If someone threatens to kill themselves if you break up with them, are they controlling?

[Anonymous]

Do you think that they are controlling if they threaten to kill themselves if you try to break up with them?

[Goforit1010]

They're "attempting" to be controlling. Personally, if ANYONE threatened to kill themselves if I broke up with them, they'd find me telling them, "Then I guess I'll never speak to you again." And then walk out of their life.

If they want to pull that emotional blackmail, then fine. I'll call them on it. If they TRULY want to kill themselves, there's nothing you can do about it anyway. They'll find a way - IF they're that determined.

[Asker]

This is my sister in law whom I am talking about and she took a ton of psych meds to kill herself. My brother called an ambulance and she is in 72 hour lockdown. She will kill herself...

[Goforit1010]

If she's taking psych meds to start with, many of them have suicidal thoughts as a side effect. I know she may need them, but maybe her Doc can prescribe other meds or readjust the dosage, after she's "safe" again. Definitely not a good situation. Its really difficult to find the right "concoction" of psych meds to get the brain chemistry right. Being a "she" with monthly fluctuating hormones only makes finding that right mixture all the more difficult!

I'm sorry you're going through this. My stepdaughter pulled that shenanigans on my wife multiple times. That's when we finally realized there's really nothing we could do to prevent her from committing suicide if she totally wanted to.

[drearyknight187]

I don't know about controlling, but still extremely toxic. Break up with them, but tell the police that they're suicidal, or at least someone who can help them. You don't want to be in a relationship with that person, but nobody wants them to hurt themselves.

[CHARismatic110]

They are beyond controlling. They are the worst of manipulators and dangerous.

[Aphrodite_1998]

Yes first I’d call get them help then break up with them.

[AzureGirl]

Yeah, that’s manipulative behavior.

[G3tAClue]

Yes, they are toxic and controlling.

[SlothySlob]

Yes.

[crmoore]

Absolutely