Those of you who have cheated, what made you stop?

[Anonymous]

I have to admit, when I was younger I cheated on my then boyfriend a lot. He would cheat back as revenge and then I would also cheat again. It was a vicious and toxic cycle. We broke up, it was surprisingly amicable, we even remained friends for a while. I also vowed to never cheat again because the last time I cheated, my ex cried and it finally woke me up to how toxic I was being. So for those who have cheated, what made you stop?

[Finchie40]

I cheated once when I was younger , and i immediately realized it was selfish of me to do , even though my girlfriend at the time was an asshole towards me and treated me like shit , I pretty much used that as an excuse to cheat on her with another girl that was hitting on me and flirting with me. So immediately after I cheated , I ended my relationship with her and told her the truth about what I did , She cried and was sad but she forgave me and wanted to work things out with me , I told her No , and told her she is best to find someone. that won’t cheat on her. I feel bad for what I did , so at that moment I never cheated again , if I am unhappy in a relationship I end it before pursuing someone else

[Anonymous]

There was this one female idiot who I remember vividly who was 20 years old who thought it was a good idea to get a guy to cheat on his current girlfriend with her then she’d be happy….. Her friend told her “DON’T because if he’s willing to cheat on you, he’ll do it again. You are encouraging bad behavior and it’ll be your fault”. He cheated on her. Wonder who could’ve saw that coming right? Really stupid people out there, moral: Don’t cheat and don’t encourage people to cheat because it’ll only end up bad for you also when someone is in a relationship leave it at that.

[Asker]

Cheating should never be normalized. I cheated and I wish I could turn back the time to stop myself from making that mistake.

[Opinion Owner]

Well we all gotta learn from trial and error sometimes, even when we are the founders & correctors in the situation. You have matured and have grown as a person, happy for you!

[Asker]

Yes, it was a big lesson that I needed to learn. I got cheated on in my next relationship so karma was served

[MissTrix]

Nothing my friends with benefits ended things. My ex girlfriend was so asexual but like and say she was not. It was a bad relationship and I finally ended it after feeling like she was more happy with friends then alone with me.

Next relationship never felt the need to cheat cause my needs were being met and was happy!

[jahaims]

Trash

[MissTrix]

@jahaims yes she was

[Smashingdoozy]

The only time I cheated was when I was in a long distance relationship when I was like 15. I just kissed another guy, confessed to it immediately because I felt so awful. Never did it again.

The times I've been cheated on from what I know the only thing that made them stop was getting caught and dumped.

[Asker]

I’m glad that you owned up to your mistake and grew from it!

Sadly, some people just learn to hide their infidelity better after getting caught… A guy that I dated got caught cheating with his ex, he told me that he stopped but he cheated again a few months later still with his ex lol

[ohsheeT]

I've never cheated but I'm more curious on what made you cheat because I would think that it would be deeper than a revenge or just doing it out of spite

Everything that it would have to do with more pleasure or excitement

[Asker]

We were long distance and was growing apart, I suggested for us to end things but he refused. We barely talked so I felt stuck and lonely. I ended up kissing another guy at a party and immediately told my ex, surprisingly he said he wanted to keep things going but then he cheated as revenge lol. We stopped the revenge cycle when I moved to his state for college.

[ohsheeT]

So have you become closer

And if so do you think it's because you both want that or do you think because where you're at you don't know anybody else so you rely on each other

[Asker]

It never felt like I was in a relationship while we were long distance. He was too busy playing video games to even talk on the phone with me so I just felt so alone. We met like once/twice a month in person but it was mostly me traveling to him. When we lived closer to each other, it finally felt like we were in an actual relationship so it made it easier for me to commit because it finally felt all “legit”.

[ohsheeT]

Yeah one of the best things about a relationship is that touch that energy between the both of you when you're looking at somebody's eyes and you can feel their words as they're talking to you without saying one word when you cuddle in bed when you slowly kiss her lips gently down to her neck I mean you have to fill those to feel like you are in a committed relationship we all want to feel and experience things and it's like the more you experience it the more you want it and when you know how to become one with somebody it is the most beautiful feeling in the world it's beautiful it's intense it's every emotion you could ever feel
But I know what you mean I've been in a couple long distance relationships and I mean everything that I just said above I can make her feel that because of energy and I feel that but it just drives me crazy because you're both right there so close and you can feel so many things happening but it's that physical touch so I kind of know what you mean yeah I miss that too

[Asker]

You’re on point. A relationship do require physical touch one way or another and the “energy” that you were speaking off can definitely fuel the relationship even if you’re miles apart. But it’s still a two way street. My ex was very passive and never reciprocated that energy which is why it wasn’t working

[ohsheeT]

Yes you're right I need energy depending on where you're at is just or more important than physical touch because I could be on the west coast you're on the East Coast and I guarantee it you would feel my energy from here and it would absolutely mail you that's even like speaking on the phone it's that vibration of voice that energy through the voice and you can actually feel it touching you and I would say even if you don't want it to LOL.

And of course yes those parties have to be willing and wanting because that just in itself when both are in tune is a catalyst is a melting moment
Yes when two people can become one and I mean become one it is just the most absolutely is beautiful feeling ever I love physical touch but energy is so important with everything I do

[OlderAndWiser]

I have never cheated, but I have been the victim of cheating twice.

[Asker]

Oh no. I hope you’re with someone loyal and emotionally mature now, you don’t deserve anything less than that

[OlderAndWiser]

I married on April 27 to a wonderful, loyal woman.

[Asker]

That’s wonderful to hear, I wish the both of you luck and a lifetime of happiness!

[OlderAndWiser]

Thank you.

[Med_guy1978]

It's a tough one! Why do people do it I've asked myself, different reasons I guess. Some people like to have a good secure partner at home and then fulfil fantasies with random strangers or a friends with benefits... Some just cannot stick to one person. Others don't intend to but meet that person and trip. I guess you can go quite deep into it.

[Asker]

Yeah I guess some people just aren’t meant to be monogamous, they just gotta find a partner that shares the same values

[Med_guy1978]

Yeah I guess... But all castles can be conquered. I think when you really fall for someone you can change.

[Asker]

Well this guy I dated told me that he’s never cheated and that he was madly in love with me which is why he ended up cheating lol. He’s still going after me now which I find really weird… but I think some people do require different wake up calls for them to finally snap out of it.

[Med_guy1978]

He couldn't have been madly in love with you, it's not worth the hassle but you have to put your self in the right mindset. DM me if you like.

[Asker]

That’s what I figured as well. You live and you learn I guess

[leahzrc]

Being with a cheater had opened my eyes to what a terrible liar and narcissistic person you grow into. I don't want to grow into that. He couldn't keep up with all his lies. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[QuietRunner]

@leahzrc glad you could move on

[lightbulb27]

no, but here's quite a story of cheating.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muhammad_Ali#Personal_life

Not even George Foreman's punches nor Allah nor anything... too much temptation.

The answer is possibly, disease and death.

can't help but provide, I was reading up on boxing.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Cheaters always a cheater is the mentality I stick by, I don't know how anyone can truly rely all their trust on someone that has done such betrayal before, can they even truly stop, the answer is unknown.

[Asker]

I don't know I do think some people can change. I’ve never cheated again in my next relationships, I was just dumb and stupid back then and very immature. I learned my lesson after I saw the heartbreak in my ex’s eyes and after I got cheated on in my next relationship. Karma got to me lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

I guess change Is possible but I don't believe change really changes the fact that you are a cheater if you have already cheated before, I believe the title sticks once the action is done, although you might have changed your ways I dont think that takes back the actions youve done, it's good to learn from experiences and I'm sure now you are a better person than you were then cause you decided to change those ways, although for some it might not change anything when it comes to trust. 🤔

[Asker]

Makes sense. That’s why I always tell my new partner about my cheating in the past, that way they can decide on their own if they want to trust that I’ve changed. I know that I’ve changed and have remained fiercely loyal ever since but it’s up to the guy to decide if they want to put their faith in me. I’ve also dated a guy who confessed that he cheated in the past. I chose to trust him because I thought he’s “reformed” like me but oh no, he ended up cheating multiple times 😂

[ChicoFromThe305]

Then you surely see my point on what I mean, I guess it's good youve made changes, if you remain loyal now that's a good thing indeed, I actually respect that you bring it up to people you date and put it out there and give them the opportunity to make the decision on their own, it shows you truly own up to it and aren't trying to be deceiving about it, fair enough

[Asker]

Yes I think it’s only fair for my new partner. I’m just hoping that I can find an honest guy later on. But thanks so much for sharing your opinion!

[ChicoFromThe305]

well I hope you find a partner, hopefully things work out and stuff, and no problem.

[Anonymous]

I revenge cheated because my husband knocked up a mutual friend. Her and her husband couldn't get pregnant because her husband was infertile, low sperm count. Mine knocked her up while I was in another state cause my brother died. I returned to find out about all this.

[Asker]

Oh man that’s rough… I hope you’re able to heal and move on from this. The revenge cheating is justified in this case in my opinion

[Oldschool1981]

TBH, I don't mind if the woman I'm with dates other guys. My wife's former boyfriend broke it off with her after three years because he was married with kids. So, that ended that. My wife was sad but understood. Now, she seeing another guy but it's just a fling.

[overlord337645]

cheaters rarely change there ways and if they do it takes a lot of commitment as i would say 1 in every 100 cheaters actually change

[Asker]

I was a cheater when I was young and insecure but I’ve grown up and learned. Karma got to me as I also got cheated on, I needed that because it gave me a wake up call. Never cheated ever since. Having been a cheater in the past, I also know the things to look out for, even a simple “hi” from the opposite gender can lead to a slippery slope. I just know what to avoid now I guess. Commitment comes in easy to me now.

[overlord337645]

for me it is hard all of my freinds are girls and a ton of people think because of that i am either a cheater or I date them all in a polyamorus relationship :(

[Asker]

Oh having tons of female friends would definitely be a major cock block sadly :(

[Nikki1989]

I have never cheated, but men have cheated on men, and I have never known many other men who have cheated on their wives and girlfriends.

It is rare when they change their ways.

[foxsquirrell]

Its a pity that girls like you don't come with signs on there head saying that they are cheaters so that you do not get any love at least from guys who genuinely have feelings for you. You B...

[Asker]

I tell every guy that I’m dating that I cheated in the past, I let them decide if they want to take the chance with me. I know full well that I’ve learned my lesson and I won’t cheat again but it’s up to them whether or not they want to trust me or not. I’ve never cheated again ever since

[Danny_dan92]

Did it once. Realized it was the wrong way to go about it.

[Asker]

Proud of you for learning your lesson!

[Danny_dan92]

Yep, I realized it was smarter to just break up

[DrPepper12]

Getting engaged? Lol. We got bored with that cycle too n grew up.

[Asker]

I guess some people like you and me just needed to flush out our immature and toxic tendencies to cheat lol

[AmeerX]

I never cheated but you can say the legendary slap to name of love is when a girl who said she loved him married a rich guy in comparison. They had been girlfriend boyfriend for 5.5 years and then in Covid 19 all love went away.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who sleeps with married man because their experience

[Opinion Owner]

From what she told us

[Asker]

I mean most non married men are also experienced, not sure why she’ll go after married men specifically. Maybe she likes the thrill idk…

[Anonymous]

I have never cheated and never will. I would never want to cause anyone the pain I felt when my ex cheated on me.

[Crazzyyworld]

Everybody cheated on me that’s how I got into prostitution

[Bklynbadboy12]

Wow so men cheating on you drove you to prostitution. Sound interesting would you like to share your story

[Tomisworthless]

I can't cheat, nobody wants me to begin with rofl

[HusamRocks]

I am more intrested in why did u cheat on him?😁

[Asker]

We were long distance and was growing apart, I suggested for us to ended things but he refused. We barely talked. I cheated and immediately told him, he said he wanted to keep things going but then he cheated as revenge. We stopped the revenge cycle when I moved to his state for college.

[Anonymous]

It was costing me too much money.😆

[Asker]

Cheating is definitely not cheap

[Anonymous]

Usually it would be ejaculation

[moneymagnet24]

I'm fuckboy I don't cheat 🤌

[msc545]

Boredom, or getting caught usually did it.

[Jmmmfi4]

SOME GIRLS MAKE ME FEEL HAPPY TO BE SINGLE

[Anonymous]

Got syphilis.

[Asker]

Oh yeah that oughta motivate you to stop…

[Opinion Owner]

It happened twice so I didn’t learn from the first time. You have to get this huge injection of penicillin and the needle is thick like the drinking straw they give you for a soda. It’s fucking painful.

[Asker]

Ouch… lesson learned I hope

[Anonymous]

Orgasm