Best things to do after a breakup that can lead to her wanting to be back with you?

[Anonymous]

So let's say a couple have had a really good relationship over all and well alright I'll be honest. I just got broken up with and yeah I know no one cares or likes long distance relationships but it's the best relationship I ever had in my life. And basically the reason for her cutting it off was because she felt like I wasn't doing better and didn't have a spark or drive passion in life besides her, and the distance was hard to deal with. Which I tried to tell her multiple times that I am working to improve myself and help us close the distance as we work together on it.. but I guess the flame just died out from the exhaustion of her life and work.. I dont know she felt unsure of breaking it off too because she said she loved me and wanted to be with me but I guess this just was a bit much as she was still also wanting to improve herself too, so she felt like it was for the best for me and her to I guess break it off and focus solely on improving ourselves it's just.. all of it just made me hate myself and I hardly have any motivation for anything because it feels like she's gone for good and nothing I improve will make her rethink the break up

[Summeroflove]

What’s the best thing to do? Let someone go. If it’s meant to be she will come back on her own. You can’t force someone to want you and even if you did that wouldn’t be genuine.

Now Idon’t know if you really weren’t contributing or if she just had unrealistic standards. But regardless you didn’t seem happy with one another anyways.

The best thing to do is grieve the loss and move on. Find someone else and then if she’s the jealous type will probably come back seeing you found someone. But by that time hopefully you moved on.

Wish her well ir she’s a good woman hope she finds someone who better fits her needs. So that you can do the same thing.

[pongo]

Ignore her. Work on you. Focus. Be more ambitious and driven than ever before.

Here's the thing... Time will keep going no matter what, right? Bug her each day for two weeks and she will be fucking gone! Ignore her and focus on yourself and in two weeks, she will be at your door.

Dont give up on yourself. Period. You are it.

[Anonymous]

Why do u want her. U clearly didn’t value her when u had her

[Asker]

She told me I put too much effort into doing things for her that she felt i wasn't doing enough for myself and not taking care of myself enough.

[Opinion Owner]

Why u like her

[Asker]

She loved me in every way i wished a woman would loved me. She was honest had very good morals, was genuinely comfortable and happy with me and supported me, she was open with me about anything that went on, anytime I asked her if she thought of being with any other guy she always told me no she only wanted to be with me. We got matching tattoos together for valentines day, we wear matching bracelets, I gave her a necklace with both of our names engraved into hearts right after I asked her if she would like to be engaged to me and she said yes and she always enjoyed being with me and my presence when we were able to see eachother in person. She mattered to me. And she showed in all ways that i mattered to her which is why she showed me around her town and where she growed up at and introduced me to her family and I introduced her to my family as well. She was just perfect to me

[Opinion Owner]

How does she look

[Asker]

Stunning and beautiful and she called me handsome

[Opinion Owner]

How do u both look? Heights?

[Asker]

Okay I mean I'm not tall I'm like around 5'8 and she was 5'6

[Opinion Owner]

If u really messed it up with her it means u didn’t like her that much in the first place

[Asker]

Well i didn't intentionally mess things up with her. But it does make me question why some girls would leave a guy that she honestly admits treated her well and felt truly loved by

[Opinion Owner]

Why u love her