We’ve been together 16 years, 6 months ago I found out he had been talking sexually to men online. This was devastating and broke me, I wanted to end the relationship but he said he would kill himseld if I did. We have 3 children together so I felt obligated to carry on for their sake. It was 6 months from hell following that, as I continued the relationship but my head and heart didn’t want too. Then last week I find a dating app for gay men, and on there was 100s of photos of him having sex with men, mainly in 3/4 sum situations. It was disturbing photos and he wrote a bio of what he liked (cross dressers etc)
this time I wasn’t angry, I didn’t want to upset the kids like last time and tried to keep everything as minimal as possible. I informed him I know what he had been up too and gave him the weekend to find other living arrangements. That deadline is up tomorrow but he’s refusing to leave, I have said if he doesn’t I will have to call the police and he says I will make a huge scene and it’s unfair to did that to the kids, that if he leaves he will 100% kill himself. People say he’s lying and just trying to play my feelings but I know he will do it, he will do it to hurt me and to hurt his kids, becus that will hurt me more. He’s a narcissist for sure, and even through this it’s all about him. He tries hugging and kissing me becus “he needs a hug." I have told him over and over that the rship is done but he point blank dismisses it and says we are together forever and I just need to accept that.
I rang the police for advice the weekend and without violence they can’t make him leave. I don’t want him to kill himself, my children will never get over it and it will be soul destroying for them, but mentally I’m not sure I can have him here with me, pressuring me for sex and touching me, when I don’t want it. He never takes no for an answer and will ask the same question 100 times over until I change my answer to something thay suits him.