Why won't he block me?

[K3K32024]

Been talking to this guy for 5 years now, I'm really in love with him he was there for me during the most hardest times of my life, he told me loved me multiple times I figured we were ok, but I found out he's been talking to a number of females online and this is killing me inside. I'll hit him up and he'll ignore me and message me whenever he wants but he's been distant. I'm very depressed at this point and I can't stop contacting him because I'm emotionally attached. I asked him yesterday to block me so I can heal but he said he won't do it. I feel like I'm losing my mind, I'm very hurt. How can I move on from this without him giving me access to him? I know some will say just move on or just block him woman up but I can honestly admit I can't I love him too much. How can I move on from this? Is it wrong that he won't block me? Thanks for hearing me out.

[Anonymous]

Why would he? He has nothing currently to gain by blocking you. And he may or may not have something to lose. Also who says he loves you? He did? Does thar make it so? I could say that. I love you! See how easy that is. Does that mean I do? I don't even know you. The FACT is you don't deliberately hurt somebody you claim to love. If he truly cared about you he would understand this causes you pain. But he doesn't care or at least he doesn't care more than the pleasure he gets from seeing you on the hook, twisting in the wind. You've CREATED this narrative in you head based on some things he's said. And because you so want it to be true you cling to this false reality. EVERYBODY has done this at one time or another in their life. You think it's love. But actually it's a love drug. A cocktail of love drugs in your head of norepinephrine, dopamine, and serotonin. These hormones lie to you. They tell your brain to love this guy when every bit of info. You're receiving from him right now should tell you not to.

I'm not laughing AT you. But I am laughing because it's so obvious to EVERYONE you shouldn't be giving two 💩's about this guy. But we all understand WHY you're behaving in this HIGHLY ILLOGICAL way. We've all been there before. I had a ladyfriend who's husband left her and she went completely off the reservation about it. I could of told her she was WAY out of his league. I could of told her she's the type of woman guys look their whole life for, and I would have been telling the truth. But she wouldn't have heard it. Because she wanted him.

[K3K32024]

Thank you for your brutal honesty, he messaged me yesterday and we talked. He still says he loves me. How can a man say he loves a woman if he truly doesn't? love isn't a joke. I believe he's just not ready to truly be with me and I've taken that into consideration. I ask myself, is this love or limerence? I can't tell, but I know deep down I love him with all of my heart and soul and always will. I think its best if I just let it be and not contact him on my end. Thanks again.

[Opinion Owner]

The same way women can't flirt with guys yet have no attraction towards them at all. Nobody said this was a joke. Just a game and unfortunately both genders play it. I PROMISE you there are women doing this to him and he don't like it either. Welcome to the world of dating, where little is what it seems.

Never get too attached to someone until they give you VERY GOOD reason to. That's my motto. It's OK to really like someone but never love someone unless they are TRULY worth bleeding for (metaphorically speaking).

[melnc]

You need to wake up. He’s not committed to you, and his actions show he doesn’t respect your feelings. Stop wasting your time on someone who keeps you on the back burner. Block him yourself and focus on moving forward. You deserve better than this mess.

[_Maya_]

It isn't "wrong" that he doesn't block you. That is his decision and his choice. I am assuming he is around your age and therefore doing the adult thing by not playing the blocking game. I think the bigger issue is that you say that you want him to block you but you can't block him. Why? Does it make you feel better if he does it? Will you feel better? I bet you won't. You need to take matters into your own hands and deal with this like you are 33 and not 15 with a crush in school. Moving on is hard. It is never easy but one universal truth is that it takes time. Depending on how deep your feelings are (they sound deep) the longer it takes. You need to keep yourself occupied with other things. It is easier said than done but nonetheless it is what you are going to have to learn to do. You are the only one that can cope with this. There is not magical cure.

[K3K32024]

Thanks for your reply. Personally this has nothing to do with age. If he asked me to block him and I didn't have feelings for hiim anymore and he did I would do it in a heartbeat. Love is nothing to play around with. I find it selfish that he won't block me and wants to contact me on his time. Why leave the door open? I can not block someone I love. But you are right I need to move on. Thanks again.

[_Maya_]

It takes time. It isn't going to be easy but the more time that goes by the easier it gets to let go.

[K3K32024]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[HelpfulWoman]

YOU can block him. Your feelings are OBVIOUSLY not something he gives a shit about.

[K3K32024]

I have blocked him for 2 weeks and I unblocked him. Its really hard. Its fine Im going to try and get through this, Thank you.

[Stevepro68]

Relationship and attachments are always complicated. It seems like you've made the decision to ride this out in flames and are looking for confirmation that what you are doing is right. Which means you know it is unlikely to end the way you want. Disengage from this guy if you can. If not understand it's probably not going to end well for you.

[ProbablyClueless]

Is it possible for you to change something up in the way you live your life? Maybe hangout with new friends, try a new hobby, or something along those lines?

Unfortunately, it's pretty tough to get someone to do something if they don't want to do it. You asked him to block you, but he refused to because he simply doesn't want to. Free will can be very frustrating that way, but other people have the right to decide whether they will do what you're asking them to do.

[K3K32024]

What would be the reason not to block someone if they constantly reach out and you want nothing to do with them. Isn't that annoying? I want to move on and I need closure its not fair on my end when he can do what ever he wants and I'm stuck with these feelings.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not sure... maybe he's just a dick. What does closure look like specifically for you? Personally, I would find getting hit up all the time annoying too, but some people enjoy the attention, some people simply don't care.

[K3K32024]

You are right, Im going to go MIA. Im really breaking down from all of this, Its extremely painful I couldn't even go to work today i just want to get through this. Thank you so much for your reply.

[ProbablyClueless]

Happy to help! Best of luck

[boggboss]

Why do u expect him to block you when he is happy with the situation and doesn't care how it effects u

[K3K32024]

what is he happy with?

[boggboss]

Having u as a girl he can get attention from as he pleases and then go off to other women when he wants

[K3K32024]

Damn 💔

[boggboss]

U need to start doing what's best for yourself and not hoping others will care to treat u right if u don't block him and move on this cycle you are in won't end

[K3K32024]

5 years though. This sucks! I'm not a female who gets around I dont talk to other guys I work I do what I can to be a good woman but he doesn't want that and I really needed to hear this today its really a wake up call. I will not contact him anymore.

[In_Trance]

For the same reason you haven't blocked him