How to recover after a breakup?

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What is the best, healthiest way to get over a tough breakup? Any suggesstions?

Skinhead-1979 · Accepted Answer

Tattoos work best for me... I had only one 1 tattoo prior to 2020... I've got 10 now, of which 1 covers nearly the whole right side of my body. I've started with that one August 2022, and I have had 16 3 hour sessions so far... Might need 1 or 2 more of those sessions and it'll be done. Then work will start on the left side. I am aiming for 90% coverage.

The tattoos have massively boosted my self-perception... I am actually very satisfied about my body now, even though I am way too skinny due to neglecting myself (I don't eat well), and that of course boosts my confidence. I joke I 'prance around like a Peacock in town'.

I do have severe social anxiety... but because I have become much more confident, I feel very comfortable and at ease with strangers. I am highly visible when I am outside, I stand out from the crowd due to my dress style. I am very easy to approach and I love to get into conversations with strangers.

However, I do not let people get too close to me; I do not invite people over to my place; and I will not visit other people's houses.

I can now post pictures in comments... So here I go

Lynx122 · Accepted Answer

I'mgoing through it right now too. I'm learning a lot I guess. I thought I could just try and socialize with friends more and I wanted to start dating later. But it seems like it's not that easy. I feel really stupid sometimes. Like I try hard to do things in my way but then I get reminded that I have to play by the rules of this "game" . I can't change things to the way I want them to be, I have to change myself to follow the rules. It's a pain in the ass. I'm just stubborn and get in my own way with these things. But I'll figure it out.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Allow yourself to grieve. It may take time. Find a good friend to talk to…. Get professional therapy as well until you feel better if you can find someone worth their salt.

Also. Date (dating isn’t sex) and just be honest with yourself and who you’re with. If you’re comfortable moving forward with something new or if you don’t feel you’re ready.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Write down all the bad and horrible stuff about them in a list somewhere. Every time you miss him. Even physical stuff about them or their looks.

Anything and everything that you can.

Hang out with friends and family more.

And also take care of your health and fitness more.

- Probably don’t go have casual sex , and try dating a brand new person cause that won’t do shit. Don’t stuff ice creams down your throat or you’ll become 300 pounds.

Watch your health and your mental health. Don’t try easy outs. Time will do the moving on. Delete social media. And don’t check on them cause the only way you’ll forget or move on, is by removing visual reminders. Or limit their existence by deleting social media. At the very least for a year. Also traveling somewhere for vacation, or going to an amusement park. Anything that’ll keep you severely distracted , WORKS.

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

Unless you have a child with them, unfriend and/or block them permanently. Once you break up with them, do not ever become friends with them. They aren't your friends. They don't exist anymore. Then move on with your life and keep yourself busy with activities.

AviatorTom · Answer

Best is to move on. Take a short time to grieve, get your ex out of your system, then find someone new.

DishLady · Answer

Slowly, taking one day at a time.

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

Accepted the heart break and grieve

Get closer to God

Work out

Skin care

Get your nails done

Book a hair appointment with your stylist

Travel or move (if you can)

So, basically switch up your whole look.
I am currently in the process of all that. I have grieved.
I have been getting closer to God. I work out a lot more. I have been working on my skin. I got my nails done and have an appointment with my stylist today. 💅🏾

I am planning on moving after graduation.

Being too busy taking care of yourself will help you forget him.

Keep this in mind. Don’t jump back into a relationship fast. Don’t get attached to another man really quick. Why? It will defeat the purpose of the glow up.
If another man comes along and you not ready, please tell him. I had to do that, too.

Good luck! 💜

Gent207-2 · Answer

I've walked this part so many times before and it's different for everyone. But ultimately it's the death of a relationship. So grieve it like the death of s family member.

For me I would burn love letters and photos. Thus out of the ashes of my past I will rise like a Phoenix, anew

sage2021 · Answer

My girlfriends and I all dressed up in black dresses for one day and actually held a funeral for the death of my relationship.
We dug a big hole in the backyard and burried everything he ever gave me and any reminders of him.
It felt cathartic to do that with the support of all my girlfriend's!

lightbulb27 · Answer

process what happened, learned so can grow from it... thus not a failure, but a learning. do what is healthy for you and gives new life. as feel good, get out to try new adventures.

thatshydork · Answer

Take time, treat yourself kindly, take care of yourself.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

I don't regret things I do or if a girl leaves me I can accept and don't think about it or let it bother me much I have better things to worry over to be honest

LiamJHayden · Answer

Recognize that a breakup means one or both were either not happy or had higher priorities. Either way, it is better to be free of such an arrangement.

Meisdipa · Answer

Get yourself busy in some work. Free times always brings those thoughts.

Anonymous · Answer

Start your “comeback”. Start something new, like going to the gym, improving your cooking skills, do something new in your free time. Be aware you much you can develop yourself on your own.

Awantika03 · Answer

Keep busy yourself in work and get too much tired 😴 when you come to home you get sleep 😴 💞 without remembering ❤️ anything

handsomelad70 · Answer

In my case, get a buxom chick between 24 and 44.

Dongie · Answer

You can get drunk and cry in your beer. Get drunk and raise hell. Or just get drunk.

Enes38 · Answer

Have a nice holiday and some activities to distract you

Alexa04 · Answer

Go no contact and A threesome with Ben and Jerry good friends help you out it takes time.

avery58 · Answer

Focusing on yourself

Karina_65 · Answer

Sleep with someone else

AustColombiangirl · Answer

Climb on another cock

FarmBoy13 · Answer

Time time and more time

In_Trance · Answer

Sleep with someone else

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

Not attacking the capital, that's for sure

exitseven · Answer

Drink heavily

the29thhuman · Answer

Time

NotSlowestSloth · Answer

Sleep around

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