Lost my wife of 7 years with 2 kids, having trouble co-parenting because I didn't want things to end?

[Anonymous]

I was a heroin addict got together in 2017, ended up getting pregnant and stopping my addiction and was clean for 5 years but a year ago I relapse because of pain ended up in a coma for 30 days. Getting married in 2020 and having another kid, we switched focus off us and I believe that was our downfall. My 30 day coma gave her some type of PTSD. going to marriage counseling seem to help in March and April but then we bought a place to fix up down south close to her family because our current place was reminding her of the month that she thought I was dead, and we were supposed to resume therapy after, however someone that she said was just friend with she ended up leaving me for after just a week after completing the new house. But while we were working on it we were talking about things about the place and nesting and I thought that we were generally going to work things out.

Anyways I just saw them kissing and cuddling in front of the sink of the place we completely remodeled together, while I was trying to video chat my kids and I don't know what to do. This new guy makes a good amount of money but I feel like he got in between our failing marriage and pushed the insecurities of my addiction to my exwife and was forced to divorce. Even temporarily had a protection order against abuse of rape that is completely false put against me to help force the papers.

I lost full custody of my kids with just visitation rights but don't have to pay any child support.

I really just want my family to be together still, what do you think of the situation and what should I do?

Updates

7 mo

I did clean up and I got married, I had one slip up, and still lasted another year after that , while she developed feelings for somebody else... I don't know why she did this now I'm grieving alone, Don't even want anybody else when she has someone else

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Clean up your act and stay on course.

You'll get better and they'll see that.

Who knows but you might not even want her back, later on.

Just be there for your kids, at least.

[Iron_Man]

I’m sorry for your situation, but you’re gonna have to go through the courts and find a way to see your children talk to a social worker if you can find one they’re very difficult to reach though

[Abbycado]

That really sucks since you want to co-parent. Not really sure what you can do other than maybe give it a little time.

Then ask her to sit down and really talk about how you can make it work.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but that ship has sailed.