Is it best to stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the kids?

[Anonymous]

If they have kids , one partner has wanted to leave the marriage for years , they’ve been separated for some time and met someone else that they like much more. But the other partners begs for them back.

Is it best to work on the marriage or leave?

[Anonymous]

Your kids are happy when you’re happy. Nuclear family is just an outdated facade. As an adult now I respect my mom for leaving the toxic relationship she had with my dad. I understand life’s too short, please don’t be unhappy and suffer on my behalf. I grew up just fine and don’t feel like I missed out on anything. Both parents were present just not together and that’s ok.

[Anonymous]

It depends what you mean by unhappy. No marriage is perfect, and my parents were always arguing when I was coming up. But my parents stuck it out, and not just for us. But because of them we kids got a great example of commitment. All of my sister's are married and have stayed married and they all seem pretty happy.

I guess you have to ask yourself what kind of example are you setting for your kids. For all the arguing my parents did and they appeared very unhappy to me (or at least my mom did), we still had a lot of good times. You got to ask yourself what your kids are taking away from this. Because you two are setting the standard by which they'll judge marriage, as well as the opposite gender.

[serious]

No, of course not. That is very bad way to think

[Nikki1989]

The most important factor is not whether the parents stay together, but the quality of the atmosphere in the home. If the “unhappy marriage” is characterized by frequent fighting, yelling, sarcasm, contempt, or hostility, then leaving is better.

[slatyb]

Usually it's not. If the marriage is filled with strife, it's definitely not.

[jahaims]

Yeah, show kids that living in misery is better than having healthy boundaries. Good idea

[animesenpai]

No kids can tell when there parents aren't happy. The kids don't need to be exposed to that tension.

[dudeinohio]

No it is not. Get into a new relationship and be happy.

[In_Trance]

probably not. It would set a negative tone in the minds of the children

[exitseven]

My parents did this, They did us no favors.

[MasterKS]

marriage is toxic!

[predegree_]

Not with the right people and the right effort.