How to get over the fact that they never liked you?

[August42022]

I was seeing someone in January and February, and things ended in March. I had been also seeing this guy 2 years ago during summer but we fought a lot so it had ended as well. He was my first everything and I was extremely naive. Looking back at how he treated me, I realized he never actually liked me. We never went on any actual dates, and I only ever saw him at his house and in his car. Only with time did I realized he was using me for sex, and I had no one to tell me the truth as to what the reality actually was. He would nonetheless tell me that he loved me and that he wanted to be with me. He’d also tell me that he was crazy about me and would call me beautiful, cute, sexy, etc. multiples times a day while also being super affectionate with me. He would however go hours and sometimes days without texting me. I now found out he’s in a relationship and the girl is absolutely stunning and I find her a lot prettier than me. Based on her Instagram, I can see that they’re doing activities together that he clearly never wanted to do with me.

How can I get over this? It’s made my confidence hit an all time low and it’s made me feel like I’m not good enough to be loved and to be taken seriously. I’m constantly comparing myself to this girl and wondering what it was about her that led him to take her seriously, and what it was about me that led him to treat me like trash. This has been such a devastating thing for me to go through and it would’ve been a lot easier to move on from had he not started dating this new person.

Any kind advice would mean a lot to me ❤️

[Aditiiii]

Exactly same happened to me 4 years ago. He was my first love. All incidents were same except she was not prettier than me. I dumped the guy and he went to her straight and by the time i am texting you they are still in a relationship.. yes 4 years long he had been doing all those cute things with her.. i too used to think like you that what i lack and why was he not able to love me. The problem is that he is dominant over her which i did not let happen with me and dumped him. And i guess over time he fell for her and i am okay with it because she is able to handle him and i could not which is why i left him so obviously she deserves him much more than i do.

So how did i move on?
It took me three whole years of blaming myself for not treating him well enough until i met a guy who made me realise that it was not my fault but my ex's. He loves me so much and all his efforts for me made me realise that maybe he could have also treated me better after all i was not the only one is relationship.. now it's been a year with this guy and everything is so good with him.. no insecurity.. no more thinking that i am not enough.

And the conculsion was.. we were not meant for each other we were different and wanted different things from a relationship.. neither he is bad nor am i we were just not a match now we are both happy with our respective partners. So it is never about looks but the heart.. my heart was not happy with that good looking with best grades and good in sports guy... but i am so happy with my boyfriend who may not be best at other perspectives but he is the best for me... and so is the case for my ex he was not happy with me although i was one of the prettiest girl in my school but he is super happy with her girlfriend. So this was my story.. i believe you too will have a similar ending so i shared it. 💕

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

By being busy. ❤️ Learn playing a new sport or hobby, travel, or hang out with the friends or fam.

[elizamichale1]

By ignoring any thoughts about them n by engaging urself in something fun

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry about that

[In_Trance]

Therapy