What am I supposed to believe if my ex girlfriend broke up with me due to my apperance?

[Anonymous]

So my ex girlfriend broke up with me because of my personality she felt she could do better looks wise and was only with me for my personality. My girlfriend was about average in looks she really didn’t do much to take care of herself and was overweight. The strangest stuff has started to happen though after this breakup I have noticed women that are in shape and could be 7s or 8s checking me out so what do I believe because this has been massively confusing. Some of these women see me out with my dog and smile at me

[ohsheeT]

Well when you go to bed tonight thank God or thank you Angels whoever for allowing this to happen because you're just part of the stepping stone..

Because the last guy that she ends up with he is going to be miserable she's just working her way up the ladder you can be happy that you're part of the ladder it depends on if you're positive or negative about it

She's never going to be happy but she just keeps moving up the ladder moving up the ladder until one day some guys going to do it to her and she will not have any guys because of the person that she became by the way that she treated everybody all the guys that she's gone through

So like I said I would think her even for doing what she did because she's not going to be worth anything one day but anyway

Do you like your..
The way you look your. appearance

And be honest with yourself it's not a big deal just be honest with yourself and if you feel like you can do a little bit of work then step into it all the way and do a lot more than a little bit I mean workout eat better foods take better care of yourself because one of these days you're going to run into her again and when you do you want to look your best no matter how rugged have dirty have whatever you are you want to look your best and just say I seen you have a good day bye... That would be the start of her downfall and it'll be your Awakening to who you want to be but first things first take a good look at yourself and just be 100% honest no matter what

And go from there you can't change what she's done or what she said the best way to get through it is accept it and move on fast but do it in a. Motivated way

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn bro, that's rough what your ex said to you. No one deserves to be told they aren't good enough just because of how they look. But don't you believe that shit for a second.

It sounds like she might have had some insecurities of her own if she was pointing fingers at your appearance. Maybe she was just looking for an excuse to break things off. Either way, fuck what she thinks!

The fact that you're now noticing even hotter girls checking you out shows that her opinion doesn't matter. Confidence is way more important than looks anyway. Clearly these other girls see something in you - maybe your personality like your ex said, or maybe they just think you're cute.

I wouldn't read too much into it, just take it as a sign that you've got way more to offer than just your looks. Don't lose that newfound confidence now! Keep being your funny, cool self and put this breakup behind you. You'll find someone even better who appreciates you for who you are, inside and out.

[HollyK21]

Well, I definitely wouldn’t believe that. I mean what, are you supposed to internalize her opinion and make it your identity? Absolutely not. People say hurtful and awful things to tear someone down when they’re upset or hurting, that’s why when your ex or anyone else says hateful shit like that you just let it roll off your back. All you should be believing in is what you think of yourself, because it’s all that matters when everything is said and done.

[Asker]

Why would she be hurt though

[HollyK21]

Depends on the circumstances of your breakup, along with how she was feeling during the relationship, or at least the end of it. I pay close attention to what exes (of all kinds) do after cutting ties, it says a lot about how they actually felt. Since you ex is choosing to put so much emphasis on looks, I think it shows that she has some insecurities of her own going on. This is just projection on her part, but not something for you to internalize.

[Asker]

Well she was physically and verbally abusive and what triggered the breakup is I stood up to her abuse. She was bullying me in my car and I told her to exit and she walked home and called her mom breaking up with me.

[HollyK21]

Then it’s no surprise she’d say more verbally abusive things. You already know that’s how she rolls, so why would you even consider those things to be true? She tore you down on purpose, that’s how her sick mind works. Sorry you had this experience in any case, no one deserves that.

[Asker]

Well the thing is she has spent so long tearing me down that you just start to believe it

[Nikki1989]

Looks are subjective. Average according to whom?

You sound like an immature, insecure man with an axe to grind.

[Asker]

No this isn’t being immature this women had so many flaws she also constantly verbally and physically abused me then discarded me like I was nothing. My ex girlfriend didn’t do very much to take care of herself her family constantly admitted she was overweight she would eat full containers of ice cream, full big bags of chips. She did as much as she could to demean by appearance she stated that she would easily be able to find someone before me. She constantly called me bitch and nuisance overall I internalized so much from this relationship that it has stuck with me to the point where I wonder what’s real and what’s just in my head

[Vanny20]

Physical appearance or features shouldn't determine a relationship, what matters most is the Heart, the Heart of any individual individual is most paramount