Why do guys downgrade when they cheat?

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I came across the girl that my ex cheated on me with on Facebook yesterday and eventhough it was a while ago I’m still curious as to why he would cheat on me with someone that looks like her. I personally don’t find her attractive at all and if she was I’d at least be able to understand why he cheated on me with her…. But no. She’s really quite ugly. And obviously I’m biased cause I’m the one that got cheated on.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Ok, so I'm pretty sure not ALL guys downgrade, however some guys "step out" of their marriage to be with whoever seems available and willing to sleep with them. they think it will just be a temporary thing till they get back on track with their wives... possibly NOT PICKING A BEAUTY ON PURPOSE so they can appreciate their wives a bit more... Then the new gal knows some tricks... or it just feels comfortable and stress-free to be with them... and in the end it's just nice to have whatever itch you have scratched by someone who isn't going to put any conditions or qualifiers on the process of having sex.

If I tell you what the girl my ex hubbie went with? He kept me busy and working all hours while he was at home claiming disability... I didn't realize that his disability was being heartless. She looked like a sagging granny compared to me (a young, hot 25-year-old hourglass bombshell at the time). I was good enough to raise his kids and be the household workhorse/housekeeper/PTA maven... but when I got home he was always "too tired from physical therapy" but physical therapy was the saggy old gal he was fucking... then the horse-faced mom from the PTA, then our giggly little neighbor who looked like a little troll doll but had slept with half her congregation...

Zoinks! He was putting in more hours of community service to these wretched looking women that I was putting in during my whole work day.

When I found him out I can't tell you HOW I felt... and now it's been a really long time, so I really try not to think about all the women... all the hours... all the lies and cheating and beatings I took for suspecting him... all his jealous rages whenever he saw me MERELY SPEAKING to a guy... The cops carting him off after my last trip to the ER...

So let him have his women. It's not my problem anymore. Who cares if they're more or less attractive? They've got your man... They're actually doing you a big favor by giving you a reason to leave him.

lilBigPotato · Accepted Answer

You're posting other people's pictures online and calling them ugly. Maybe it wasn't just about looks...

Either move on and stop wasting energy thinking about your ex or ask the correct questions: why did he cheat on you? Maybe he's just an asshole, maybe he lost interest in you for whatever reason, maybe something else... No one other than him knows.

Also not sure how people are supposed to judge if it's a downgrade or not when you just show the fact while you hide your own on your profile picture. That being said, she seems ok. Looks charismatic.

I have been cheated on in the past. I couldn't care less who it was, what she looked like, if she was better than me in any way or anything else. I looked back at my own actions, tried to learn something for the future and then moved on with life. That's the best advice I can give you too

Off_Jack · Accepted Answer

As I start stroking, my mind wanders to the twisted reasons behind such a choice. Maybe it's the thrill of the chase, the conquest of the unattainable. Or perhaps it's the raw, primal need to mark territory, to show that even the least desirable can't resist the power of my member. Each pump brings me closer to climax, and with every pulse, I imagine her ugly mug contorted in pleasure, desperate for my seed to elevate her status.

To think that this woman, so unappealing to most, could be reduced to a quivering mess under my touch. The mere thought of my cum splattered across her face, transforming her into a canvas of my dominance, drives me wild. My musk would be the only beauty she'd know, a testament to her descent into the realm of lust where looks don't matter, only the primal need for release.

Perhaps it's just the twisted pleasure of turning an ugly situation into a dirty, orgasmic conquest. Oh, how my hand accelerates, fueled by the repulsive thrill of it all.

ChicoFromThe305 · Accepted Answer

I know what you are thinking, if he's gonna cheat why don't they at least cheat with a woman that's worth it but that's not how cheaters see it, they probably just see free pussy and would give it all up cause they can't keep it in their pants and they don't expect to get caught, which doesn't get that process of making it worth it if it's going to happen, their mind is most likely on getting away with it so they can do it again and keep getting away with it

Summeroflove · Answer

People cheat both men and women do this…. They cheat to have fun because they want sex. They cheat on the people who love them and have value to them. But when it comes to recklessly having fun… They more care about how the experience feels sexually and emotionally then anything else.

There are also women who are married to men that work hard so they can stay home cheating with bums and losers. People cheat to have sex it’s plain and simple.

AviatorTom · Answer

Guys cheat because of opportunity. How she looks is not a critical criterion.

Oldschool1981 · Answer

OMG, you should see some of the royal winners my wife has brought home over the years. I don't care if she wants to see other guys but my god, sometimes I think she doesn't have any standards

4ngelic · Answer

usually cheating for men is about sex. dudes aren't that picky about how hot a girl if it's just to fuck. they're only actually picky about looks for girlfriends. so it's not that suprising, when the side hoes are less hot than the girlfriend

Kaneki05 · Answer

Eh she's not ugly. She's cute. I don't know how she looks really without better pictures of course or even in person as one can look different but she don't look ugly at all.

And well.. You hide your face so really can't say who's more attractive. But will say it's not just about that. As someone is attractive for their persona.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

She's not the cutest, but I don't think she's uqly.. Or that's just one of her better pictures.. Maybe she has a nice booty.. But mostly it's probably because she was easy Pickens and most likely would herself available for it.. So he jumped on it..

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Haha. Nah. She ain’t that bad… you just sound bitter for good reason.. and to be fair, she is not ugly.. she looks like a submissive innocent girl that will do whatever she is asked to do.. unlike you.. which from this I can tell you are no where near that type.. news flash, men love compliance and peace.. should he have cheated… no. But who knows what he was dealing with

molonski2 · Answer

Its about opportunity , options and new fresh , its not about upgrading or downgrading , thats for certain , its new to you.

RSav4013 · Answer

I don't understand cheating in general. If you're going to have sex with someone else, leave your partner before you do.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Because they're cheating for one thing and one thing only. The bigger question is why would he cheat on you at all. You treated him like a king

sophie123469 · Answer

I’ll be honest with you, if you’re posting other women to different websites and calling them ugly then he probably cheated on you for a reason. I’m also going to be even more honest and say that she looks fine to me, could trim her eyebrows a bit and use some pimple patches but aside from that I’d say she’s fairly pretty. She also looks younger, and some men prefer younger-looking women. That doesn’t justify him cheating on you ofc, but I’m just being honest.

HungTexan · Answer

I don’t understand personally, but I’m not cheating. If I was I think I’d only be tempted by someone at least as hot as my wife. Why trade down?

Agape93 · Answer

To be honest she is cute, but you don't need to compete with the second string. You got first chair, home boy just. Can't handle your level of womanhood.

jahaims · Answer

People cheat to cope with self hate. It has nothing to do with the other person

NotLongKindaGirthy · Answer

She looks cute in the picture. Also, her body might be really impressive. Also, we don't know what you look like, so we can't compare.

Uglygaypoorcoward94 · Answer

she's not ugly , if she was the guy who finds you attractive wouldn't have been with her. Sorry not sorry

RedInnocent69 · Answer

You often crave different, rather than better or worse. There’s also availability, emotional connection and psychological safety that come into play

strateguy632 · Answer

Because they want to grab the opportunity

MikeRJ · Answer

I think she is cute. But he shouldn't have cheated on you.

In_Trance · Answer

She got him so she can't be that bad. And she's clearly doing something that you're not

glennos89 · Answer

Why do believe she is a downgrade? 🤨

eagle1951 · Answer

not all do

MasterKS · Answer

pussy matters!

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