simps out there.

[noohair]

My ex was married 6 weeks after the divorce. She was shopping around 3 years before the divorce.

[Anonymous]

of course it's true. that's why rebounds and monkey branching exists

[AlexEfron]

@YourFutureEx will always remember your advice bro 💪🏻

[YourFutureEx]

Universal phenomenon

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

My wife cheated on me aand she didn't want me to do anything to me and I was just over what she's capable of doing anything

[lilyofthevalley97]

😑 no but I wish I knew how to be that socially sly

[moneymagnet24]

Shy girls are hot 🔥 🔥🔥

[Anonymous]

I just brokeup with my boyfriend and i have no backups but he does apparently so now i learned my lesson🤣

[Jessikaah91]

Why would you want a "backup" 🤣

[moneymagnet24]

Because I'm the secret backup plan in girls life I know 😂

[Jessikaah91]

I guess you have tickets on yourself? We definitely don't have backups.. usually one guy is enough and if it doesn't work out we usually don't go jump on someone new straight away lol.

[moneymagnet24]

You're such a sweetheart then ❤️

[Jessikaah91]

It actually takes me a long time usually to get over someone. Because I usually love with everything... I even said to my partner if we ever broke up, I'm not moving on.. I'll become a nun lol (I was being serious except the nun part) lol

[moneymagnet24]

Aw queen having heart like you is cruel in this days...
Don't allow anyone to steal your gorgeous smile & play with your heart pf gold. ❤️

[MisterWack]

False.
False.
False.

[Radiate143]

That's men. l you speak of.

[DrPepper12]

False. Its easier to rebound tho

[Becky316]

Not always but more than once

[12karen]

No it's not.
When I date, there's no backup

[Likes2drive]

Probably true with a lot of women

[Dongie]

I figure that backup is the reason. The BB deal.

[thegreenyogi]

Not in my case.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to be a backup?

[moneymagnet24]

I'm always backup in everyone storing 🙃

[Opinion Owner]

So girls don't want you?

[moneymagnet24]

I don't want relationship I'm fuckboy..
I'm happy to be backup plan in many stories 😘

[Opinion Owner]

Oh do u buy them gifts?

[moneymagnet24]

Absolutely yes I love giving gifts to girls just recently I given necklace to on of my fuck buddy 😘

[Opinion Owner]

Sure keep dreaming

[moneymagnet24]

Lol be with the rich fuckboy instead of poor lover. 😘

[Opinion Owner]

You're an Indian guy using some guy's picture to luring in women. 😂

[moneymagnet24]

Lmao 🤣 🤣
Let's have video call?

[Opinion Owner]

No you're a desperate Indian guy

[moneymagnet24]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
How am I desperate? You call me fake I said let's have video call now I'm desperate 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Opinion Owner]

That's not you in the picture

[moneymagnet24]

Oh god it's me I swear of your tiny little tits...🤣

[Opinion Owner]

Then why are you on the back burner?

[moneymagnet24]

What back burner?

[Elliegirl]

Not true

[Ms_Facesitter]

Not true.

[dudeinohio]

Sometimes true.

[skyman5000x]

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