How do you initiate a breakup?

[Anonymous]

Do you do it in private, public, or just message/call them?

Which will not hurt more? Have you tried to breakup before, if yes, how?

[strateguy632]

1, in writing, by text.

2, if he hurt you do you really care about doing the breakup "not hurt more"? Just rip off the bandaid.

As tia of phil future said "we are not working , bye" and "see! painless"!.

[kitkatto]

Just like removing a band aid, you just gotta do it quick and straight to the point. Doing it face to face would be more thoughtful but the last time I initiated a break up I had to do it via FaceTime (only bc we were long distance).

It’s definitely not easy, having uncomfortable conversations are hard - but you gotta do it otherwise you’d just be stuck in the same uncomfortable situation.

[DishLady]

Don't make a scene, however don't be in an overly-isolated place. A local cafe or something is fine. Keep tones low and respectful. "I feel we've come to a reasonable crossroads and it's time to part ways." is simple enough. Don't get all caught up in some dialogue or argument over whether or not you should break up. You're there to break up and that's that.

[DrPepper12]

First, let Yoko Ono run wild in the studio...

Seriously, direct, face to face, short n sweet

Is this amicable or bye forever Felicia?

[ArrowheadSW]

Unless the person was abusive in one way or another, I would do it in person and in as friendly a manner as possible. The reason why I say friendly, is that you don't want the person to think that you are mad at them for something (unless they were abusive), and that they need to "make it right". I've known of situations where the woman made up something to show the guy that he "blew it" and therefore she has the reason to "break it off", when in reality she just wanted to move on from the relationship. And then the guy tried to go to great lengths to prove that he wasn't that bad or whatever. (Or you can switch genders. It isn't always women doing it to guys of course.)

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Slip out the back, Jack.

Make a new plan, Stan.

You don't need to be coy, Roy.

Just get yourself free.

Hop on a bus, Gus.

You don't need to discuss much.

Just drop off the key, Lee.

And get yourself free.

[FreyaRed]

There are two option.
- they expect you want to kick them
- they are completely unaware and it take a day or two until they realize you were serious.
In both cases you bring it direct without giving any chance to argue.

[WhitneySnow]

In private in person, unless you believe they’re going to hurt you, in which case in public but still in person

[Nikki1989]

Like ripping off a band-aid. It is not hard. Just get it over and done with.

[serious]

Should be always private and best done in person.

[Averagegirl2000]

In public but in private booth especially if it doesn’t go well. For safety.

[Babebytheshore85]

Depends on the situation. What happens?

[ChicoFromThe305]

There's no easier way just do what you gotta do

[MrChinaski]

Call them

[Jay-_-]

Its never easy just be straight forward.

[blackeagle007]

This depresses me

[Sluttt]

Text him

[Cormac995]

@Sluttt NO!!! Never text a break up! It's both cowardly and insulting and it cuts fucking deep. You never do a text break up unless the guy is a total POS or potentially violent.