Wouldn't it be great if there was a machine to make you forget the person you once loved like from the movie, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind?

[Simslover92]

After a painful breakup, Clementine undergoes a procedure to erase memories of her former boyfriend Joel from her mind. When Joel discovers that Clementine is going to extremes to forget their relationship, he undergoes the same procedure and slowly begins to forget the woman that he loved.

I wish there was a way to do that in real life. I just want to forget everything. 😢

[fish5505_87]

Sometimes those memories are useful, and sometimes pain helps guide us on our way forward. Do you want to erase all the good memories with that person as well. Not me, I'll take it as it comes. Although, the subject is tempting and if I could, I know I would have done just that if I could have!

[Simslover92]

It's just too painful

[fish5505_87]

I'm sorry to hear that. Time heals all, a wise man/woman once said. Focus on the future, one day at a time. Anyway good luck, I'm here if you want to vent, or bitch, whatever!

[Simslover92]

Thanks but I think I'm at the end

[fish5505_87]

I hope you mean the end of being upset?

[Simslover92]

No I just mean the end

[fish5505_87]

I probably reading into this too much, I honestly hope there is some satire in this? Please reach out to someone if you need help, nobody is superman/woman, we all need a helping hand at some point!

[fish5505_87]

Thanks, be well, reach out if you want.

[Still-alive]

i love that movie but honestly i would not want it, as painful as a break up is these are still lessons and experiences life is going to throw at you and eventually form you into the individual today. I felt like that was the message of the movie in my opinion anyway.

[Simslover92]

I wish I could see it that way but the harder I try to move on, the worst the pain gets for me. It's like my heart just won't move on. I wish there was something like that to help me forget it ever happened. I feel lost and that I will do something harmful to ease the pain. I just need the pain to stop.

[Still-alive]

You'll get there someday somehow. it may feel like you can't get out now but as someone who also used to feel like things wouldn't get better... they did for me. i trust it will happen for you sometime. maybe you'll meet a new guy, maybe you'll find new hobbies or friends, maybe a job will help you out. whatever it is that helps you get out i do believe it will happen and you'll take the lessons from now and the past into that future time of your life.

[Simslover92]

I'm not sure anymore. I have pills that I'm debating on taking. I don't want to take them but I'm starting not to see any other option. I'm so tired of feeling like this. It's going on 2 years.

[Still-alive]

uhh pills?

and im speaking from a perspective of someone who didn't think i'd be alive today by the way things got sooo bad for me.

[Simslover92]

That's where I'm at. Things are so bad for me that I don't see any future for me.

[Still-alive]

I urge you to seek help. there's no shame in it. i did it myself. please reach out to someone

[ohsheeT]

No not even. You have to understand in this life same as your other lives. All the people who are in your life today were in your past lives to.

Maybe as the same person maybe as a friend a father lover brother.

I believe even the people on gag that have been here for so long we have known the in our past lives to

This is why when breaking up let it go remain friends if possible you dont need to talk or see each other every day but you dont need to have a crazy break up either

It's timing we have 20 different simlovers walking around. 10 different ohshees walking around the good. The bad. The rich the poor the sad the happy in love.

This is why I always say be the best you can be it's the same with manifesting you can't just say you want it and you get it

There is no solid matter we are trillions of Particles vibrating. Into that person that we want to be can you become the best version of you that has everything..


So to answer your question is no for me I have unbelievable relationships, whether they're romantic friendships, family\n Or just people I know\n Just like you and II know that we were probably friends one time before. In one of our lives

So each day become the best version of you. You never know what will happen.

[OlderAndWiser]

You can learn much more from your failures than from your successes, so don't forget all those bastards and bitches. Hold on to those lessons that have shaped and guided you into becoming a better person!

[exitseven]

yes indeed, remember the assholes too.

[sage2021]

Yep! I've thought about that myself even without seeing the movie.

Or like when someone has broken your heart and you are lovesick, I wish there was a pill we could take to make us feel better.

Sometimes we just can't seem to forget someone who we still love but can't be with them anymore for some reason. Ya get tired of feeling that way and just want to shut it off but you can't. Maybe in time you can finally get some relief 😮‍💨 but in the meantime your machine idea would be a great comfort.

[Keyboardkat]

Nope! Yes, I got my heart broken a few times when I was young and naive. But every experience has gone to make me the person I am now. And the women who were part of my life back then are also part of who I am now. I would be giving up a part of myself if I tried to use some kind of machine to forget them. I sometimes wonder what they would think of the person I am now. And I know that they are no longer the girls they were back then, because we all mature and we all change. That's just how life is.

[sawno]

Why would I want that? First of all I am extremely against brain interfacing of any kind, I'd die before I'd allow that. Secondly, I wouldn't want to forget her or turn back time to where I wasn't with her. She gave me some of the best memories of my life, naturally I want to remember those.

[sawno]

Got a question for you, would you rather forget everything? Or would you rather remember it all but no longer feel pain from the loss?

[RandomGirl42]

I am so, so sorry you are hurting. Once I get to the other side of what makes me cry I realize I would not want to forget a single tear drop. It all makes me who I am. Self-learning can so suck, I know, but it is so worth it. No one can ever hurt me again unless I let them.

And I so love that movie. Kate Winslet was awesome.

[CuriousMufuxka]

No I can't get on board with that. To rule out the shitty times is to underappreciate the great ones. Life is a total package and what you decide to put in the box is merely a fraction of what others add inside. Like it or not.. It is what it is.

[alice55]

I don't think I would ever want to forget someone I loved even though it hurled me, I had friend backstabbing me but still w still had great moment so I would not want to forget the good memories and anyway with times we forget the bad memories and keep the good one (the pain does still comeback but still I prefer to keep my memories intact).

[Purpleronnie]

I think the only real way of doing this is to create new positive memories and not necessarily with a new partner either.


To answer the question though. I’ve been regretful of every relationship ending whether I ended it or not but the point is that they ‘happened’ at all not that they ‘ended’ It’s also true that I grew as a person with each , so NO !! , I don’t want to erase memories because they might sting a little. They serve me well as reminders !!

[TwoDecisions]

No, I actually think you grow from pain.

But oh boy do I wish they could make one for you. You keep on making your ex your entire life and then whine over you not being able to get over him. Let him fuck you. Use you. Go nuts that he doesn't treat you as the center of the universe. I mean common. Get a fucking grip.

[TwoDecisions]

Lol, that's a good one. Attention whore when she be best here.

@GirlsAskGuys isn't this reply a huge ass violation? Not that you will do anything about it.

[TwoDecisions]

Holy moly, the @GirlsAskGuys did something for once. That's a damn shocker.

[dudeinohio]

The best way now is to cut off all communication with the ex, block them and delete all their pictures. Then move on and find someone else. Worked repeatedly for me.

[MrChinaski]

I think I hear your pain. I love all my past partners. But I am, I think, the outlier.

[MikeTheBartender]

I respectfully disagree, my worst relationships made me better in the long run.

[OneViewpoint]

There is a process like that in real life. It's called time and processing your emotions. It has worked for countless people for thousands of years.

[HighValue]

Forgetting wouldn't change their past, their morals, or the mistakes they made in life. People need to accept accountability for their bad life decisions.

[AngryCarl2]

Ah yes, the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. One of the last great Hollywood movies.

[Iron_Man]

It wouldn’t be good to forget about your past, but it would be nice to take Away the pain

[FreyaRed]

Memories are important and shape the person we are. I wouldn't want lose any even the bad ones.

[Ironco]

That would be taking away who you are.

You need your past to become your present self.

[msc545]

Yeah, maybe not. It's good to remember that person and to learn from your mistakes.

[jazzy34]

No. That's a movie. Although difficult, we need the experience heartbreak teaches us.

[exitseven]

Your past makes you who you are. I want to remember it all because eventually I will be able to use it.

[strateguy632]

Or men in black! But no, because memory of good part was sweet!

[Shiprex]

Not really. That would mean losing life experience and wisdom

[Anonymous]

No because you would still be sad and in pain but you won't know why and if you run into that person and that person hates you, you'll wonder what you did wrong for that person to hate you. Or you'll forget why you hate someone so much

[LiamJHayden]

I don't lament over those who no longer wish to be with me.

[queenofcardio]

I wish. That would be amazing

[Pterodon]

No. Even the most painful heartbreak is a growth opportunity after it’s all over

[Anonymous]

Who exactly do you want to forget? You're with a new person every day.

[wkhan_87]

Yes , it was great