When dumper says this do they really mean it?

[Anonymous]

My dumper said when he broke things off ” our future goals don’t align. That’s why I firmly believe that you’ll find someone more compatible soon”

I don't know what he meant by ” soon”. How can he know. Does he think I won’t be alone for long…

[DishLady]

It's the polite version of "scram, this isn't working." Ok?

[Asker]

We were just talking for 2 months and only met once. I was suprised when he send me lenghty text about saying how I’m going to meet my soulmate one day, how it wss very nice to get to know me etc. I don't know it felt like he really felt guilty or something

[DishLady]

Yeah, don’t be. Guys in any sort of ldr situation can get odd.

[Asker]

Do you think he had feelings for me based on what he said to me during breaking things off?

[DishLady]

Who knows. Some guys like to say shit just to see what the girl will do next. Will she drop her panties? Yes? No? This sort of guy will get board from chasing too much and then say something like what this guy said -- or just block you. Period.

Not all guys are like this, though. Chin up and try to wait for the right guy next time, ok? Choose wisely.

[Danny_dan92]

This happens. And tbh this is a mature reason to do so. Rather than try to force the relationship to exist. Like trying to push a square peg in a circular hole

[Asker]

We were just talking for 2 months and only met once. I was suprised when he send me lenghty text about saying how I’m going to meet my soulmate one day, how it wss very nice to get to know me etc. I don't know it felt like he really felt guilty or something
He even said ”may god bless you always”

[Danny_dan92]

He’s mature

[Asker]

It sounds like he was hurting which I doubt..

[Danny_dan92]

No breakup is easy. Even for the person initiating it

[Asker]

Even if we only met once?

[Danny_dan92]

What the hell? This was a relationship?

[Asker]

No it wasn’t, it was s talking stage lol. We were texting for 2 months because we couldn’t meet sooner because of circumstances. Then after our first date where we talked about more about out life goals he ended things.
He sent me long text saying because of our life foals not aligning we shouldn’t continue to date. When I asked him ” what goals didn’t align?” He said ” just in general level they don’t align”
Wth?

[andreasderjuengere]

As an employer's termination letter phrasing, this means:

''We not longer want you''

I guess, in private life it means the same.

[Asker]

We were just talking for 2 months and only met once. I was suprised when he send me lenghty text about saying how I’m going to meet my soulmate one day, how it wss very nice to get to know me etc. I don't know it felt like he really felt guilty or something

[rosemilk]

he still cares and is being nice. i think he did you both a favor if your goals don't align. you can't stay in a relationship like that

[Asker]

Cares about me in what way?

[rosemilk]

as someone he used to be with, he doesn't hate you because your futures don't align

[Asker]

We were just talking for 2 months and only met once. I was suprised when he send me lenghty text about saying how I’m going to meet my soulmate one day, how it wss very nice to get to know me etc. I don't know it felt like he really felt guilty or something

[DrPepper12]

I admire his candidness. Dont get hung up on "soon".

[Asker]

What do you mean by that you admire his ”candidness”?

[Asker]

I don’t think he was honest with me.

[DrPepper12]

He said its not working and wished you well!

[Asker]

We were just talking for 2 months and only met once. I was suprised when he send me lenghty text about saying how I’m going to meet my soulmate one day, how it wss very nice to get to know me etc. I don't know it felt like he really felt guilty or something

[Asker]

He even said ”may god bless you always” lol